To say clearly what you believe and what you think

@didi13 (2926)
Romania
June 13, 2012 12:30pm CST
To say clearly what you think and you think, to shut up or find formulas road, only to suggest what you wear in your soul? The truth sets us free or we turn, in fact, in some bet that does not want anyone around? Are often put myself in position to become antipathy, that say what they think, what I want, I do not want, what I like, that I do not like. For me, tell your side of what you think, honestly, what happens between you, a form of respect. Only foreigners or people who mean nothing to me do not get no criticism and no correction, because they know they have separate lives, as we'll see you again. But for those that keep them always say green to face what they think about them, even if it makes them angry often. And I have not found the answer to the question: they are wrong or I'm wrong?
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6 responses
• Uganda
13 Jun 12
I did not understand the majority of what you wrote. Is English not your mother tongue? What does it mean to become antipathy? I gather from what you said that you think speaking your honest opinion is a form of respect. And I interpret your later statements as meaning that you do not respect people who are foreigners. You ask "are they wrong or am I wrong" but the issue on which you and "they" disagree is not clear to me, neither are your positions on the issue. Please clarify your question.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
13 Jun 12
Sorry if you do not get what I mean. I meant that, I think that is a difference between telling the truth in front, and to judge a person. Truth, or rather what I perceive as truth based on evidence, undeniable. To judge another person about the look, the way you think, how they behave has nothing to do with the expression of truth. On the contrary, is an attempt to deny others the principles and to impose my personal way of thinking on others. I noticed the difference if they can say what they think without offending anyone. Of course, the delicacy and diplomacy are preferred when interacting with others, whether they know it or not.
• Uganda
13 Jun 12
I agree that judging a person has little to do with the expression of truth. Judgment is an internal act which does not necessarily involve the outward expression of truth. Expressing the truth is an act of communication which may be employed when necessary. Does that answer your question?
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
13 Jun 12
Maybe,anyway it makes sense what you say Thanks for response.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
22 Jun 12
To clearly say what you believe and what you think is to not lie. Any time there is a conversation or an argument, one must be honest. Never let your guard down and never back down. To gain respect one must give respect. I always say what I think and feel. I also do so even if it hurts the other person. I don't like to lie or sugar coat things. Life is too short for that.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
14 Jun 12
In the end, we should just take the path that we are going to enjoy right in life. There are just going to be times where we are going to be pushed to take the path to appease people. Which is really not the most pleasing to ourselves right out there. Where we are unable to really focus on our lives and instead being able to bend over backwards. Of course, the truth is something that is going to anger a lot of people when they are doing wrong. The truth is going to be something that is going to really hurt the most. In the end, we are going to really just say what we feel the need to say and the consequences may be ours. But we can't just dance around the obvious, because it is dishonest at best.
@blummus (451)
• United States
14 Jun 12
I do think there is a big difference between being judgmental and being honest. There are times when 'being honest' can cause unnecessary pain and sorrow to others. It is not unreasonable to ask yourself if saying something harsh is really necessary.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
14 Jun 12
I know our political convictions are supporting the happy face movement. Do we think the happy face party will win the next election? I always like your discussions and the way you write them not because they are concise debates for arguement reteric but because of the way your words make me think. Your thoughts that make up your topics have much depth with truthful meanings and that is why mostly I only seem to want to compliment. Lately, didi13 in my personal exsistence in an online place other than mylot I’ve encountered hostility for simply stating merely a suggestion with as little as opinion as possible. Still as diplomatic as I could be, my presence there was not well received. So your discussion came to me at a good time. I understand this as a dilemma
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
13 Jun 12
Are you talking about telling a person to their face what you think about them? This can be a tricky one, unless you yourself are a kind person. What you have to be clear on is that what you are thinking, is actually what you're thinking, and not a prejudice. A lot of us are conditioned to think something of a certain group of foreigners, to take your example, for example. So base what you have to say about them, only on what your impression actually is from dealing with them, and not what TV or movies or your own government tells you to think about them.