what you do when someone put you down

United States
June 19, 2012 3:12am CST
what you do when your own family put you down and you live with them what do you do you stay or would you go
14 responses
@cloud31 (5809)
19 Jun 12
It depends what situations.If minors then I will let them pass maybe its just a way to make me realize I'm not doing well though.But if its major things then I will confront them know the reason why they are putting instead of helping me out. Being honest of what we feel will help us clear out everything its hard to keep grudge in our heart,if its still can manage to have a good relationship with our family then it will be better.
@cloud31 (5809)
19 Jun 12
*putting me down.
• United States
5 Aug 12
when i was so down because of family conflict, i decided to leave and find my way on my own. Ten years later i return cause i realized no matter what, family always remain. wounds healed and i forget everything.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
I would just not mind them. sometimes people do that to make themselves feel better and well, for me it does not really matter if it is the case... they can always do that, always make me feel lesser in what i can do but i know in my heart all those are cheap talks.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
20 Jun 12
Remember family cares you much than other people.Just feel gratitude for them and everything is gonna be fine.For my experience,living outside for a long time does not feel good,so i suppose you'd better really think deep about it and it is still precious to live with your family.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Normally when my family put me down I would go away and start all over again. I am the person who always doing my best to prove myself to them and let them know what kind of abilities that I have and what I am capable to do. I dont like when my family putting me down my heart was aching and torn apart but even though they do that I still love them and care for them.
• Bulgaria
21 Jun 12
hello shorty if my family puts me down i would try to do my best to turn that around. I`ll try proving that i`m not the person they look down on. that i`m strong and i can do anything but also i`ll show them that i need their support to do that.
@GemmaR (8517)
19 Jun 12
I have been losing weight for the past year and a half, and I have had a lot of discouragement from my family because they don't think that I am able to do it. I have proved them wrong, and recently had a discussion with them about how they had made me feel. I soon realised that they didn't meant to put me down and that they didn't know that it was getting to me in such a way. You should talk to your family, because there is every chance that they might not realise they're upsetting you, and would definitely not want to lose you from their lives.
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
19 Jun 12
When someone puts me down I usually stop talking to them or talk the minimum and only when required or if they talk to me about something.It is a very painful experience when such a thing happens since we expect a lot from our near and dear ones.When they do not live up to our expectations,what can we expect from outsiders?The world seems very grim and menacing at such times.I even go into depression.But I have no other choice except to live with them.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
I would go away and stand on my own and prove that I am not worthless. Yes, some family members are putting down their members- for different reasons. Some are challenging their family members to do their best. Sometimes the purpose is not to let the person down, but to move and do his/her best. Some people needs encouragement and inspiration but some are too weak to face challenges. Therefore, some family members hurt them- by putting them down, that might help them find the courage to live their life to the fullest.
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
Hello mylotter, if my family put down on me, i will forgive them. Because maybe it is also my fault or i made a mistake thats why they put down on me. I will ask them to give me another chance to change my life. They are my family they should be the one to support me. I would stay with them no mattre what.
• India
19 Jun 12
I will keep living with my family. It doesn't matter me whether they put me down or up. I cannot live distant far away from them for days. I need and them and I respect them.
• Indonesia
19 Jun 12
I would go. Thats my choice. I cant stand to live with some1 who just want to put me down. I prefer to live alone have contact with them sometimes, than have to spend whole time with them.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
It really depends on how they put you down. One time it happened to me that my sister really put me down and my daughter got involve already, what I did is to leave.
19 Jun 12
Family is really a lot of things. They can be a hand that helps, or enemy when one of the side of the coin get stubborn. If I were you and still living with them, I will just let it cool down, time heals all wound. Just take it easy.