Sharing the burden

@toniganzon (53392)
Philippines
June 18, 2012 10:22pm CST
Have you been having sleepless nights lately? Been thinking of a solution to a problem that's been bugging you? Ever thought of sharing the burden to a family member? It wouldn't kill us to talk to a family member and share the burden. Thought hey might not be able to help sometimes, it somehow eases up the burden to just let them know about it. So let's try.
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15 responses
• India
19 Jun 12
I had lost sleep a lot of times by thinking about my problems and the future in my life. No body knows what will happen in the comming and i am much tensed about the future days. More over i an really tensed about my carrier.
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@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I hope you should stop worrying about the future. As long as you're doing your best with your present life now and securing your life for the future there's nothing to be worried about. Worrying will only drag you down into depression and won't help you solve anything. Good luck!
• Brazil
19 Jun 12
the sorrow can last for through the night but joy cometh in the morning.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
19 Jun 12
It is always better and advice able to share your minor or bigger problem with family member. By doing so the relaxation you will get is beyond imagination. Never try to keep everything within you which may give you mental tension which will have the effect on your health too.
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@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
It also shows how close one is to his or her family. A family that shares together, stays together!
@GemmaR (8526)
19 Jun 12
Whenever there is something wrong in my life, I have a friend who I will go to if I need to talk to somebody about it. I don't like to talk to my family, because I don't like to worry them, but I always know that if I really needed to talk to them they would be there for me whenever I was in need. It does help to talk, and that is why a counsellor is so useful when you're going through a hard time. It can help you to get things straight in your own head, which is a great thing because that is sometimes all you need when you have a problem.
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@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Sometimes all we need is someone to listen to us. They don't have to give advice but their mere presence and sincerity would be enough.
• United States
19 Jun 12
I do this all the time and it makes me feel a litle better. LIke talking to my man and he understands all my concerns.
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@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
It's really nice when there's someone who truly understands us and there for us.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi, yes,actually i have because one of my friend borrowed money to me and now its hard for me to collect the money on her,actually it was 5 months ago when she was borrow money to me and now she didn't pay,so i think at night how can i collect money to her.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
It's really difficult to lend money to a friend who couldn't pay especially when we need the money ourselves. Sometimes it could ruin the friendship.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
25 Jun 12
These days, I have sleepless. Yes I do have too much burden because of the coming days full of challenges and opportunities.Usually I don't say these things to my families, they don't understand me, so I always say these things to my friends, They can understand me.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Later on when you're married, it would be much better to say it to your husband rather than your friends.
@Rick1950 (1577)
• Lima, Peru
24 Jun 12
I think it's a good idea to share your burden with someone of the family or someone else who you can trust. Perhaps you can get a good advice.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Yeah, we may get a sound advice but the main point is the moment we share it, the burden eases up a bit, whether there will be a solution or not.
21 Jun 12
I haven't been sleeping well at all the last 2 weeks.. it's maybe something to do with the nights being warm.. or it could be stress. I don't like talking about my problems to be honest. Its not that I bottle them up.. I just don't like people knowing my business. The only people I ever truly talk to is my partner and my sister.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
And they are family.
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Its good to share your burdens to someone.. It can ease the heavy feeling inside you. In my case I share my burdens to a 10 year old kid, my husband's niece... His niece has a mature mind of thinking... She can understand what life may bring us here, in related to her some experiences... That her mother took care of her to be independent... And sometimes I tried to share things to her what's the reality in life when you get older or mature... That there's a difference when you are just a kid and when you get older... If you are a kid life is too simple and easy you are away of family problems.... If you are a grown up or older, you took life seriously.. You cant dream fantasies because you know its not true... You can't dream of castles and fairy tales for their only stories in the book for kids... If you are older you try to think the possibles in life.. I share my burdens to this kid and sometimes she cant understand what I'm saying, she just keep silent and listen to me...So its good to share your heavy thoughts to lessen a heavy feeling in our minds... And to avoid thoughts of quitting........
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Sharing lessens the burden.
@luanakent (795)
• Brazil
19 Jun 12
Yes. I had sleepless nights. Share your problems can be a relief but it depends on the person. I've taken my troubles to Jesus and i have no regrets.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
God is the best to share your troubles with and there's no regret on that.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
19 Jun 12
Well, you remember, dear friend Toniganzon when I wrote a review by the hotel at 2.00 am because I could not sleep? Well, you know maybe it was the fact that I was in France, it is rare to walk home instead of a completely sleepless night. Then I could not really talk to anyone, even because, fortunately for them, everyone is asleep at that hour!
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
It's different friend. You were having sleepless nights because of the new place and not because you were having some problems right?
• India
19 Jun 12
As we know sharing our happiness will increase it double and sharing our problems and burdens will reduce it half. Always we must share our happiness or problems with our good friends or family members to come out from it. If we keep our problem within us, it will spoil our peace and we don't have the ability to do our work properly due to the issue. If we shared our burden with others, it will reduce as well as we can get some suggestions or solution to our problem to solve it. Always i share my problems and happiness with my wife. It will give peace of mind to me, while sharing our problems with our friends or beloved persons whoever fully understand about us, they will come to know about our present stage and try their maximum to help us to come out from the issue. If we keep our problem with in us, no one come forward to help us as well as we lost our concentration due to this issue and think about it forever. It is hard to find a solution for our problem if we are tensed and depressed. We must be expressive in this sort and share our problem to a trusted person to get solution as well as peace of mind. There is nothing wrong in sharing our problems with our family members and good friends whoever understand us very well and have the ability to give solution to our problem.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
There are people though that just find it hard to share their burden to others. They could easily solve their problems in their own.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Better to share than to kept it alone. They might be able to help us but to tell something that bother us is enough to ease that hardship we have in our mind.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Sometimes it does help to me but not at all times. There are times when i'm better off alone.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
19 Jun 12
I don't like sharing with family, but I will with my friends to whom I consider my sisters. Some people in my family take things the wrong way, turn them around, and make me feel worse.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I too didn't like sharing with my siblings. But now that i have my own family, it feels good to share it with my husband.
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
13 Oct 12
its always nice to share burden in the family and reduce the stress factor for sure,or else its too much