Can you see the real person through their words?
By mikyung
@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
June 22, 2012 7:25pm CST
We have several discussions of this sort, inside and outside Mylot.
I have a number of online friends now who are consistently respond to my discussions. Making friendly gestures and smileys stuff like that. I really appreciate them.
I see a lot of members with decreasing myLot reputation, but I guess, it doesn't mean that they are that "mean" and "harsh" in real life.
I receive a lot of e-mail at work that sounds like they are shouting and authoritative - they have the "caps lock" thing. But in reality they are not that.
I even think, to the extent, of putting smileys and emoticons on business letters. Just to convey my real intention and what's inside me. I know, it's impossible to the majority. We are using some of those emoticons when communicating with my boss in the office. Just the casual thing. I'm using it in myLot too, though we have a limit of 3 myLot emotes. FYI
I have several friends for a long time which I usually go to. I admit that I already know some of their true colors through their words that they are using. Others are just sneaky.
I think you have several of this. What can you say about this?
Can you figure out the true color of a person through words even though you have just met him/her for the first time personally or online?
Can you determine through his/her words if he/she is genuine to what he is showing?
What ways by which you can convey effectively our true intentions and what's inside our head?
Thanks for your time
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16 responses
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jun 12
More or less you can see the real personality of a person by the way they write. However, I can say that this can be somewhat true to those who don't have a real knowledge in writing. But for those who are expert on the field of writing, they know just what to write on every situation they came across with.
I can see from some topics/discussions here in myLot the way others respond to a discussion and if I can feel some kind of heated arguments between the myLotters, I just leave the page and I would not put any comment on that particular topic.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
okay lost two comments copysometimes I too seem to write differentrly when I respond to my professor mylot friend and my friend who is
so up on all things mylot,.I do have a BA in English myself but
I tend mostly to write honestly and with sincerity to my mylot
friends here.I do not think I ever come off as formal as thats not
me, I am not formal, I am an elderly mylotter, retired from working in the library.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
I think, the reader or the receiver of that discussion should clarify what do they really mean by those words that were previously stated by the sender. They may be construed the other way around. I think, we have different levels of English proficiency here. Like me, I really need to read and work hard for me to understand the language. The bottom line here is ask "clarification" if something is blurry.
Thanks to you all here.
Like me, I really need to read and work hard for me to understand the language. The bottom line here is ask "clarification" if something is blurry. Thanks to you all here.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
23 Jun 12
One thing I wanted to respond to that you said was the expert in writing part because sometimes if you are a very good writer than you can write more things that are not necessarily your personality and sound a lot more formal.
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@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jun 12
I feel that a mixture of words chosen, things said, and how things are approached says alot about people. If they don't use good English or choose nice, respectful words then I don't feel good about the situation. A person with any experience around people can tell.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
i ls and evil grins lol.think that for me the majority of my really close mylot friends
tend to write simply and honestly and are not afraid to say I like
you or I love you.but again I have several whom three syllable
words only mean they are well educated and they too are m y friends but they do write simply and basically with real sincerity. You made me think, lol , shame on you, great discussion though. I use emoticons alot and some of my friends do too.sometimes I use them to show that I agree with a rant by using some devils and a evil grin too.,
ls and evil grins lol.think that for me the majority of my really close mylot friends
tend to write simply and honestly and are not afraid to say I like
you or I love you.but again I have several whom three syllable
words only mean they are well educated and they too are m y friends but they do write simply and basically with real sincerity. You made me think, lol , shame on you, great discussion though. I use emoticons alot and some of my friends do too.sometimes I use them to show that I agree with a rant by using some devils and a evil grin too.,1 person likes this
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Simple talking isn't a bad thing at all! I know lots of people who talk simply and sometimes that just makes things more understandable any way. :-)
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
hi echo yes it is really a good thing as we understand one other and have no need for four dollar words or fancy phrases
at all. I do cherish all my dear mylot friends so much.[
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
I used to tell my friends that i am more than what you see. Because we cant really put in words or actions the real "us". Maybe it somehow contributes, but not exactly. I still believe that if you know him personally, that`s the only time that you can familiarize him. Personality changes depending on people. If a person likes you, he will be kind to you and if not, he`ll do he opposite. Attitude is really difficult to see. Married people still fight and i think that`s still because of attitude that we still haven't see in a person
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
23 Jun 12
I feel it is little difficult to verify a true person through his words. For me, a person could only find whether he is true or not if I have some days with him. Simple talks in some hours cannot define him. I think I need some days to define or tells ones behavior and the attitude.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
23 Jun 12
Hi friend, it is really hard to judge a person using his words and writing way. WE must have a proper understanding to know about a person well. Some persons show their fake faces in online sites and their real face is completely different from the virtual face. It is really hard to judge a person with his/her words. They may change their words and ideas after some time based on their needs and situation
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
People can always be what others see them to be, by their actions by their words.. it is probably going to tell you something about someone but it may not be the whole picture. often times i think that what we think of soomething can be translated to what or who we are.. but then you need to know why this is the case. some people can be really open to talk about anything but can be timid at the same time with others, or at home. some people are just able to show what they want people to see in them...
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
NO!
I have been here for a long time and makes friends with a few only to find out that some are fraud and great pretenders.
It doesn't mean that a person who responds so sweetly and always agrees with your ideas, putting smiley emoticons are same in the real life.
This is internet- everyone can pretend.
Actually I have learned to weight things slowly.
Some people who sometimes opposed and debate with our opinions are true persons, because they are open with what they feel.
Although I am not saying that it justifies their rudeness- but sometimes we have to understand that everyone is different from each other.
Not everyone who sounds harsh is indeed a mean person in real life- they just want us to think and see things in reality.
One thing more, even in real life we come to know the real person once we got to chance to live with them under one roof.
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
23 Jun 12
I think that everyone interprets other people's words according to their own personality. For instance, if someone unknown to me would write me an e-mail, I would interpret it as if I have written it. What would I mean if I used theose words? I believe that you can only find the true meaning in words in the people you know better. I know how my friends feel by the way they write on messenger, or by the words and intonation they use. But this only happens to the people I know well. I other cases, I can only assume what they really mean.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Hello Mikyung,
Some people are "confusing" because they might say one thing but do something different.
I like interacting with people who are honest in their communication so you know what they're thinking.
If I spend time with someone I can usually "read" them. They might say things that tell me their natural tendency is to manipulate or control others.
I think we all make decisions about people based on our experience of them.
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@ganadinero (49)
• Cali, Colombia
26 Jul 12
people can or at least give impression such as really thois writing or his way of thinking, acting or speaking if people who have had education or are just people who are declared by its way of thinking, the character is firged through many circumstances in life, but that character can be changed if you think positively and give lectures to business sucess leading winner for each day a person with a caracter full of wat can be positive, since it destroys negative build positive and have to change their thinking.
@ganadinero (49)
• Cali, Colombia
24 Jun 12
People cannot be known for his way of thinking, how they act, by the way they walk, talk or write, you have to live with it, to know and even so, it is not fully known, that depends of his personality and character that has that day.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
I think you can't see the real person through their words because words are very powerful. Words are very easy to say but its hard to prove if they are telling the truth or not. But sometimes there are some people who touch our hearts through their words even though we dont see or know them as long as we felt him/her we can easy figure out if she/he is telling the truth or not. Here in mylot I know there are some of people who are sometimes harsh and mean but dont judge them easily maybe that's only the way how they respond or react in a discussion.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Well you can tell what they are like in myLot and with some people you can tell with their real life because they are similar. Sometimes it is hard to know for sure though unless they say so. I enjoy talking here and meeting with people, hoping to make friends and I enjoy the discussions. Some of the discussion I do not understand or won't participate in because they're too personal for me or I do not have anything to contribute. Here I am mostly how I am on myLot and I talk a lot on here but not so much in my real life. I just like it here to contribute and try to earn through my work. Its fun to write full discussions with people instead of rushing through with one liners to everything any one ever says! So i try to be more attentive and respond more for their reading enjoyment.
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@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Jun 12
Most often the truth points to the bare truth that people are not always as they seem to be. Nice talking people on many occasions do not necessarily be having charitable dispositions. What you is what you do..the dogma is seldom brought to practice by most individuals in our societal framework.
@blessing2u (496)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
I'm not gifted with the excellency of reading other people's intention. Therefore, I can't really read through their words online or offline. However, there's something inside of us that can discern, if we are sensitive to know which is right from wrong, bad from good. Some may pretend for a while, but in the long run, their color, their intention will always surface. People are inherently good people until they are influenced by the outside forces.
