Trying again and hoping that it will be better

@maximax8 (27048)
June 5, 2012 10:19am CST
I didn't know if I could ever again take my disabled son to a party of one of his friends. It the first party I took him to he hated the music and flashing lights. He cried all through that party. Today I took him to his second ever party of one of his friends. Amazingly he enjoyed himself very much indeed. He was able to play in a kid's police car, go in a kid's police van, play in a Wendy house and build with colorful play bricks. We had a meal with all his friends that went well. I nearly gave up after his first party and am so glad I tried again. My disabled son is in a wheelchair. Have you ever failed the first time and had to try again? If so was it better that second time? Can you remember a party that you enjoyed or didn't like?
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12 responses
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
5 Jun 12
Gradually your disabled son is adjusting to fun and games. It is a good sign. I think soon he will give normal response to everything. Try to make him participate in all enjoyments. My sympathy is always with my friend.
@AmbiePam (45811)
• United States
11 Jun 12
That's wonderful! I'm so glad it worked out for you.
@marguicha (80397)
• Chile
8 Jun 12
Good for Leo! I think he`s growing up and learning to cope with new situations. He was a lovable child when you visited my home. Give him my love and tell him I`m proud of him.
• United States
6 Jun 12
Everything is worth a second chance!! Maybe your son was just having a bad day the first time you tried the party. If I am having a bad day I get cranky too lol. I am glad he enjoyed himself at the second party though!
@missybear (11396)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Lots of things and I'm glad you took him again to a different party. Maybe he's just not into all that loud music and noise but likes law enforcement. You never know, even in a wheel chair there might be a future in it.
@JenAC1984 (232)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Hi maximax8! I am sure glad to hear that your son had such a great time at the party! Playing with colorful bricks sounds like something my kiddos would love to do. My son is a very shy little boy, not at home, but around other people he doesn't know well. So shy in fact that when he went to his first birthday party ever, he wouldn't participate in the games at all. It was very upsetting, because I knew inside just how badly he really did want to play, but it was his "mute personality" that kept him from interacting in the games with the other chldren. I took my son by the hand and told him I would play the games with him when it was his turn. So, at first he was hesitent, but after about 3 times, he finally began to open up and be himself. I was so, so very happy! He made arts and crafts with the others kids. He played jump rope and bag toss. It was a wonderful day! I was proud of him for facing his fears. Sometimes kids just need a little bit of encouragement, as my son did at the birthday party. Thanks for such a great discussion topic! I had a lot fun.
@sajuman (1855)
• India
6 Jun 12
First of all , in you description it is clear that you are very caring father.And you did the right thing with him.you gave up because you are afraid of your son's happiness.So no problem.And for your question ,if you try more you will get more experience, may be it is bad.But experience is experience.It will be good for you and your son for the future..
@GreenMoo (11842)
6 Jun 12
I'm very pleased that he enjoyed himself. One of my kids used to hate parties when he was younger. I think there was just so much noise and he found it a little scary. However, like your son seems to have done, he grew out of it.
@SHAMRACK (8380)
• India
6 Jun 12
Dear friend, Here parties are very less, but functions and celeberations could be at times could be like parties. It was there I saw my long back school friend who came on a wheel chair I stood stucked as we both were in school cricket team, he met with a car accidents. He was there with his youngest brother, as his wife left him with his daugther as he is of no use...there I saw his smile that was still there same as before. We shared our old school stories had a happy time there... his brother cried huging me...I came to know it was long time since he had shown such happiness. Later we had a small party in his home with few of our friends. Last sunday I had been to his home...this topic just remined me of him.
@MoonGypsy (4615)
• United States
6 Jun 12
one of my friends threw a party in when i was in high school. i didn't like it at all. don't get me wrong. all my friends were there. i was just embarrassed because i had got kicked out of the school that we were in together. i was in a different school to them. i was also embarrassed about seeing them after the incident of why i got put out of school. i got through the night though. i did get a chance to enjoy many parties after that. i still never got to the point where i like it. it's too social charged for me. i guess i have been that way since i was a kid.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
5 Jun 12
Yes, I've failed many times the first time and thought of giving up after that.. but after time passes, and you suddenly try again, sometimes and most of the time it get's better. Things are always changing especially ourselves and that's always great! I've been to a few parties that I didn't enjoy... I'm just not that into social gathering I guess but when it's parties with the few of my loved ones, it's always great.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
5 Jun 12
One of my niece who is also mentally challenged was very furious in parties or when she sees the crowd of people!So her parents had literally abandoned her from going anywhere there is a gathering.This was really disturbing so my dad whom I really respect as a nice gentlemen would spend every Saturday with her taking her to the park and slowly mingling her with the crowd.After months now she is adjusted to crowds and party.Hats off dad