too much....

United States
June 10, 2012 11:40am CST
i have finally had it! i'm so frustrated! two weeks ago i told my boss that i needed this monday off so i can be with my husband to go to the v.a. hospital. she came back saying that it might not be a possibility, got to see if the new girl will work out. i have done everything i need to train her and do it in the manner where she can be confident in herself. i have done this with all the girls i have trained. now it's not good enough. everytime i take a step back and let the new girl take over, the client keeps calling me to help out. how is the new girl ever going to learn the routine steps if i keep doing them????? then, i'm told that i'm not training her right and that she needs to do the work. i GIVE up!! in the last 3 months, i have only had 3 days off! now she wants to criticize my thinking!! she wants me to do more!! i don't have any more to give!!!!! i have to come home and take a nap in order to do the errands I NEED to do! how much more does she think i have??? when i do try to chill out, i have all these roommates that want me to go here and there or don't give a dam that i'm trying to sleep and make loud noises till 5 in the morning!! i'm going to find me a one room shack and move into it! my legs and feet ache. my shoulders are sore. how much more does she want??
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6 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
10 Jun 12
much more if you don't put it to a halt! You go to the hospital with your husband. It was not a question but you told you will do so. You will let the new girl take over ... it's normal customers will ask for you since they know you! But each time you take over you also "say" you will still keep doing it. So pretend you are not there. The only more work you can do is coaching the new girl.
• United States
10 Jun 12
it's not that i want to take over. i try to stay out of the way so the new girl will take care of the client. it's the client that keeps calling me and telling me to do it. then her mother tells me that i need to let the new girl do it. when i get the new girl going, the mother comes along and tells me that i need to be showing her how to do the routine. i just can't win. today was just the end of the straw for me. so far, i have tomorrow so i can be with my husband. i pray that the new girl won't quit the day after. everyone in my house is trying to get me to relax. i'm the type of person that have a loyal trait. it's hard for me to break. i feel guilty for wanting to quit.
• Guyana
10 Jun 12
i think your husband should be the priority here, his health is more important than any job, plus it seems that your boss is deliberately pushing you over your limit, i think you should start looking for another job, all jobs are stressfull nomatter how simple they may appear, but i dont think its fair to be getting just 3 days off in that time and then have to hear "your not doing enough"...
• United States
11 Jun 12
I agree, because i have had that problem also. I just recently had a child and now i have dr appts to attend. I am one of the top agents here and one of the people the call on when the new guys come in. but everytime i need to be off, they have a problem with me going. I dnt even take the whole day, jus an hour. So i stopped telling them because there are other employees that can leave and not show up and there is nothing said. So i strongly believe in equal opportunity. so as stated. family comes first.
@dobsyto (299)
• Bulgaria
10 Jun 12
Well if you have to go with your husband to the hospital you have to go. Remember that the health is more important that anything else. If you are not happy in your job and from your boss than why are you still there. If you have a chance to work somewhere else than go and change your workplace. I think than we have to work with pleasure not with displeasure. We should feel good in our job to and work how we love to. If you have so much problems in your job than you just can't work qualitatively and feel good there.
• United States
10 Jun 12
i've been asking myself that same question these past few days. i'm also looking at my future expenses. my daughter just graduated, now my son is a senior. so i have all those expenses again. i can't afford to loose my check right now. it's a decent amount of money that i can't afford to start over somehwere else.
• Indonesia
11 Jun 12
Greetings to you from Indonesia. Most important and you must always put on priority is your family (means your husband) and your health. At least you had asked permissions and already lodge advance notice to your boss. So, it is normal to take a leave to visit the hospital. As far as you are still working in office or with somebody who hired you, then you should follow the office - but in your case, refer to above that your family and health is more important above all. If you can not accept the way of your office think, then try to find new opportunity out there as far as possible. But if not, then you should be patient more and more. Always pray and keep your patience above all. Then you can face it easily.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
10 Jun 12
For me if you can compromise your health to your job I think your in trouble. So forget what your boss might be selfish dicission. As other advice go to hospital and if your not happy in that situation in your work - I think you can decide to live them alone...
@chuyins123 (2118)
• Philippines
10 Jun 12
There are just people that just doesn't get it right for a couple of times. I remember my friend have the same situation with her new colleague. She's done everything to train the girl, but she just keep asking what's next, what she needs to do. Then my friend would usually end up doing everything for her trainee, it pisses her off. Good thing she's resigned, and she's now saved from the buggling of such a snail-slow learner.