When " Friendship" turns to bullying.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
June 6, 2012 9:20am CST
I have been seeing this happen on Real Housewives of OC.If you haven't seen this week's show stop reading now! I know you are saying It is a reality show! But I wonder if this happens often. One of the wives is known for showing off her wealth and she isn't as bright as the others and yet she is as real as she can be, But the other women find her phony. So instead of having her closest friend tell her one on one they All tell her all at once. So of course she lashed out and then left. The worse thing was that her closest friend joined the rest. It is shows like this makes me feel so happy I wasn't one of the pretty girls in highschool, lol! I could see the lone wife's point of view. They are saying change or we won't like you.And she said it plainly if they see me that way there is nothing I can do. The funny thing is I have had this happen here. For some reason a ex friend seem not to see what she wanted me to change was my core and when she figured that out , she had to leave. have you had a friend want you to change who you really are?
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16533)
• China
7 Jun 12
The woman's friends including her closest friend went so far as to turn against her.What mistake she has made!Was it just because she tended to showing off her wealth and isn't as bright as them? It was too wicked that those "friends"counted on the superiority of the numerical strength and compeled her to submit.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jun 12
Believe it or not, yes that is mostly it. To them she is being phony. The problem, she is being herself. her true self. I watch and I am so happy I only talk to one girlfriend at a time!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Jun 12
I see it this way, it is hard for some people to know the real you, even when you don't hide it.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16533)
• China
8 Jun 12
It goes to show how hard it is for one to go one's own way and emerge unstained from the filth.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I relate to the fact that I was never liked because of the way I see things. I was never the popular kid, I always end against the grain. My best friend sees things just like I do, that why me and him get along all these years. But it seems everyone else always seen me as an outcast, that was fine for me and still is. I could care less what people think or say. I will never change how I think or do things for no one.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Jun 12
From the moment I walked away and ignored the crowd in 3rd grade I was an outcast to them but I had many friends besides them. And yes my friends were smarter than the other crowd . I fit right in. Funny how I saw only my friends in my Junior year. That was my best year. I Finally understood What was to happen, I had a good number of friends And the old crowd was in different classes. Until the year I met my guy and a couple in between, my junior year was the best year of my life! So I can totally understand where you are coming from! And I will keep saying this, Do not change . I love you Just the way you are. Oops I brought out the Billy Joel! But I do mean it my twin!
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
13 Jun 12
Just how real are these reality shows? I think they they were real, I'd be the star of one. LOL but I'm not the bullying type. I'm not the airheaded type. I am just a regular woman who happens to be married, and not employed right now. I think they act the way they do, because it's what the audience wants to see, although I'll never know why. I'm not lumping you in with the crazier demographic, I'm just making an observation.
If this were to happen in real life, I don't think the person would be a friend anymore. If someone bullys me they're out the dooe, regardless of how well loved they were before. This goes for friends and family!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I'm like you , once you bully me I'm gone! I believe that most people who are on these reality shows are themselves on and off camera. But there is at least one person the others think is phony or has changed. Sadly , they are not always right.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
6 Jun 12
Yes, I do have friends who acted that way, I don't like it, so we parted our ways. There is nothing I can do if someone doesn't like me at all.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Exactly. It is sad but when there is nothing to do, you should part.
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@zarasoc (110)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
I believe that is is better to have few real friends than tons of fake friends. So, if someone would like to change me for them, I do not waste my time with them.
I rather stick with those who accept me for who I am and not for who they would want me to be. It is always nice to be with friends who you know are real.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Jun 12
That is the sad part. One of these women have known her for years and felt the same way but Never took her aside to tell her how she really felt . Why? because this so called friend feared losing her! Well if you don't like the way she acts Why are you her friend in the first place? What a mess.
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