It is sooooo weird....
June 6, 2012 3:08am CST
Yesterday we chat, i told him that now i am happy back but i still cry whenever i think/talk about my dad. Then suddenly he asked me: Do you cry when you think of me?? I: You are not dead yet, why do i cry when thinking of you? He: Oh....you only cry for dead people and not for living people?? I: Why cry for living people? it is crazy, you alive, it means you still have a chance to be better and you can get a happiness back. My dad, i want he could be alive back but I can do nothing now.. He: Hmm... if i am dead..one day..will you cry? I: Crazy... He: It's not crazy...if i am..will u cry?? I: If you are not my husband, i won't cry. I may not cry when normal friends dead, but i will be sad He: ok....at least i know ...... He knows what? Hmmm, I really don't understand my boyfriend's thinking...I think he was foolish when asking me such questions...
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6 Jun 12
Maybe he just wanted to know how much you love him. When he say "ok, at least I know" meaning- he is trying to figure out from your response how much you love him- how much he means to you. You said "if he is not your husband you won't cry" - which I don't think so. Even if the person, especially your boyfriend is not yet your husband- you will surely cry.
6 Jun 12
I would not consider a chat/discussion like this as being foolish. If you would have give me this answer I would think you don't love me. There are plenty of people who don't cry if their partner is dying and plenty who cry if other people are dying. Crying/shedding tears is a way to give it all a place (although it's not the same for everyone). It's something you can not control. It has nothing to do with the kind of relationship you have with someone but with your own feelings. If you are able to cry when it is wanted (only if he is your husband) your feelings are, to my opinion, not for real but fake. You do it so the society can see you are sad. If I were your bf your respons would make me think, wonder and who knows I would even decide to end the relationship.