Ever get the wrong message sent to you?

United States
June 22, 2012 4:35pm CST
I got a text message a little bit ago. I have to vent because, i am upset now it was from my own mother she wasnt trying to send it me though. It said something and ended with that sounds like (my name) then you dont want to sound like (my name) do you? I am not very happy at all thats my own mom its like shes saying something bad about me saying to someone you dont want to sound like her. We have never gotten along when i was younger but, recently i been trying very hard to get along with her and not be sarcastic and not be mean. I go to visit her not as much as i should but, she lives far away from me now and i mainly go to see my baby sister but, i dont tell her that. the last few months i though we were getting along good but, i guess i was wrong. Since she sent that i asked her what it was and she wont text me back like she knows shes guilty. What would you do?
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5 responses
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
At least you get to know the truth, right? Some people would do anything just to know what certain people think of them. I have a friend who even snuck his phone to some girl's bag with audio recording turned on just to record everything she might say about him. Pretty desperate, but as I said, people would do anything.
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• United States
23 Jun 12
Yeah, but shes my own mother. Arent your parents supose to love you.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Receiving a message like that doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. My mom called me obnoxious in front of my in-laws one-too many times and I don't mind. She's fond of making fun of, actually.
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• United States
23 Jun 12
Yeah, but theres a diffrence trust me my dad has picked on me all my life but, had never made me mad because, it was a joke. My mom isnt much of a joke teller hers is all seriousness and we have had a long not so great history.
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@syramoon (655)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I would have chewed her out. My mother and I have never been close, and most likely never will. I won't get into that story, but I am sorry you're mom's not only saying bad things about you, but saying them behind your back! That's horrible! I've had the same experience with my mother, but it was accidentally walking in on a conversation. Now I have had some random person send me their address, and told them. They were so embarrassed. I just told them and deleted it, because it's not like I wanted to visit them.
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• United States
27 Jun 12
Yeah, i know how you feel. My mom had me in the hospital 11 times from the time i was 8 to 12 years old from her being abusive. Those were just the times i actually went there were other times when i was hurt i didn't even go and verbal abuse and mental abuse was just as bad she had another child when i was about 11 i believe and she gave her up i never even got to meet her so i wasnt happy about that, but i am glad she did it because, i am sure she has a better life. Now just 3 years ago my mom had another child and she changed alot but, for some reason we still have our issues and cant always get along. then when i try really hard she does things like this to make me mad again. I feel like we will never have a good relationship.
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@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jun 12
ohmy gosh thats different she is lucky she did not get jailed for child abuse or had you taken away.now tell her that you do not 'appreciate being bad mouthed in a message to someone else. I would also remind her she is lucky she did not get a jail sentence for' child abuse. tell her that you will not visit her if she is going to keep badmouthing you to others.this is a whole different picture'I admire you for trying to get along. with her as she did not treat'you right at all.this is something she has to work on not you,as she has no excuse for child abuse at all.
• United States
29 Jun 12
Yeah, i lived with my dad most of the time but, i was with her weekends and it was awful, we even went through children and youth and they did nothing, i even had the bruises to prove it and somehow she still got away with it. We had a hearing so i wouldn't have to visit her anymore and somehow she got it canceled. My dad said if it would have been the opposite way they would have had his rights gone in a minute but, because it was the mother they got around it.
@yani99 (9)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 12
perhaps the nature of your partner's stubborn and will not budge, but you also must forgive him and accept his faults like any good to you.
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• United States
23 Jun 12
Uh, I was talking bout my mom not my boyfriend. I think you might have read that wrong.
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• United States
22 Jun 12
Being it is my mother I would probably say nothing at all. I would not want to get inot an arguement with her and that is why when I shoudl say something about something hurting me I just leave it alone. I feel as long as I don't have to live with her i can deal with anything.
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• United States
22 Jun 12
Yeah, that's a good way to view it. My problem is i get hurt to easily and i hold it in till it makes me sick.
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@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jun 12
musicluv4life well first off you do not r eally know that she'meant that in a mean way or a joking way ., talk to her and tell her you got that message and are hurt.perhaps she did not realize she could hurt you so and she might apologize for it. I hate to see moms and daughters at odds like that.get her aside and tell her she hurt you and why did she say that, maybe she needs to be shocked back into being a loving mom.Perhaps she does not know anymore how to relate to y ou.
• United States
29 Jun 12
I dont think she ever really realated to me we didn't get along when i was a kid. I am trying very hard to have a relationship that we never had but, then she does things like this and other things that make me wonder why i try. she went to the beach this week, didn't even invite me her boyfriend didnt want me to know they were even going anyway, she has been texting 4 or 5 measages at a time telling me what they are doing. It feels like she is bragging, i really dont want to know how much fun they are having when i am at home and didnt get invited.