Off to celebrate my 48th wedding anniversary.

@bagarad (12133)
Paso Robles, California
June 19, 2012 1:26pm CST
That is, we'll be off if my husband ever gets back from getting a haircut, chasing down some roof repair tape at a hardware store, and then going to the gym to swim. We were suppose to be leaving about now. I suspect something will have to give. The plans set in concrete are for tomorrow, which is the actual day anniversary day. That's why I wanted to stay somewhere in that area tonight rather than trying to get there the day of the celebration. We will be meeting friends we only get to see once or twice a year who live near where we used to live before moving here. Fortunately we are going by car, so it doesn't really matter when we leave. I'm trying not to be frustrated because of the delay. That's what happens when you have workmen around who suddenly need things. In case you're wondering where we are going, it's to Thousand Oaks / Westlake, California. Just a few hours away. I and my friend will visit the World Gardens while our husbands chat at their home. The we will have lunch there with them. I"m not revealing these plans ahead of time anywhere but on this site, which I hope is safe. I hope to come home with lots of pictures and material for a new hub. I hope things work out as planned. See you all sometime after tomorrow night. I am not going to take my laptop this time. It is, after all, our anniversary.
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
20 Jun 12
hope that after all it worked out fine in spite of the delays you just mentioned in your post. Yes these things often surface suddenly and then the whole nice plan is going down the drain. 48 years is a lot of time for a marriage.... I always admire people who are married as long as this. Congrats to you from me over here.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
It worked out because he was willing to skip going to the gym, so we were only an hour off schedule. Marriage is work, but a life-long marriage is worth the investment it takes to build it.
• Lippstadt, Germany
21 Jun 12
good to hear your hubby skipped the gym. We are married now for almost 7 years and its everything but easy........
@AmbiePam (49053)
• United States
20 Jun 12
That's great! Happy anniversary.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
It was a great one. I appreciate your congratulations.
• United States
20 Jun 12
Happy Anniversary! Wow! 48 years! Have a great time. Can't wait to see the pictures!
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Sarah, I posted all the pictures I had time to process in the previous responses since you posted this, so you might want to come back and see them. We had a great time. Today Hubby is sick. Guess all the festivities were too much for him. We had a late night last night -- got home about 10, checked mail, put stuff away that we had to use last night, etc. I came home to find my internet had lost its connection, so instead of checking my email and my sites like myLot and HubPages, I had to start calling ATT tech support at 10:30 PM when I was exhausted to get my modem reset. Bummer. But heck! You don't know you're home until you have your first computer problem, Today I've got to catch up on work.
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• United States
22 Jun 12
I will check the other boxes. I am glad you had a good time. I am so sorry Hubby is sick. I hope he feels better real soon.
• United States
22 Jun 12
I saw the pictures! They are wonderful!
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
26 Jun 12
congratulations on your anniversary, i'm glad that you enjoyed yourselves. i saw your pictures and loved the gardens especially. the rabbit made me laugh though hehe i was expecting a more fluffy or at least a little fat rabbit but that rabbit was so thin, especially the front legs. although i guess that is because of the climate :D at the moment, maybe it''s because í'm upset with my husband, but i feel that man, can we even reach 48 years? that seems so long hehe, it's been around 10 years for us now. and even that feels like a miracle, so long for me. hehe enjoy life!
@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
26 Jun 12
That trip was good for us. We've been flirting like newlyweds since we got home. Years 4-14 were pretty rocky, though, and back then I wasn't sure we'd make it ,either. We came very close to separating. We did take a week apart to decide if we should stay together or not. We finally decided that we needed to keep the commitment we made to God and each other and work on making our marriage last. After all, we married because we loved each other, so there must have been something there worth keeping. The truth is that every marriage is hard work. That's because marriages are pairs of imperfect people who will hurt each other -- sometimes without even meaning to. Forgiveness is very important -- no matter how you might have been hurt -- unless there is a pattern of physical abuse or someone is an addict. Forgiveness is still important then for your own sake, but separation is, I believe, justified in that case. Most other problems can be solved with the help of a good counselor. Even addicts can get clean. I saw it happen in my extended family. Where there's a will, there's a way. It's unfortunate that the media has taught us that marriage should suddenly make us happy for the rest of our lives, and if it doesn't there's something wrong with the marriage. That's unrealistic, and there are very few fairytale marriages. I've never seen one. Marriages help us grow up and learn to be more unselfish, especially when children enter the picture.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
26 Jul 12
reading what you wrote here made me feel at ease in a sense that it's not only me but others too that also have their disagreements in a marriage. it's good advice that you've written here, one which i'm sure everyone will agree. i agree with all especially the last sentence. we do learn to be more unselfish when we have children. they teach us in a way. thanks for sharing. i'm glad that it's been good with you and hope it still is.
@drannhh (15226)
• United States
20 Jun 12
My late hubby and I had an anniversary just one day after yours, on the summer solstice. The World Gardens look really neat: http://www.gardensoftheworld.info/OurGardens.cfm Wow, I want to go there!
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
WAlking the gardens with my friends was fun and relaxing. We didn't sign up for a tour, but a docent found us as we walked and joined us when we were at the Japanese Garden. We might as well have been on the tour, since he explained everything we were seeing. I think you might enjoy it. I never did see the haystacks you saw. Maybe they moved them before we drove through.
@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
I don't have any more pictures to post tonight, but i posted several scattered throughout the previous responses.
@peavey (16588)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Congratulations on your 48th! Hope your husband got home in time and that all went well. You will post some pictures when you get back, won't you?
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Vista Point View near Gaviota State Beach - This is one of several shots I took of the coastline north of Santa Barbara, California.
He did get back in time and we even had time for a walk we used to take often when we lived in Newbury Park. I'll post more about that later. I have posted several pictures from this trip in previous responses in this discussion. The one below is one we took on our way south. It was taken near Gaviota State Beach, which is three beaches north of Santa Barbara.
@peavey (16588)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Awesome! Sounds like a great way to celebrate. I've enjoyed your pictures.
@Rick1950 (1565)
• Lima, Peru
24 Jun 12
Congrats and happy anniversary. Have a great time by celebrating!
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
25 Jun 12
We did. but all that celebrating wore us out. I think we're finally back to normal today.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
24 Jun 12
Congrats!!! I think that leaving the laptop at home is perfectly appropriate. Love is in the air.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
24 Jun 12
Jen, I do not regret for a minute that I left it home. As things turned out, I would not have had any time to even plug it in. As it was we packed in so much activity we were sleep deprived when we got home and we were both fighting off colds. But it was worth it.
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
Belated happy 48th wedding anniversary! I'm sure that you and your husband, together with your friends, had a grand time! Wow, 48 years...that is impressive and inspiring! I wish that my marriage will stand the test of time too.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
24 Jun 12
As you can see from the pictures posted in my replies to the other response, we did pack a lot into our trip and had a great time. Now it's simply a matter of recuperating from the trip. We are almost back to normal now. I hope you and your husband will also make it to year 48 in your marriage. Work at it, and you will.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
22 Jun 12
That really does sound like a great way to spend your anniversary and I hope that you had a wonderful time celebrating. Our anniversary is coming up at the end of next month and we will be at eight years since we got married. For me, this year is something really special because of everything that we've been through in the past year. I am hoping that my husband and I will be able to do something really special for our anniversary this year.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
22 Jun 12
WE did, indeed have a wonderful time. I hope you and your husband also have a very special anniversary celebration in July. Every marriage is special and has its own joys and challenges. Marriage is always a work in process. A wedding is only a beginning -- not a completed work.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
21 Jun 12
Congratulations! Happy anniversary! I hope to get one day to celebrate this, too....
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Thank you, taura. I hope you also get to celebrate a 48th wedding anniversary.
• United States
21 Jun 12
Congrats to you and your hubby! I hope your plans work out for you. But atleast you are laxed about everything on your list. Enjoy yourself in the gardens.
@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
I actually had more fun on the hike Tuesday night -- something that wasn't even on our list -- than I did at the gardens. You can see several pictures of both in the responses I made to previous comments before you posted this.
@debrakcarey (19924)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Happy Happy Anniversary! In this day and age of easy outs, I salute you! God bless another 48!
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Debra, I appreciate the thought, but I seriously doubt if I will live to be 120!
@GardenGerty (99154)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I have gotten to the point there are times I say that the laptop just has to stay at home. Take a deep breath. Of course I know I am late to this discussion and in just a few minutes, if not already, you are sitting down to a really nice visit and meal. I will look forward to the stories and pictures.
@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
AS it turned out, having the laptop along would have been useless. Instead of getting back to the motel early on Tuesday night as planned, we didn't get there until 11:30. I'll explain that in a new discussion later on. But I would not have had time to even turn the computer on, and I would have been one more thing to lug. I have posted all the pictures so far in previous discussions as I replied to them, so you can see them by going back to view the other discussions.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 12
Wow 48th wedding anniversary . Congratulation bagarad. Its just another two years for your golden anniversary, good job!. I hope all your plan work really well and you had a great day.
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@bostonphil (4398)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Congratulations. 48 Years???? Not a small fete these days. You are going to visit Thousand Oaks? You may remember that I went to Los Angeles several months back for The AARP Convention. Afterwards, I went to Thousand Oaks to see an old friend whom I had not seen in many years. I liked Thousand Oaks. We went to The Ronald Reagan Library in Simi Valley. I bet you have been. Have a great anniversary.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
We used to live in Newbury Park, which is at the west end of Thousand Oaks. We actually went to the Reagan Library on our last anniversary trip, last year. I got some great pictures of the view from there, and even made some products on Zazzle from pictures I took there. One of my close friends is a docent there. I hope you enjoyed your visit.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 12
That is so exciting! Congrats on your anniversary and I hope it is a great day for both of you. =) I was excited this past April, my husband and I celebrated our 7 year wedding anniversary but compared to you that is nothing! =)
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Seven years is a great start to a lifetime of love. Love is a daily commitment that you live one day at a time and the years add up. Before you know it, you're looking back at 25, 30, 40, and maybe even 50 or more years of marriage. Congratulations to you for being on the way.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
19 Jun 12
Congratulations!! That's a long time to be together. I hope you have many more happy years together in good health. Can't wait to see some pictures and hear about your trip.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Rabbit in Point Magu State Park - Seems rabbits were everywhere last night in this park and across the street from it, in neighboring yards.
I have been posting pictures throughout this discussion. This one is of a rabbit I saw on our hike last night. Newbury Park is in the Conejo Valley in California, Ventura County. "Conejo" is Spanish for "rabbit." We were hiking around dusk, and rabbits seemed to be popping up everywhere. I got a video of one up close later on in our walk.
• United States
19 Jun 12
Congrats on being married for 48 years. That is quite an accomplishment.
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
I seemed to have missed your comment the first time around. Staying married 48 years takes some doing, but if you persevere, we have found the last years have been better than the first ones.
@hdc4free (264)
• United States
19 Jun 12
That sounds like a great trip and a lot of fun! Hope you can get on the road soon and try not to be too frustrated at the delay. Have a safe trip and make sure to post some pics when you get back. And happy anniversary!
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@bagarad (12133)
• Paso Robles, California
21 Jun 12
Dragon's Gate Waterfall at Gardens of the World, T - An old legend says that if a Koi fish can climb to the top of this waterfall, he will turn into a dragon.
WE did have a great time seeing old friends, meeting new ones, hiking old trails we used to love, and visiting the Gardens of the World. I've been posting new pictures throughout this discussion. Here's one of Dragon's Gate Waterfall.