I feel like I'm a different person around my parents

Hi Courtknee. Do you live at home? I think you might be depressed and you are turning it on to your parents because they are there. Let me ask you...would you rather your parents not exist? Would you feel good if they were suddenly taken from you? I'm sure the answer is a big resounding NO. Did your parents abuse you to where you don't want to be around them? I wonder if your parents know how little you feel for them. I'm sure they don't want to make you unhappy. If you live at home, maybe it is high time you leave and start making your own life. Leave the protective nest of the parents and sink or swim on your own. I think it would hurt your parents to learn that you are happy everywhere else but you don't want to be around your parents at all. It would hurt me if my daughter wanted nothing to do with me. If that were the case I would probably give her what she wanted and get out if her life. That's just me because I refuse to be where I'm not wanted. I know your situation is nothing like mine. I don't have my own home. I list mine due to a divorce and now I live with my daughter and her hubby. The situation has changed like I'm their child instead of her being my child. You mifmght need to talk with your parents and tell them (gently) how you feel. Or maybe you could talk to a counselor about how you feel. I remember feeling so depressed that I just wanted to run away. I had all this anger inside of me that was turning in on myself. I even wished my dad would just hurry up and due to get out of my life. I ended up talking to him about it because I didn't want him going to his grave with me hating him. We actually got close enough to hug a few times. I wish now I could have him back to just give one more hug to him.

Is it possible you could rent a room somewhere and live on your own and see if it really makes you happier? When you rent a room, at least where I live, it's much more reasonable that renting an apartment. Or maybe you could find another woman who would like to live on her own and the two of you could rent an apartment together. Of course, you'd have to have a stable job to do either. As I recall, you haven't been very happy with your boss. Has that been resolved yet?

I would suggest you need to take a break for few months and live alone for sometime separately..and now is the time you start missing your parents.what you have done is you are comparing your parents to be as cheerful as your colleagues internally,but they are different , so you feel a kind of irritated with them around.

This can happen in some persons.Don't worry. You do one thing.Don't think that being silent in front of your parent is a bad thing.Don't think like that.Just think that you are happy, just in front of them you are keeping silence.And then slowly try to sort it out by finding what you need from them.Slowly talk to them.Everything will be fine.Don't take any tension.

hi.. is it possible because you are secretly afraid to your parents? hve they caused you some kind of trauma?? like maybe their words, their acts that by accident hurt your feelings?? it can happen if they have hurt you so many times without their knowing. you become annoyed of their presence..

I thought i'am the only one that feel that way. First of all, always think about you're parent's effort or their things that they had done to you, remember that if it's not for them you're not be able to stand up on your own and you'll never reach what you have now. We are almost the same since i'am also talkative when it comes to my friend and more happy with them compared to my parents or my brothers, just like you, i'am also annoyed by their presence especially if they want me to do something and thinking that i'am too lazy since i'am in front of a computer. It's like i'am a no good person. I always thinking of living in my own even i'am still studying. But i realize that i'am a different person when it comes to my family because i'am not open to them, i mean, i'am not telling them what's happening in my life unlike my friends whom i can say anything i want. Even now, i still hate talking to any of my family members not because i don't like them and in fact i'am thankful that they've been a part of my life while i'am growing up but because it became my nature and they understand that ( or maybe not :P). My only tip to you is that if you want to live on your own, do it, but remember to visit them, don't forget them or just stay with them til the end since it's you're job now to look at them.