When I said "SORRY" it doesn't mean you are right and I am wrong, it means ,,,,,

@jaiho2009 (39021)
Philippines
June 16, 2012 1:13am CST
When I said "SORRY" it doesn't mean you are right and I am wrong, it means "I value our relationship even if you don't" A sincere sorry means a lot. And when someone said "sorry" it doesn't always mean you are right and the other person is wrong. Sometimes it means, he/she value the relationship setting aside the ego. A sorry from a stranger or distant person if sincerely conveyed is better than a pat on your shoulder from people you personally known but only pretending that he/she is concern. Be appreciable before you ask appreciation. Wishing everyone a great weekend jaiho®- i love it when it rains 6-16-2012 2:15pm Saturday PT
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@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Hello my dear jai! Your post reminds me of my hubby,you made me miss him. I know that even if it's my fault,it's he who says sorry first for me not to be angry. That's why I consider him as my water 'cause he always washes away my fire(anger). I do agree with what you've said that one values a relationship,a reason for saying sorry to someone he/she loves. Have a great weekend too my dear jai!
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
cutie How sweet of your hubby. Oh well, my ex is also like that. Actually, I cannot remember saying sorry to him even if it is my fault -hehehe. Well, I guess most wives are like that and most hubby are the one who said sorry although it is not their fault- or else, they will sleep outside "kulambo" have a great weekend dear
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• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Haha,thanks for making me laugh my dear jai! But yes,you are very right about it,lol!
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Hi jai, Yes its true, it is very hard to say sorry specially if it is not your fault but to value a relationship it is better to take the first moved for the person who deserved it. Happy rainy weekends to you.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
It's nice to sleep while it rains Yes, it is not easy to say sorry if it's not your fault- but for the sake of someone important and to save the relationship, we can do the impossible :p Oh...love..what's got to do without you..hehehe
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Hmm i sense love is in the air
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
oh dear...I wish I am still in love
• India
16 Jun 12
Telling sorry to a person when one commit a mistake, it doesn't mean that one is true and the other is wrong. Really the real meaning is that you had mentioned it. IE, a person value your relation and he doesn't need to break it for simple reasons. So the word Sorry plays a whital role in human life and every one should make use of it needed situations.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello wonder, Nice to see you again :) I believe that "sorry" play a great part in every relationship. Whether the other person understand about it or not. Sorry maybe a simple word, but can change a world. have a great weekend
• India
16 Jun 12
Each of the word has it's own meaning and it's own inner meaning and every one of us know the inner meaning of each of the words. So that we people can use them without any provocation.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
You're right.. but not all people are humble enough to forget their pride and particularly with the word "sorry"- not everyone can swallow their pride :p
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Jun 12
"SORRY" So why this "sorry" then? Didi... the answer is.... guess. Have a nice time.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
shiby, So..what does it mean huh?
@shibham (17025)
• India
22 Jun 12
to make you angry for this short response. Hahahaha.
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hi jai, I know how to say sorry and when to say sorry you know me I am the person who can't take back my words and when I say sorry I mean it I say sorry to the people I care and love even it's not my fault simply because I want to have a healthy relationship with them. miss yah
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
I know what you mean when you say "sorry"
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Jaiho2009 you are so right. When someone says sorry it doesn't mean they are wrong It means i feel bad for what i did or said and i want to make it right.yes a sincere sorry does mean a lot and make the person you say it to feel better. It shows the person saying sorry cares about you and how you are feeling and wants the friendship marriage relationship to continue. What is a pat on the back anyway? To me it's like just tapping a person and when it's done quickly or hard it doesn't mean a thing. I don't mind the rain too much but i don't like storms at all. When it rains you can't usually go outside unless you want to be wet and cold.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
hello redrose, Exactly, sorry means "CARE". Some people took sorry for granted especially with their loved ones. They think that sorry is just a word to make them feel fine or to stop the argument/issues. Maybe for some people sorry is just an ordinary word- but for some sorry means a lot. thanks for your comment and have a great day
• India
31 Oct 12
I agree with you madam If i think i did some wrong or hurt a person, i always say 'Sorry' and beg apology, i don't mind if he is younger in age.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
hello Prof, I was brought up that way - to respect everyone regardless of age. Thanks for your comment have a great day
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Jul 12
words mean it by its meaning but sometimes word is not enough or it's not enough without showing it with the action. a kiss and embrace are much better than saying the word SORRY.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
dear brother, Some people just say sorry without feeling regret. They only pretend to be sorry-but never mean it. Yes, sometimes those who never said a word- but showed it by action are genuine. have a great day and glad to see you again
@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
26 Jun 12
yes, sometimes we need to say 'sorry' just to make neutral the hot situation. We don't want break our good relationship just for small things, so say 'sorry' will be the best solution, don't care we false or not. Have a nice day, my friend.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
hello atleya, If the relationship is worth saving for, our sorry won't be useless then. I won't think for a second though to save a relationship that I could die for. thanks and have a great day
@BysenBase (190)
22 Jun 12
Apologizing doesn't always mean that you are wrong, i would say it means you understand were the other person is coming from or their frame of thinking and Sometime apologizing is saying you willing to listen to what that the other person has to say. witch usually comes to a understanding between to people.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
hello BB, If only two people always understand each other then there is no argument or misunderstanding. If only both listen and solve whatever problem without thinking who is right and who is wrong- then, everything will be alright. thanks and have a great weekend
• Mexico
16 Jun 12
Hi jaiho: I think your message is deep. I agree with you. Sometimes the person that says first "I'm sorry" is the one who cares the most for a relationship and suffers the most when something is not going alright. Even with that, there's a point, when it's all about dignity and you need to be strong and defend your position. Both parts on a relationship must be responsible to keep their love. Thanks for sharing your thought. ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
hello Alvaro, Mostly the one who suffers in a relationship are the ones who cannot live without that someone they love too much. No matter how they look like, they might look stupid or dumb- for all they care. What matters to them is the relationship and nothing more. So, everyone should give importance to each other to make the relationship lasts. have a great day friend
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello jaiho, when i say sorry, it is because i mean the word - i am sorry. i guess no one will say sorry if they feel that the other person has wronged them. i dont think that is sincere. i would request for another talk after, when both "steams" have let go. but if i feel its not my fault, even for the sake of friendship - i will not say it first. ann
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello Ann, I am the kind of person who never wants to hurt anyone. I want to be at peace always, so when I say I am sorry, I always mean it. Even when saying "goodbye" or ending a friendship or any relationship...I said "sorry" for hurting the other person....and not to keep the relationship anymore. Have a great weekend
@alutka (211)
16 Jun 12
The word can also mean that we are sorry for some reason, either admit to committing an error
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello alutka, Sorry can also mean sympathy ,to convey empathy :) have a great weekend
@SIMPLYD (77664)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
I agree jaiho, that when you say sorry it doesn't mean that the other person is right and you are wrong. There was an incident when i have to say sorry to an office mate for having spoken some not nice word in a very angry manner. She provoked me in doing it. So , after we were heard by the HR manager to find out what really happened, i said sorry to that office mate. But it doesn't mean that i am entirely in the wrong . I said it, because i said those words that hurt her also. But, in my mind she should have been the first one to say sorry, because she did say demeaning words first , for everybody at the office to hear. I kept controlling myself, but when it was too much, i explode. But she never did say sorry , even if the HR manager kept saying, it is good to be humble, seemingly telling her to do so also.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello D, I also have same experience like that my dear. Someone who also spread said bad things behind my back. I never said anything wrong- but when we faced each other she never said sorry even if our staff ask her to say it- she never did. She was given a warning and thanks she's not around anymore- she resigned after few months without saying a word. It's hard for some egoistic to say that word and they prefer to save their ego than to save their reputation. have a great weekend dear
@urbandekay (18312)
16 Jun 12
To say sorry sincerely includes an admission of guilt, to apologise without such is bogus all the best urban
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello urban, Of course- it should be said sincerely or else, sorry is useless. thanks and have a great weekend
• India
16 Jun 12
Hi jai, i agree, a simple sorry is having various meanings. It is not a symbol of our failure, but sorry is the symbol of our kindness and polite. Our sorry shows that we are a humble person and give importance to the opposite person
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello vidh, Precisely! Saying sorry won't make you a less person that you are. Being humble makes you honorable in the eyes of the innocent. Some people are too egoistic that it makes them hard to admit their mistakes. have a great weekend
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Hi jai Very true! We say sorry not only because we are wrong. If saying sorry can save a relationship/friendship even if the one saying it has not done anythign wrong - then it must be done. Only those who really appreciates the relationship/friendship are brave enough to tell those words. Hey I love it when it rains in the evening
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
en Exactly. When we love that someone so much, we never think about pride or ego. All we have in mind is to save the relationship because the person is very important. I always do it and will keep doing it until my heart give up :p have a great weekend dear
• Bangladesh
16 Jun 12
We formally say sorry to express a wrong action what should not be so. But this saying sorry does not relate as to why I acted like so or how much humane I was.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello Kashidanga, Yes, when we are wrong and we admit our mistake we must say sorry. But some people find it very hard to do as if it make them a less person than who they are. thanks and have a great weekend
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
good day jaiho2009, indeed. telling sorry does not really mean that you are wrong and the other one is right. hence, there are some instances, when you just need to say it because you do not want to prolong the argument. and that you are just setting aside the ego that can ruin the relationship. that, this is what i am also practicing, setting aside the ego for the sake of a good relationship.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello aira, Saying sorry won't make us a lesser person especially with someone we love. Pride should be taken aside when it comes to relationship- as long as it is worth fighting for. have a great weekend
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
Agree in times I would resort to saying sorry even if I know I didn't do anything wrong, but it shouldn't be the only answer to a problem, saying sorry just to end a dispute or an argument will only be misleading. A nice talk with reconciliation would be nice and it would make a relationship stronger, but if it fails, and all other options have been done, then for me, it would be best to end the relationship(easier said then done). hope you have a great weekend too
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 12
hello davaome, Of course a sorry should be sincere, if not, then it's useless. Not everyone can say sorry by heart, that is why it is hard for others to say sorry and admit mistake/s. But for a person who really value the relationship-the sorry means a lot. Sorry is a simple word but can change a lot especially in a relationship. have a great weekend