No respect for my stuff.

By C
@ShyBear88 (17041)
United States
June 13, 2012 2:05pm CST
Some people just have no respect for other peoples stuff. I just can't wait for my husbands cousin to move out of the apartment or for our lease to be up so we can move out other wise I would kick her out but since she is on the lease as well she is stuck with us till either she moves out like she says she is or till October is here and the lease contract is over with. She has no respect for mine and my husband things and some times even our daughters things. She took my half dried clothes yesterday and throw them on top of dirty clothes and on the floor in the kitchen. This made me mad because that is my clothes I never do that to her clothes. I put them in her basket and make sure they are dry all the way throw even if that means I have to wait to use the washer and dryer to clean my families clothes. I know she has tones of dirty clothes but still there is a little thing called respect. My husband was upstairs all day yesterday while I was napping and she was here. All she had to do is ask my husband if we had and empty basket for her to put our clothes that weren't dry all the way or ask him if the clothes in the clothes basket were clean or dirty instead of just throwing them all over the place. She has throwing away our dishes, sliver way, I have nothing that I had a year ago which upset me because they where all gifts from my mother-in-law that she spent her hard earn money on getting us something that me and my husband need when we didn't ask her to get us anything from when we got our first apartment. Then she has no respect for shared space she throws our stuff in closets if she wants to have people over instead of putting them up nicely or what ever, just doesn't want anything of our daughter seen when she has people over and they are in the living room. Then she never takes her trash out she just throws it on the deck and we have almost had to pay for that one as well because she has no respect for the complex either and keeping it looking nice. The deck isn't for trash the trash area is like 10ft from our unite if you can walk that far to your car then you can walk that far to put it in the dumpster. I've gone and taken her trash, our shared trash, my families trash to the dumpster at times because I get tired of looking at her trash. She has no respect for living with others. Me and my husband we aren't hard a$$ things don't have to be done our way or up to our code when your visiting or living with us. You just do your part and everything is good. If you say your going to do something I'm going to assume your going to do and respect my things and I'll respect your things. But I can only take so much baggage from others when they don't fallow through.
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4 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Jun 12
People not having respect for the belongings of others has always been one of my pet peeves when I've had to live with someone else. There was an occasion when I was in college and one of my roommates knocked one of my framed pictures down. It was a picture with one of my friends that had passed away in it and for that reason, it was really special to me. The thing that really made me mad about this was the fact that she wouldn't even admit that she'd broken the glass on the frame.
@ShyBear88 (17041)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Yeah it's one of my top pet peeves too. I've been that way since I was like 5 and my brothers would take my things and destroy them or something. See if I broke or took something with out asking I always would tell people. See when my parents where here in October they left there car here since they where flying with two kids to New Orleans to see family. One day I had to use my dad's car and even though I didn't know if they where going to answer the phone or not I called and told them I drove it but it was okay and nothing happened to it since I just drove it up the road for a few hours. I always try to put things back into place of where I took them and let that person know I took it and used it. I never throw peoples things away or miss use them. I know accidents happen and that's when you say something about it. She throw away a lot of our dishes that was bought for me and my husband over a year ago and it was a never nice set and now almost all of them are gone that I have to buy a new set of everything. A lot of my kitchen stuff has to be replace. She didn't have to throw my clean clothes to the floor and stuff. That just isn't nice when I'm being respectful of her stuff all of the time.
@KrauseHome (34764)
• United States
15 Jun 12
Wow!! This would be almost impossible to bear. Especially since you have to have her their with you until October? There is no way you can get her out before then? This is total disrespect and uncalled for, and sounds like this person needs to GROW up and take some responsibility for themselves instead of trying to run the place like their own. Have you talked this situation over with your husband? Their has got to be a more better easier way.
@ShyBear88 (17041)
• United States
15 Jun 12
Yeah well she said she was going to move out we didn't ask her to but where going to go but she said that she got a better job outside of town where her mom lives so hopefully she moves out before then. Right now she comes and goes but when she isn't here we lock her room at least her deck door so that people don't come in when we are not here and stuff. It's not bad when she isn't here its much better when she isn't around. Of course I've talked about with my husband. He and I know everything about everything and we both agree on everything about her right now. He saw how upset I was when I came up the stairs and saw our clothes on the floor. I'm hoping that she moves out before the lease is up but if she doesn't I get to keep charging her for her half of the utilities since her stuff is still here. That is something that my husband agreed to on a lot of things and some of it he brought not me. But it's been a struggle for us to keep it from certain family members because some of them just know when things are up even when they don't see us all of the time and we can't hide if for them.
• India
14 Jun 12
Just 'cause she's your guest, you would keep watching what all bad things she does to you? it's not fair, and I know you may not accept when I say you had to tell her at the right moment that "it was not the way to behave, it's so hard on us" You can't keep tolerating everything and lose patience..
@ShyBear88 (17041)
• United States
14 Jun 12
I never said she was a guest. I said she lease this place with us that means we are all rents and live in the same apartment unite as each other. She is never home long enough for us to say anything to her and when she is here it's with other people that we do not know. I wouldn't comfort her on my own because one if she does something and I'm home alone none one will know and my daughter will go unattended this is something me and my husband wanted to address months ago but she hides and runs and ignores us so we can't talk to her. I'm not going to mom her it's not my job but it is her job to respect our as much as we respect hers. With me being pregnant I don't want to get in a fit with someone and cause my blood pressure to go up so I vent when I can online or to my husband when he is home from work. It's not far to use to have our things go missing. I can understand a few things but my whole kitchen set gone oh heck no. she is 23 years old and knows better. Just because we are all the same age and two of us have responsibilities doesn't mean she can just take advantage of our things. It hasn't gone unnoticed and we have asked her before about it and what she does is goes off for days and doesn't come home her. So either she will leave before the lease is up or when it does come up in October which can't get her any sooner and before then I'll have another little baby to take care. I really don't need extra stuff to do in the apartment and if she was a guest one she wouldn't be her all of the time because a guest doesn't sign a lease or pay rent. Once the lease is up we are moving to a smaller apartment with out her just me, my husband and our two kids.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
there is always an issue if one does not feel to be part of a household. s/he does not respect any space or things belonging to other members of the household. anyway, s/he is not part of the household. once s/he feels part of the household, i think that's the time she will exhibit respect and care for the stuff that belongs to the household.
@ShyBear88 (17041)
• United States
14 Jun 12
She has always been part of the household respect isn't just given because you live in the same place it's how you act. She is feel to come and go as she wants and to do as she want but she doesn't respect us because she is still immature. She is 23 the same age as me and my husband and we don't live any differently then her family does when she was living with her dad. She has more free will her for sure. But I disagree with even when I'm in someone else house I respect there things and there space weather its mine or not. That is what Mature adults do she can have her room any way wants it to. But she has done way to many things to have no respect. She hasn't paid utilies ever since she moved in with this us this year, she wants still do the party thing and she agree when we moved in that she would be every responsible and since she is my husbands family we trusted her but we can't because she doesn't want to take part and do her part.