How did you break up?

@dream_ozn (1758)
Singapore
June 20, 2012 3:31am CST
Hi mylotters. i have been having relationship problem for the past 2 years. My parents totally disapprove of my relationship with my boyfriend from the very beginning. I am currently with my boyfriend for 6 years now. i'm thinking of breaking up with him for the past 2 years but because i cannot let go, we have been dragging it until now. i wanted to drag a little more until augest until after his birthday to tell him that i'm really over with it. But i'm now thinking if i should wait. We were very lovey dovey in the beginning but now, we can't even eat without quarrelling. have you broken up before and i would really hope to hear your experience so i can take in to consideration and any advice you have for me will be greatly appreciated.
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9 responses
• United States
21 Jun 12
It's hard to see the positive out of it be aide I was in the same situation too. I was a mess after breaking up with my first boyfriend. Actually, he initiated it and told me he didn't love m anymore This was sudden and all I can remember is that feom that point on, I fell apart. I planned on marrying him. I never thought I would move on. And I bet since he's your first too, you might feel the same way. But I have to say. I'm now the happiest girl ever with my current boyfriend. I barely think about my ex and have no feelings toward him now. It will get better when you guys break up. It'll take some time. But it will. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Hey stephanie, thank you for your reply. However, i was late to reply you because then i was really battling with the break up issue and could not bear to look at this discussion. However, i'm now happy to say that i'm single and have broken up for 7 months now. you are right, it's difficult to see the positive side. exactly, becuase he was my first boyfriend, i found it very difficult to break up wtih him becuase in the past we used to have plans about getting married. i'm happy to hear that you are happy with your current boyfriend. I believe it when you say it will take some time becuase the light at the end of the tunnel is always better than being stuck in the tunnel :)
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
20 Jun 12
I think you should always put yourself in the first plan. If you think that the relationship will not make you happy, you should put an end to it. Think about your future: do you see yourself with him in the next years? I know it is very tough, especially that there has been so much time, and you inevitably get used to the person next to you, but you should analyze very thoroughly your feelings and your situation before you make any decision.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Hey taura, sorry for the very late response becase at that time i was dealing with the break up and i could not bring myself to read about such stuff. However, thing are now very good with me and i am very happy to say that i've happily broken up with my ex. Exactly, i should think about my future and i need to think about myself and to put myself in the first plan. I definitly do not see myself with my ex in the future. This is a very good tip for my next relationship and i so appreciate it.
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
yes i have experienced a break up before. the bad thing about my ex guy was that he was physically abusing me and I would have bruises in my body. I liked him but when I reflected that my life will forever be about bruises i decided that i cant take it. I dropped the bomb and became honest with him. right now I am happy for dropping him because I found a better man!
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
14 Apr 13
Hey katrinapaz, sorry for the long reply. this is because after i posted this discussion, i could not stand to think about the break up with my ex-boyfriend. However, i'm happy to say that i have now broken up wtih this guy i was talkingabout and i'm happy with my life now. it's bad to hear that you ex-boyfriend physically abuses you. that really sucks. No girl should ever experience that. I'm happy that you have given up on your ex and found a new guy.
• United States
20 Jun 12
I broke up with people a few times. But,I was cheated on because there were something I was not doing. I can't forgive a cheater so I turned my back and never looked for them again. I think waiting for his birthday is wicked. I would sit him down over breakfast and tell him the truth.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
20 Jun 12
hi, this is currently my first relationship and he is my first boyfriend and guess this is why it is quite difficult for me to bring the issue up. it's really sad to hear that you were cheated on. you are right, we shouldn't forgive a cheater because once they cheat, you'll never know when they'll do it again. for my case, there was no third party, just that the relationship really dont' work out for us. as for waiting for his birthday, what i meant was to celebrate with him his birthday and then a few more weeks later then break the news to him. i thought maybe I should give him some more happy moments.
@Bluedoll (17071)
• Canada
13 Apr 13
You have to say it and then move on. Don't say it if you can't. Time has a way of fixing things. There are always risks but in time many problems can be solved and sometimes if you don't see a person or talk to them things change for the better. If you are not willing to end a relationship don't.
• India
13 Apr 13
Thanks for sharing, just now i have responded to your other discussion.
@blackrusty (3532)
• Mexico
10 Mar 13
6 years is a very long time and it is hard to break up but it is better to end it if you are not happy I just ended with my ex boyfriend and it hurt but it is over now and I can move on and find the man of my dreams so I wish you the best of luck and you have a great day
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
If I was on such situation, I would not settle to sticking to a person which I know I don’t have any feelings for him/her anymore because it just goes to show that I am just hurting myself every single day that I am with the person whom I know I am not in love with anymore. I would tell the person that I can’t take it anymore and I don’t like any pretention with my life. it’s makes yourself satisfied with the decision that you know it will benefit your future. Tell your partner honestly in a way that it will have a sealed closure.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
I also experience some break ups and i also experience that my parents don't like my partner but we don't break up because of that. We broke up because he cheated on me. I think if you want to break up on him because you are so tired having argument on him, can i suggest that both of you try to give each other space first so you can think what is the best decision for your relationship. Happy mylotting..