My 4yrs old dont want to go to school

@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
June 21, 2012 10:14pm CST
My son is turning 5 this august. And he is now in kindergarten, this is his first year in school Cause he did not took nursery. Although his first week was ok right now he is starting to dislike it. He told me he was tired of the seatworks and misses me alot. He also ask me if he can just study at home and not at school. Have you experence this with your child? What did you do in order to pursuade him that school is actually fun.
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@kajal1992 (354)
• India
22 Jun 12
Ha ha that's so sweet you reminded my childhood. When I was child like yours I was very mischievous , teachers were unable to handle me. I remember the 1st day of my school life I cried whole day "Mommy! Mommy!" and on the second day I did fight with three other kids and a teacher, because I was thinking these people are not letting me to go home , he he :) oh yeas the teachers use to give us chocolates to stay calm and silent. Well this year I came out of school and college life will begin now. I wish your child a brightest future. Missing my school days :-(
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Fortunately, my son didn't threw a fit on school... Yet! Lol! The teacher told me that he was just crying silently and when asked he said he wanted to gi home already. I jsut hope teachers would be kind to him and give him consideration. But still can't help but to worry.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Persuade him more nia, tell him what other wonderful things school could give him. My son went through this phase as well and we did not stop telling him how fun it is then eventually he made friends, now he does not want to stop.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
My daughter are 8 & 18 now, but I do have great memories of them during these times. Both i have to be with them everyday for about a week in the school, the first day I have to be inside the classroom and I made sure I am visible to them, they can see me at a glance. Persuading my kids to school was not really that difficult, I made sure they like the school items I got for them, bags, notebooks, crayons, pencils, etc. It does the trick especially on the snack box and from then it was just a breeze.
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@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
It is neither easy nor very hard to convince your child to go to school,by starting to narrate to him beautiful stories about how school could make him become what he likes most.Then try to have a neighbor who has a child where your son is enrolled,so you can let him compare him with his friend just to convince him to go to school.Let him feel that school is never boring where he can have lots of new friends.You can try it and am sure you gonna succeed in convincing him to study.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Studying was neverthe problen with him. He is a smart boy this us why he skipped 2 levels. I guess he was just used to having me as his teacher and i was thinking maybe since this is his first year at school it was a very big change for him. I tried everything, even read him this book "the kissing hand" and even let him bring a picture if me!!! ( which he kissed most of the time his teacher told me... ) I hope he'll be okay soon.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Ask some help from his teacher of not letting him become disappointed of the teaching styles they gave to the class,by introducing more happy atmosphere to students by making many more stories,even the teaching method of introducing the letters of the alphabets should be in a matter of story telling so they all may not become bored.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
That's what i've been thinking. Perhaps the teaching stlye is really different since i'm his mom i tend to be more patient with him perhaps. I did ask him if his teacher is being hard on him, he said no to my relief. I also talked to his teacher and ask her to give my son 1 to 2 months time to adjust and just be considirate on him since this is his first year in school. Hopeful everything will work out well next week. Cross fingers.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
24 Jun 12
Your child needs to form a bond with another child or two in his class. Do any of his classmates live in your neighborhood? If so, maybe you could invite the mother and child over for milk and cookies. Also make sure he brings his papers hone. Have him tell you all about each paper.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
Unfortunately, none. =( we have neighbors here who goes to the same school and they are really helpful (esp. the older ones) they also help me persuade my child to go to school. Like for example, they would praise him for waking up early for school, or how he looks so cute in his uniform, and how they would go to his classroom during break time to check out on him. It helps most of the time especially when we are on our way to school (we are just walking) but when we are near the school, that's when trouble came. I hope he'll be fine tomorrow. (monday)
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
24 Jun 12
It is nice that the older neighborhood children are taking an interest in your son. Have you tried talking to your son about the other children in his class. I had a problem with my daughter not wanting to go to school when she was in 2nd grade. I found out that she was being bullied. I went to the principal and got that problem solved.
• United States
23 Jun 12
This is like reading about my daughter once she went to pre-k. They run pre-k here I live at just like Kindergarten, but with smaller classes. She did not want to go after the fist week. She said she missed mommy and missed her brother. At the time I was homeschooling my son and she wanted that to. So, I got her to sit down with me and had her tell me everything she disliked first and then what she liked about school. Turned out she had more likes, so I played those up. I reminded her everyday before school of all the fun things she was going to get to do. We still had to do that when she got into Kindergarten and will probably have to do that before she starts first grade. I told her that school has its down parts, but she will make great friends and have loads of fun. She still has days where she wants to stay home, but they are getting less and less as school goes on. Hopes this helps.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
Yes it does help. Maybe I'll try out your suggestion too. I did ask him what he doesn't like about school and maybe I could write it down and compare from what is great about school. You can't stop worrying when it comes to your child, can you? Me either. ^__^
• United States
24 Jun 12
I don't think you can ever stop worrying, the worry's just change as they get older. Even if he cannot read that well or at all yet, make sure he can see the written list and make sure he thinks really hard about both. Also for some of things he dislikes try to find solutions. With my daughter missing me, I was able to one or twice a month come and have lunch at her school. Most times I would let the teacher know and let it be a surprise for her. Just the look on her face when I showed up was worth it, but I was very clear with her that I could not do this a lot just enough for surprises.
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
In my case is different, my nephew is excited everyday for school.. He enjoys much in their. And for him school is fun and I'm happy that he is eager to do school activities. Maybe at your case the teacher is strict, and doesn't have the patience with the kids.. Or maybe the teacher push them so hard to do their daily task.. Maybe the problem is in the school or inside the classroom.. So you must ask your son what happened in the school why he doesn't want to go to his school.. And you will company the child in school then observe what happened there during school hours... There are many cases on that some children expect the opposite of it when they arrive to their school and they became frustrated.. There are also some cases that children of that age their knowledge about school didn't trigger, some say there are late bloomers but when they bloom they are much active and excel to their school..
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Yes, i think so too. His teacher looks strict and this is why i have also talked to her and explain to her about my son's condition. I told her that this is my sons first school year and unlike his fellow classmates who experience school before him.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Jun 12
This is a battle that I am going to be going through here in a couple of months because my five-year-old son will be starting school for the first time. He has himself convinced that school isn't going to be fun and he swears that he is not going to go to school. Well, I keep telling him that it is going to be fun and that he is going to make a lot of new friends and it is something that he should look forward to. For him it is going to be a lot different than it was for his sister when she started school four years ago because Kathryn had gone to a babysitter at least a couple days a week from the time that she was two-years-old, but Paul has only had a babysitter that wasn't related to us one or two days in his entire life to date.
22 Jun 12
most of the children were not interested go to school.it means that they are in a situation that "he or she cannot live with out mother".it is regular in every day life.the solution is "the mother has to go to the school for some days that till the child had a friend with him.it can easily solve your problem because he indulge in his work by playing with the other chid.so it is the best solution"in my sense.beter you like it."friendship can forget and change many things and situations also behaviour".
• India
22 Jun 12
Most of the children feel dislikes to go to the school and recently it is seen in most of the children. I think you should tell him about the significance and the importance of schooling in his life. Make sure you don't miss to tell about the friends,fun and other beauties of schooling. This will surely attract him to go to the school.