Why do you think we shoulld have kids when we get married?or not even married?

@meumeu25 (917)
United Arab Emirates
June 23, 2012 11:33am CST
I am wondering what you people think, why we should have kids? I don't really have a perfect reason why I should have kids when I marry. All I know is I want to have kids. When I asked my friends why they should have kids when they get married, Their answer always includes, " So that their is someone who will help me and take care of me when I grow old ". Is that one of the purpose of having kids? What if your kids doesn't want to take care of you, when you grow old? will you hate them?
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@Bhebelen14 (5074)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
When I got married at first I dont want to have a kids since our financial status was not stable and Im satisfied with my husband. But years goes by I realized that husband and wife will never be complete without a kids. Now I want to have a kinds not because it make us complete but I wanted, I need, like to have kids to make our relationship more strong and more happy. Kids are best gift and great blessing and I am dying to have it so soon. Also I dont expect or obliged my kids to take care of me nor my husband when we get old, we wanted our kids to enjoy her/his life and I will never hate them becaus they are the most precious to me aside from my husband.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Jun 12
Good luck to both of you and your husband. I'm sure you will be a fantastic mother.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Thank you.
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@Shazooo (296)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 12
Well, everyone is different. There are lot of reasons why people have kids. For some people, they do it because it is traditional to do so. They follow it as a tradition to have kids when you are married, just like how they must have a Christmas tree when it's christmas. Some people, just wants to have kids. It may have been their lifelong dream to have a complete family. True, a lot people want their kids to grow up and take care of them, but whether they do that is another story.
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@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
25 Jun 12
I think its part of human nature and wanting to continue life that some of us want to have kids and some of us don't. Some people will say to love something other then themselves, or there partner to create a person out of there love. I don't think its my children's job to take care of my when I'm old they have there lives to live and they can live them. As long as I'm some where happy at that time I don't care if they are taking care of me or not. I would never hate my kids. My parents can't even hate me and my brother and they don't care that we aren't taking care of them they are still every able to take care of themselves.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
25 Jun 12
I would love to have kids one day, too. It is that miracle of giving life, taking care of someone else, protecting them at the cost of your own life maybe. It is the true meaning of life, in my opinion. If my kids did not take care of me when I was old, I couldn't possibly hate them. I think that you love your kids more than anything in the world, no matter what they do or what decisions they take. And a parent's job is to help them, support them and bring them on the good path.
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@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 12
I think you can have kids whenever you are ready. Just say you are not married and you want kids so much, you can adopt one and raise him. You don't have to be married to have kids. When you decided to have kids, I think you should open to any possibilities whether your kids want to take care of you or they don't. You cannot force them for they hve their own mind.. they can do what they want and what they don't want..
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@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 12
I think you can have kids whenever you are ready. Just say you are not married and you want kids so much, you can adopt one and raise him. You don't have to be married to have kids. When you decided to have kids, I think you should open to any possibilities whether your kids want to take care of you or they don't. You cannot force them for they hve their own mind.. they can do what they want and what they don't want..
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@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jun 12
meumeu oh myh G thats a horrid reason to have children, I had them because I wanted a family with the man I loved. and my son who is now my only living child has been all anyone could expect of her son.I am in a retirement center as my son and i were sharing expenses on a 2 bedroom apt until he got laid off in the middle of the worst downed economy yet, we used out savings to pay the bills,got behind on the rent , were evicted as he had not been able to find a job he was scared and worried for me as i was82 and a diabetic with a bad leg so when he still could not find a job he helped me get in here where they will take my social security and ssi checks for rent and board each month. he finally got help from housing America for an apt so he had a place to live and an address while he looked for work, this was free now hes working and lives in a boarding house a few miles away . he comes to see me every week. I did not have children so they could support me, no not at all.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Jul 12
Hi Hatley, Wow, I can't believe your 82, I was thinking everytime I read your responses, you were only around your 40s to 60s. I feel bad about what happened to you and your son. I hope everything is getting very well with you now. Anyway, I know deep inside me, that won't be the reason why I should have children. In fact I dont know, if I have any reason at all. I just love kids and to have them with someone I love would be just a great bonus for me. :)
@maximax8 (27333)
• United Kingdom
7 Jul 12
When I was a teenager I hoped that I would get my qualifications, buy a home, get married and have two children. I thought if I had just one child I would prefer her to be a girl. I thought if I had two children I would like a girl and a boy. Sometimes pregnancy isn't planned but it just happens when a lady is least expecting it. I always wanted to have children because I am a maternal sort of person. A baby is sweet looking and it is wonderful to see him or her grow up. I don't expect my children to take care of me in my old age. I wish to see my children grow up happy and choose a career that they will enjoy.
@EmmyLu18 (102)
• United States
3 Jul 12
While I personally am a very maternal person and eager to have children, I don't think everyone should. I believe people who have children have a responsibility to raise them to the best of their abilities for the next generation. Parents should help and encourage their children to be all they can be and more. If someone is not willing to put forth the time, effort, and energy, I don't think they should have children. As far as taking care of our parents when they get old, I think it's only fair considering the fact that they took the time and effort to raise us. Not all parents feel that way, though. Some think "I don't want to be a burden to my children." To each their own. Personally, I've been helping my mother take care of herself for years because she's disabled and I can't picture her without me. I can't see anyone else taking care of her and as far as I'm concerned, she'll always be welcome in my (future) home. If a child doesn't want to take care of their parents when their old and feeble, I don't think most parents will hate them. It's not in their nature. I think they'd be sad or disappointed, though, if that's what they had really wanted.