Quit my job on the second day!

@dj_huh (25)
United States
June 20, 2012 1:09pm CST
Yes, I just quit my job after one day of training! I lost it, I was so nervous and so scared. I was training as a receptionist in a busy car dealership. Somehow I was having trouble keeping up with the wicked switchboard, 30 calls an hour while customers keep coming in (some in a not so good a mood). On top of that, I felt so awkward with my co-workers; they're not mean but just so distant (I just want a little love! lol). I was told that I will be manning the front desk on my own after the third day. I freaked out! I've been out of job for a year now and this was my first job I got since then. Anyways, that night, I tried vehemently to remember what I have learned so far but in the end, I knew from the depths of my heart that that wasn't the job I'm looking for right now. So the next day, I phoned in my resignation to the HR and the Manager and I let go a deep sigh of RELIEF! Hopefully, my other job applications will come through and I won't be unemployed for long once again. *crossed fingers* Do you think I made the right choice or should I have just stayed? Have you quit after a day in your new job? come on, make me feel better! ;)
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Jun 12
I almost didn't answer this discussion because I just can't make you feel better. I'm glad some of the others did. Since it's a done-deal, there is no use stressing about it now anyway. While I agree that it may not have been the job for you, I have to tell you that I felt that way one EVERY new job that I tried. I am so very awkward being the "new girl" and even more so when it is a job that I really know nothing about. The job that I currently have was taken out of desperation when my kids were younger. I HATED it and only stuck with it because I had to put food on the table and provide. I was awkward and dreaded going in every day. I had my eyes open and looking for a job better suited for me. Somewhere along the way, I started liking it and loving the people around me. It's been 19 yrs now and I'm still at that "temporary" job. If you were one of my daughters, I'd tell you to stick it out until you had another job lined up and especially since jobs are so hard to come by these days. Being broke and unemployed should be more uncomfortable than a job that just "isn't for you". Unless you have enough money to support yourself without an income then that would be my advice. If you do have the money, well then, by all means...take your time. You can afford to be choosy. Sorry if I didn't go out of my way to make you feel better but did you really want candy-coated lies?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Wow!! You are really sensitive and I am so sorry that you took my words so harshly! I did not at all consider nor mean to imply to you that you were "one of those rich bratty kids". I just have a rule of thumb that you don't quit a job before having another lined up. It's how I was raised and how I always have been and even long before I had kids. My answer was honest and it is why I hesitated in responding...because I KNEW it would not want to be what you wanted to hear. FYI, I did not know that you did not have a work permit until recently or any of the circumstances that would validate WHY. I responded honestly based on your post here and I very much apologize if you felt offended. I was not in any way trying to offend you and I most certainly was not feeling hostile towards you. I have 4 kids of my own and I deal with kids all the time. I was more thinking of a young person that just doesn't like their job...not a rich brat. My advice to anyone looking to quit a job that they don't like is to not quit until you have another job lined up. You said it took you a long time to get this job and jobs are so scarce these days...sorry you got offended. It wasn't meant to be personal.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Jun 12
I have read and re-read my response to you...I really was not even feeling hostile. I really don't know you and don't care if you work or don't work. I was just responding to your post and yes...I responded with a different opinion than the others but it was just an honest opinion....nothing hostile at all. I feel really bad that you took it that way.
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@dj_huh (25)
• United States
22 Jun 12
I was just trying to tell people who did the same thing as I did to speak out and let me know that I was not the only person in the world to have done this. I don't have kids to feed and I am not the main provider; But I do want to help and get myself better. Just so you know, I'm not the rich bratty kid that I think you're implying; It was also not my decision to stay at home for a year doing nothing and without reason as I didn't have my work permit until recently. Being out of job for a whole year and being in a new country has dampen my self esteem gravely and my inner strength to conquer whatever is troubling me. FYI, I stayed with my previous employer a whole year without getting the right financial and mental compensations because I wanted to learn and be independent; I didn't need my father's or my mother's urging to stay there; I did it myself. Until the time I resigned, the situation for me had not changed. I know I don't want to be stuck in the same situation again. Finally, I didn't want candy-coated lies; Then again, I didn't want hostility either. :-) *by the way, that "make me feel better" part was just a self mockery/rhetorical statement. Thank you! mwah!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Yes, I quit a job on my very first day. Not because I freaked out, but because the company that hired me wasn't willing to be flexible with my hours. I was wanting to work at both this job and my current one. My boss at my current job was willing to flex a bit, but in the end both made me choose. As my current job is closer to home and pays a bit more hourly wise I decided to stay where I am at. I just wish I could get more hours! A raise would be nice too. There was another job, years ago, that I quit after being on the job for 5 days. With this one I did freak out! LOL I was working for an assisted living facility that expected one employee to do pretty much everything there and for minimum wage I might add. It was too much for one person to handle alone. So after talking it over with my mother-in-law, who helped get me this job, I gave my resignation after work and never went back. (By the way, the person that trained me quit after being there 2 weeks. I guess she couldn't handle that job ether! LOL) Happy mylotting!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
21 Jun 12
PS Good luck with your job search!
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@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I remember in my previous job, I had to do almost everything in the office, from cleaning, reception, administrative duties, in addition to my field work! I felt like I could not do it but I persevered and I lasted a year! BUT I'm never doing that again! lol. I'm glad you got a job that works for you. If your current boss is willing to negotiate with you on your availability, then he/she might also be willing to give you more hours and a raise in the future. Good luck with your job and thank you!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Jun 12
Whether you made the right choice or not depends on your situation I think. If you have some savings and know that you will be able to survive without a job for a while I think that it was the right decision. I recognize the feeling of relief that you experienced when you quit your job. I have also felt that way when I quit a job that made me feel nervous and uncomfortable. It is such a relief to know that you don't have to go there anymore. I haven't quit a job after two days, but I have left a job after one week and I don't regret it. It clearly wasn't the right place for me. If you don't have any savings, the situation is a little different, because in that case you escaped one stressful situation (the job) and created another stressful situation (financial problems) In that situation I would probably have kept for the job, because I would have been worried that I wouldn't find another job straight away and become unable to pay my bills. I hope that you will find a better job really soon
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21 Jun 12
Yes I did quit my job but not on my second day but on my 5th day! I got a new offer and was far better than what I had and so I left the company. I knew I would never be happy with the work environment, I didn't like the facilities and I was thinking that the workplace was crowded. I know it was not a professional move but I thought then that the company would suffer if I did stay there. I talked to the HR manager and he was really sad about my decision and he even told me that if he knew I was resigning he would prefer to hire the other applicant. It was tough to get in the company as the process of hiring was long and tedious, the exams and interviews... I wasted all of it. In your case, I think you made the right decision. You felt unhappy and not capable to perform those tasks and so you quit.. so just find another job that will be easy for you and don't apply to work which you think you will be overwhelemed with the responsibilities when you get in.
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@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I actually had pending job applications of which I am more interested in than this job. And on the first day, I already knew that I'm never gonna be staying for long in that company, especially if I get an offer from any of those pending applications. I also thought about waiting for a week. But like you said, the process is long and I don't wanna waste any more of their time. I just hope I get a job offer or I will have to start again a new job search. :(
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
20 Jun 12
Hello dj_huh I think you made the right choice, although I also think you could have done well with the job after some time. However, you went with your instinct on this one, and sometimes that's what we have to do. You just knew it wasn't the job or the place for you, and only you could make that decision. I hope that you're able to find something else, soon. Peace.
• United States
20 Jun 12
Welcome to the myLot!
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
20 Jun 12
Thank you! you made me feel a whole lot better! Yep, if I worked on it more, I probably will be good at it but I usually do not follow my instincts and I ended up working for the wrong management the last time which was a miserable experience I would say.. I didn't want to make the same mistake again... Thank you for your warm welcome! Definitely has more love here!
• India
21 Jun 12
dude i hope you will find a nice job in future
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@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I hope so too! Or I'll be in bad bad shape.
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@wavelander (1526)
• Portugal
20 Jun 12
well, i had to be in your shoes to know if you did right. I'm also unemployed for a year and probably coming back to my old job in a call center to do costumer attendence. It's the worst of jobs, because you take complaining calls for 8 hours each day. But i have bils to pay and i have to hang on. Mentally is terrible but it's better than to earn nothing.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I wanted to get a job in a call center before but i didn't pass the final interview. :p Call center is maybe a good choice for somebody, even for you, you just don't realize it but you have the experience and the talent. The thing is, I'm in a state where I am starting all over again and I want to start it right. Maybe not in the best paying job but something which I will be more comfortable with and then gradually progress. I am in a financial difficulty too because of unemployment but I want to take my time this time to explore my work options before jumping on something I will later regret.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
20 Jun 12
you really should given your job at least a week. man, my job was very overwhelming but i stuck it through and i am glad i did because it is a great place to work.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I know, I know! Lol. I have a bit of remorse over my impulsive decision. :( But then again, I gave my previous job not just a week but a whole year; I had a lot of good times with my coworkers but the overall experience with the company was not something I wanna have again.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jun 12
h i youdi huh I have been ther bu t stuck it out as I had no money left and needed to get paid. I tried to learn and the people who hired me helped me to overcome my fears and finally I reallygot to like the job and was no longer nervou or scared.but it does depend on if yuou have money left,you can do as you did and look for a job that is less scarey.but know when you are new this does happen and a lotof times it can be worked out if you let others help
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Jun 12
I hate being the "new girl" so much. It takes time to feel like you fit in with the others and then learning everything. Even if you know basically the type of work, every place is different. It's just so awkward. I think every job I've ever done has been like that in different degrees at the beginning. I also know how she feels when you are at a job that in your gut you just KNOW it's not for you. I've had that happen too and I don't stay long. If you have the means to get by for a bit without a job and you really really hate what you are doing then by all means..just give a notice and look for something better suited. I believe I mentioned that in my response also but I haven't re-read it. If not, I should have.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 12
I think you have made a right choice. It is better to leave now rather than later when you have to give a month or two notice before leaving. Save a lot of pain or stress. When you already feel uneasy from the first day then imagine what it would be like if you stay for ever.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I thought about that notice part too! If Id have stayed there a little longer, then when I tender my resignation, I will have to spend more time until they find the replacement. I knew I'll quit soon and I didn't wanna waste their time and money on me.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
20 Jun 12
There's no need to feel bad in quitting your job so early in the training. sometimes we can just feel if a we are right for a job or not. It;s better to know early than to to prolong the inevitable. Good luck in your job future. I hope you find the one that is really right for you.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
aww, thank you! I sometimes think that I made the wrong move. I usually don't follow my instincts but your post has given me satisfaction and hope over my decision.
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Good decision! I hope and pray your other job applications will just come... God bless and welcome to mylot!
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Oh thank you, I need that! God bless to you too and I hope my future coworkers will give me a warm welcome like you did! :)
@Shazooo (296)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 12
I think you made a right choice to a certain extend. But that's just my thinking. The job you mentioned seriously sound like a difficult job, but given that you are currently still unemployed, (and say if i were you), I would've stay with the job for a while longer. At least until another suitable job is found. As for the unwelcoming co-workers, well, there are many more of them like that out there and I guess you just have to cope with it. Tho, most of them will slowly warm up to you after a week or so, maybe even less. But nonetheless, I wish you best in luck finding a new job that you would enjoy. :)
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Thank you! The smartest move would've been to wait until I secure another job outside. you're right :( I was just worried if i quit a little later, I would have to give a 2 weeks notice, then I will lose my new job if i got one. haven't heard from the other potential employers yet. :-S
• Bulgaria
20 Jun 12
quiting your job is not the worst thing that could happend to you. There are new jobs upportunities everywhere, a few weaks ago I was working in a farm in England and my cidneys got wors I had to quit dispite making great amount of money there I considered that my health is much more important than some money. Somethimes I feel bad about my choice now that I`m a lot better I wish I hadn't returned home but this is the life somethimes good somethimes bad you can't change your fate. The most important thing is to feal good on your work place and if you dont its just not the place for you. Our whole life we are looking for the place and the people who make us feel good.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I absolutely agree with you! I know people say you have to do what is necessary in order to feed your family, and if that means doing the most difficult job in the world, then so be it! But, there's more to life than working! Work is part of life but i refuse to let it control me. I wanna live too, not just work. I don't wanna continue this new job and then later on, suffer a stroke or colon problems because of the stress that it has put on me even on the first day! lol. Regret is something that we cant avoid; even I am already regretting my decision! But please know that if you didn't leave your previous job, who knows if you will still be here today? I think YOU made the RIGHT choice! :)
• United States
20 Jun 12
Putting you on the phone by yourself by day three sounds unrealistic. I can see if they gave you a week of training before throwing you out solo then that would be realistic. I hope that you do find the job that is right for you. I know I had to quit a job after three days because some of the flowers had gotten to me. I am allergic to flowers that have a very strong scent. It got to the point where I was having trouble breathing.
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
20 Jun 12
Oh no, goodness! You absolutely made the right choice there, no doubt! that's life threatening. I'm glad you're okay. :) That's what I thought, it was a little too soon and I felt like I wasn't given the proper training (although I've only been there for a day. lol)! There were no training materials and everything was like simultaneous. I was just there, observing the receptionist. Every now and then, I was bombarded with information that don't really make sense and I wasn't given enough time to ask my questions because the phone kept on ringing so I was just sitting there and trying to write down everything I hear from the phone calls/interactions with customers.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
20 Jun 12
hi dj, I don't know if I will make you feel better or not but But I will give you credit to know you felt like this was not the job for you and throwing in the towel...Kudos to you!!!! At least you saved yourself some humilation and embrassment especially the way you was feeling... I think you did the right thing..and I am hoping you get a job not necessary your dream job but something to make you feel a little more at ease. Good luck!!!!! you obviiously didn't need a job bad enough especially "not feeling the love" from a bunch of strangers played into your decision to leave...
@dj_huh (25)
• United States
20 Jun 12
Oh, thank you, that's so nice of you! I hope I get a job soon. I was totally embarrassed and totally out of place, which is common for first days? But I just didn't feel right to be in that place. I know I still got a lot of room for improvement but I didn't feel like being thrown to the wolves that soon and that many! lol. I do sincerely hope they get a more experienced and confident replacement (which isn't hard for them cuz they're like a big company). p.s. I do need a job, honestly and seriously. I just don't wanna be stuck in a job where I'd be in misery like the last job I had.