Alright that was the last straw

By C
@ShyBear88 (16865)
United States
June 7, 2012 8:40pm CST
Well Well can you call guess what happened yesterday evening to me and my husband? No clues at all. At about 4:30 yesterday before my husband got off of work, I got a noticed at our door. Since I'm home all day long I noticed when office sends out notices normally they are things like maintenance is coming to check something or that the bug guy is coming or that something is wrong like the water and so one. Well I started reading the notice but the notice was for a late rent. Which since we have my husband cousin living with. For all you to get straight her name is on the lease so that means she accountable for the rent being on time weather it's split up or not all parties are responses. We have from the 1st to the 5th of every month to turn in our rent. We always split the rent right down the center even to the cent amount. Now we have been having issues with my husband cousin and we have tried to work it out with her and had asked for advise from my husband grandparents the one that him and his cousin share. They are good to talk to in stressful situations and we can almost trust them with almost anything weather its good or bad. When I got the notice I was very mad and I think any body would be mad upset to see a form saying that rent was late and that we need to pay almost $600 dollars as soon as possible or be kicked with the possibility of being sued if it's not paid by a certain date. My first thought was of course that my husband cousin didn't pay rent on time and either this is the 3 one that she has tired in late and I haven't been getting the notification since she comes and goes at all hours of the night and day and can easily get them before I know we have any or they are charge us for my payment being in at the boxes on the 5th after office hours. So today after my husband went and had his testing done to see what is wrong with him we came home and went to the office. We told the manger that was there today some times he isn't that we where just trying to see why we got this paper because we were not sure how's fault it is. Because if it was ours mine and my husband fault we would find away to fix and get them the money that we owe them but it was indeed my husband cousin. We didn't call or text her last night when we got the paper because one we wanted to kill her and yell at her really badly and also we wanted to make sure that our check was there indeed. So he told us yes the check that I wrote and put in the mail box was there and accounted for but other wise then that no other check is there for our apartment. The leasing office we know can not charge us by room other wise they would do that. There are places that do, do that but not all where we live and its normally more expensive by room. He made sure we knew in a nice away of course that we had to the date written on the paper and if he saw the other check he would give me a call to let me know that it has made it there. We told him thank you for all and we would make sure some how that they got the $600. Me and my husband are not paying that $600 we do not have that money and its not are part to fill of course we know if she doesn't pay by that date we will have to give them the money. We do not want to use our line of credit but we also do not want this to be on our renting history because we will not be able to rent again or buy a house for a while we would have to buy a house out of pocket no loans ever given to us and that can also affect us getting a car at time. We do not want to move back into my husband grandparents house. There is room but there are rules that we do not like to fallow. If had the money by now we would have broken the contract and given them the $3,000 or all 3 of would have split the money down the middle. We know before this happened that we didn't want to rent another year with my husband cousin so we where and are as long as we don't get kicked out once the lease is up moving to a smaller apartment to where it's just me, my husband, our daughter and son. By the time he is here our lease will be up. We have called her today. My husband got 2 rings and then the phone went to voice mail which normally means that someone has looked at there phone and either one hit the end button or hit there ignore button. She has an Iphone so I know she has the option of turning the phone over to voice mail at any number she doesn't want to deal with. We made sure to call my husbands grandparents and told them what was going on and that we tried to contract her. I've even tried messaging her sister online which is where we heard she was out since yesterday which is a lie. I saw a picture on line yesterday that she up with her mom, sister and grandparents on her moms side of the family. We know service out there sucks so some times they will get our phone calls or text but they always go straight to voice mail if you call when there is no service. Two days before rent was officially do before being finally late. I even texted my husband grandmother knowing that some times my husband cousin ignores me. She talked to my husband cousin and she was told it was covered and then on the 5th the day in the day time she asked me how much her half was and said okay. Normally that means okay I'm going to go get the money and turn it in. She is old enough to where no body has to tell her that rent is due and when is the last day its due before late. We know one other time that she had her money late and she promised us that it would never happen again. The first time it's late they don't charge you, the second time its a $35 add on and the third time they add on $97 for a late charge. The next time it happens we are kicked out no question asked no time to get money together. It's here is the date by when you need to get your all of your stuff out of that place and the police will be buy to make sure you leave the property at this time by the end of the busyness day. This is our second year renting so we know how it all works. This is my husbands cousin first year and we told her when we all moved in how it works. Now she has taken a home away from my daughter and soon to be son. This really puts a lot of stress on me and my husband. I don't need or want stress right now I'm not due for another 15 weeks. I'm trying to relax but it's so hard to relax when someone is messing up with your life but more important with my children's life and that I will not take. I will not allow anyone weather they are blood or not to, take a home and things my child needs. We have been busting our a$$ to make up for what she has been laking since she lost a really good and got a sucky one. Okay things happen people lose there jobs but right now it's hard to believe if she lost it or got fired. We don't expect her to get her act together and if I could I would take all of her stuff and throw it out the first chance I see her. I would sell everything she has in her room if it would pay for the money that me and my husband have lose over the months from her not pulling her weight. We know she owes us almost as much as one months rent here on top of the rent that she hasn't paid yet this month. Tomorrow we are going to her father who is a police officer and will not be happy once we tell him what she has done to her family and our daughter. This man has bent over backwards for me and my husband so we know he should know what his daughter has done to us and to our daughter. We would call her mother but we do not have her number and we do not know any of her friends numbers or a way to contact any of her friends to see if they know what is going on. Since she isn't here we went through her room making sure she doesn't have anything of ours in there because we noticed over the last few months that things have gone missing. Mainly all of are dishes, one phone charger, and now a set of check books. We have checked the checked books and haven't seen anything written out of those missing checks that we can not account for at this moment. We are hoping that I just missed placed those during our moved and they are some where in the house that I'm not thinking off but at the same time we think she or her friends have took them. Now with this all said you can tell I'm still kind of not happy and upset and mad about what is going on. I'm hoping that she comes home soon with the money, pays it and we talk to her parents and make her move out officially from our apartment and them make sure every month that she brings us her half of the rent plus the money she still owes me and my husband from utilities or something where her half is paid till the lease is up. Me and my husband really can not pay for both half of the rent for this place, plus the utilties and still have enough to pay our medical bills, food, diapers for our daughter and things that we still need for our son when he is born.
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3 responses
• United States
8 Jun 12
I didn't know about Daddy being a cop! Cort should just stay with her mom, have her dad or Mawmaw or both pay her half! Tell me how it goes!
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
8 Jun 12
He isn't a cop cop I can't really say what he does it's secret hush hush stuff. Her step mom is a local cop her dad does something that is cop related. Mamaw and Papaw they live off of social secret so we really don't want them to pay her half. They are all most likely to pay this months rent for her or help her pay it off but them do it for the rest of the year I don't know. That would be something we would all have to sit down and talk about with them. She should live with either her dad or her mom most likely live with her dad because it is in town and it makes it easier for her to get the rent in or at least part of it and they will make sure its in on time. Her mom I don't trust that women or like her so I wouldn't let her mom pay for it at all. Hubby is calling him this evening to see what he can do to find her or call her mom or something, because of the rent and so we don't get our butts kicked out at all.
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• United States
8 Jun 12
Let me know what happens.
• United States
10 Jun 12
I am glad you don't have her aropund Not doing what she promised. I am glad Sugar doesn't have to breath in Any of that smoke And that you don't have to worry about your credit score doing down or being thrown out. How are you feeling now? Did you get Any rest today? Oops. I'm backing off. I was about to sound like your mother!
@PageTurner (2827)
• United States
8 Jun 12
This is distressing news, ShyBear88. I am curious why you feel the need to talk to the parents of your husband's cousin?
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
8 Jun 12
Because one that is there daughter and as a parent myself if my child is messing up someone else life and that person life of there own children I would want to know. That and they are more likely to make her do what she needs to do as an adult because it does reflect on all three of us what she is doing when it comes to rent. Wouldn't you be disappointment if someone told you that your child isn't paying there rent and is at risk of messing up there credit and everyone else credit that they live with and that they will not have a home. I can't afford $600 to pay her half of the rent plus the bills and our medical bills and so on. Even though her parents aren't together I know they care every much for her and what she does and doesn't do. Yes we only might be cousin but family helps family and my husband uncle love us every much and has helped us out when we never asked them too. They paid once to get our car fixed. I want her dad to know we need help finding her to give her the chance to fix what she has done or at least all of us adults that are going to act like adults can come up with the way to get that $600 in to make up for the rent she didn't pay. Her mom is another store I don't know her well and she doesn't live in the came city as us. She lives 3 hours away which is where my husband cousin is at, but that is what we where told so she could be some where else. If she won't answer me and my husband we know she'll answer at least one of her parents.
• United States
8 Jun 12
You say that family helps family, but is sounds like you're more interested in being helped by family than by helping family, otherwise you wouldn't involve your husband's cousins parents. Your husband's cousin is an adult. There is no need to involve her parents. This is the deal you, your husband, and your husband's cousin made, not your husband's cousins father or mother.
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
8 Jun 12
So you would want us to pay her half of the rent which means using money we don't have? What would you do if you where us? Just sit around the house all day and let the other person that lives with you don't do there part and you take all the heat for it and pay there half like they didn't do anything wrong or just let them think it's okay it doesn't affect anything in any ones life that live with and get kicked out and never be able to own a house or rent again. I'm not taking the heat for her or anyone and either is my husband. Right now she has taken a home away from our daughter and we have no where to live. I don't have $600 either does my husband all of our money goes to the bills that we need to pay and they have all been paid this week and we have no money till next week. You can do what ever you want if your in my shoes. But we are going to talk to her dad and I don't care how you see if its wrong or not but when someone does this to me they are kind of no longer family we might blood ties but that is it. You don't mess with my kids come and get away with it that easy and I'm not going to jail or court because of her up as and adult. When she doesn't talk to us and tell us things and then does this there is no word I don't care what we worked out.
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
12 Jun 12
It is terrible that your cousin is doing your husband and you this way. What it seems that she doesn't understand at all is the fact that the world does not revolve around one person at all. It is part of being an adult to be able to take care of business and to be responsible and it seems to me that she is failing in this one terribly. I guess overall, you should be happy that she does not have anyone that is really depending on her.
@ShyBear88 (16865)
• United States
13 Jun 12
Oh yes I agree she is can't deal with the responsibility. She wasn't ready she thought she was but clearly she isn't. I know once the lease is up after the baby is born we are getting going back to just us because we know how it works and goes and we won't mess up and when we do we fix it asap. When she and lost her job early this year we told her we would work with her if she wanted us to help her we've been there where my husband lost his job and we couldn't pay the rent for one month so we knew what to do and he didn't care what job he got as long as it was money coming in. Yes we are lucky that she doesn't have anyone that she needs to take care of depend on. We do, we have to look out for our daughter and her needs and all of her needs come before us. We would give up all of things in our house to make sure she had a home and we have done that because we do love our daughter and we love our son. I just keep telling myself it's almost over. She has no respect for us or our things she is just thinking about herself and not what she is doing reflex back on us as well when she doesn't pay for her half of things. Good thing I've kept track of all the utilities she owes us. She owes us more then what our rent is for 1 month that is how far behind she is not 1 dime towards it. When we need her because she the only family in town some times she was out getting drunk or was drinking I"m not going to leave my small child with someone that has been drink not even if they are not drunk but have been drinking I don't think so. The one time I've left my daughter with her she was calling us as soon as me and my husband date was over to get our butts home because she need to go pick up her friends since they wanted to party. That doesn't seem far to us to have to rush home when we haven't eaten after being at 3 hour concert that we told you a month of head of time that we need you to watch our child. After that we didn't leave her with her and that was way before all this stuff started.