Being faithful, is it love or foolish?

June 12, 2012 5:02am CST
actually this is my own experience, i love a girl very much, and so does she. at first, her parents approved our relationship but after meeting her grandad, eveerything changes. she and also her parents said that we're no longer suitable for each other to have the next level relationship. i am so sad, but i still try my best to get her back and it seems that she opens the way. the problem is now she also open the opportunities to the other guys too. and most of the time she likes to let me down with her words, but on another occasion she shows me that she really needs me. i almost loose hope dealing with this situation, i as a guy have a very pure love to her, but i also cannot stand to be hurted again and again. so, what do you think i should do? now i' m still waiting for her, is it love or foolish????
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 12
Hello my friend, this is my own personal experience. I broke up with my ex gf about 1 year 11 months ago. Well, the reason we broke up, let it be a secret for myself. Seems long huh, but here's the thing, it took me slight more than 1 year for me to get her back. I tried everything you could possibly think of, except for the bad ways like threatening and such but i still failed. Within those 1 year, im not a loner, believe me, i hang out a lot, mix with people around me etc meet some other women, but here's the thing, my faith, my inner self tells me i still want her so much.i didn't pursue other women,well call me stupid or what ever, after all it is what i've chosen to do. In the end i still failed to get her back. Being faithful is love my friend and also foolish at the same time, depending on how you see it. i was foolish for not letting go, but i was not foolish for i know love is pure and beautiful, the feeling i have for her was real and unselfish. It is not wrong to wait nor it is not right to deny yourself the chance with another women that truly loves you. So you see, it is really what you feel inside my friend. If you feel great, nice, and can bear the pain of being hurt, then choose to stay and wait patiently. If not, i will say let her go and give yourself a chance for a better love life. After all, it is you who decide what you're gonna do with your life. Which better suits yourself that will enable you to become a better person in every path that you have chosen.
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• Malaysia
12 Jun 12
Also don't forget, don't listen to people who tells you "dude you're so wrong in waiting for her" or "dude, wait for her, she's worth every sweat". Choose and decide wisely your next course of action. Ask around. My own personal experience tells me a lot about myself. Just FYI, i've decided to let her go cause it is the best thing for her and me. But i'm not saying letting her go is the only option you have. Another personal experience, a friend of mine waited for her "ex" gf for 2 years and now they are together and engaged.
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@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
Being faithful or inlove is not a foolish things, you girlfriend was so lucky to having you in her who is willing to wait, has a pure love and accepted all her wrong doing. But I think you should talked to her and asked if she still willing to continue your relationship or not. If not just go on with your life, I know you get hurt but in due time the pain will go away. Your love to her was so pure and I feel that. I am hoping that someday you find someone who will love you more than you do and never hurt you over and over again. You deserved to be happy and to be loved because your heart was so kind. :)
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• India
12 Jun 12
obviously its a foolish slix,slix why are you wasting your precious life or hurting your self every day,if she was loving you then she left you,think about it and leave her.another your future is your,no one will pay for your faults in future.thanks
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
You gotta ask your gf about it. I think she don't know who to choose also. Maybe she wants the new guy, and also maybe she wants you to just give up your relationship.
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• India
12 Jun 12
Definitely that will be your foolishness friend. Because she is giving importance not only to you but also other persons in her life.And also you must teach her a lesson in doing so. Don't be sad friend indeed you are lucky to loose her before going to further deep relationship.
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12 Jun 12
First thing you have to ask the girl why she's keeping herself away from you. From the very start of your relationship you are both inlove to each other and it was really work well how come it turns to in an opposite way now. Love is not easily gone I'm sure the girl still inlove with you, maybe her grandad is just the hindrance of your relationship. You need to talk to her granddad and to the girl about it, it's just a minor problem if only her grandad against to your relationship unless there's a valid reason which is intolerable.
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@viji_v2 (727)
• India
12 Jun 12
You had and have love for her. You are still loving her and for that reason you are still waiting for her. As you find the place where the problem created, it is you have to solve it. First try to find why her grandpa does not like your relationship and try to rectify it. This will make you both to get to the next level. Or just ask her what is the reason for her two entirely different characters towards you. It will give you an idea what you have to decide in your relationship.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
22 Jun 12
I think you should open your mind to other possibilities, too. If she really loved you, she would come back to you, no matter what her family said. You never know when a new opportunity may come and it would be a pity to miss it for someone who does not appreciate you as much as you wished. Life is too short for regrets. Always look forward. Good luck with any decision you make!
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
13 Jun 12
I think being faithful in love is something great that can be done only people who love each other. I think you should talk to each other might help and it would be good to talk to her and think and make a correct decision. I think you should try to talk to the family once more and make a final decision.