Only as Good as it's Users

@Suebee (2013)
Canada
June 23, 2012 12:37pm CST
I've seen some comments on here from people who say that mylot is becoming boring, or that there is nothing but a bunch of garbage on mylot these days. A site is only as good as the people who contribute to it right? If you feel that it is becoming boring or that there are no "good" discussions why not do something about it instead of complaining? There is such a variety of people using this site that there must be something of interest for everyone on it, and if you find that the discussions are becoming mundane, start one that will spark your own interest as well as the interest of others. The bottom line is that this site is only as interesting as the people who use it.
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@petersum (4522)
• United States
23 Jun 12
True in one sense but if only people would understand that this is a discussion site. There are too many senseless tweets appearing here, or worse still facebook type - God, I don't even know what name to call them! Discuss something! Not "My cat's got fleas." or "I want to eat ice cream".
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• United States
26 Jun 12
I agree with both of you here for the most part, although that really is not much of a surprise. However, I do think that talking about our local supermarkets or gas prices or news events could actually be a good and interesting discussion if a person put some effort into it not to mention actually came back and commented back to the responders to make it a discussion rather than a question/answer thing as some people do. We could learn more about the similarity and differences of regions around the world and even within our own countries if we took the time, but sadly many do not want to put forth the time or effort.
@petersum (4522)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Tweet: Just had a tiny chair wobbler earthquake here about half an hour ago. It's news but not a discussion, especially if your not even in this country. Let's remember, it's an international site and we don't know about your local supermarket or the price of gas.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
23 Jun 12
Oh I so totally agree with you petersum! Those are exactly the kinds of "discussions" that people are talking about when they say there is garbage on here. I'm hoping that there are enough people on here that are intelligent and curious enough to start/participate in different types of discussions. It appears to me that the "My cat's got fleas" discussions are started by people who are on here solely to make money and are typing the first thing that comes to their minds. For them it is about quantity, not quality. Hopefully there are enough people on here that care more about quality to make this a truly interesting site that people want to frequent.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
23 Jun 12
I might be wrong but aren't those who are complaining the same ones who don't have the time to make an effort and respond on the more interesting topics? I totally agree with you that myLot is what we make it and that complaining is not going to do anything to make it better. Indeed it probably makes it worse becuase if those 'complaint' discussions are seen by new users as soon as they join, then they are not going to get a very good impression at all I have not been here as much of late. It's summer and there are things to do in the evenings now. In fact I am already all dooled up and waiting for my lift to pick me up right now. Then tomorrow it's Italy v England in Euro 2012 so I will be away for that too. In between things I am here though, on and off weather permitting
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
23 Jun 12
Thank you sweet fannitia! As for the thrilling summer - we are delayed a bit at the moment due to a storm but once it has passed we will be on our way
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
hi diana it goes in cycles here this complaining about boring discussions and also nobody seems to remember what is interesting to one person might not be to another. some go gaga over discussions about cricket while I have not the foggiest knowledge of it yet I do not say thats a boring discussion., I made one about how refreshing it is to see some newcomers coming in here and praising my lot. now to some I suppose that discussion is boring too but to me It shows that mylot is still a great place to be.Also that others do see what we old timers see about mylot, its not just earning money but offers so much more
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@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
23 Jun 12
Hi, MysD, I wish you a thrilling summer in your beautiful country! Just a few good discussions are enough to enjoy myLot before going out. Have a nice evening!
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@betlynfrnds (4060)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Suebee you are absolutely right. Any get-together is only as good as the people want to make it, whether is's an online gathering like the myLot community or being with family and friends offline. I've been to gatherings with friends and family and have had an absolute blast. Then again I've been with people where I just couldn't wait until it was over. The exact same thing happens here on this site. It really is, as you say, what the members make of it.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
How true! And I couldn't agree more that the same thing happens at get-togethers in real life. Good point!
• United States
23 Jun 12
Well, I know I'm not bored yet, but I agree! The site will ebb and flow with the contributions of the users. If the users are bored, then it's up to them to add things to spice it up a bit! Maybe we should all take on a new hobby and then create mylot discussions about it! lol That would certainly make things interesting for everyone.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
23 Jun 12
I'm not bored yet either but I have to admit that there are some pretty lame discussions on here sometimes. Fortunately I can usually find something of interest to me.
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• United States
23 Jun 12
Yes, there are some lame discussions! There are some discussions about the exact same topics that I'm kind of really sick of seeing (ex, Ebooks or Paper books! in the reading section) and I am a little sad the admins don't alway delete discussions that have been around before. But I still find lots of interesting stuff to comment on.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Me too although some days I find more than others.
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• India
23 Jun 12
I never feel that mylot is boring. There will be new discussions here in every moments and I am very excite to read out them. The complaining people may start a new discussion that feels best for them just as you said .
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
hi wonderboy did you get some cute hats to hide that hairdo and are you not feeling a lot better today too as Pageturner asks. and hi page turner I am kibitzing here. lol.lol\
• United States
23 Jun 12
Hello thewonderboy I hope that you are feeling better today. :)
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
23 Jun 12
Hello Suebee I have enjoyed getting to know different people from all over the world here on myLot. Some of the Discusions are lame, and it is obvious when they are posted just to make money. Sometimes I respond to them, as I look/wait for the more interesting Discussions to roll around. What astounds me are the people who are incredibly rude and grumpy in response to some Discussions or responses. Why is there this need to be so rude? If someone thinks a Discussion is lame, so what? As long as it meets the standards of the myLot rules, why take the time to just be hateful? Simply don't respond. I know that some of my Discussions are weird, but that's what I prefer. I see other Discussions, some of which I think are lame, some are weird, whatever -- I don't see any reason to go int them and berate the original poster for their tastes in Discussions. Most of the people on here are very respectful, and I appreciate them very much. I'll try to come up with some interesting or 'good' discussions. Peace! I love the world!!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
thanks Pageturner just wish I had been able to say that as well as you have. Its just not nice to be rude to anyone just because you think that discussion is lame or boring.if you feel that way simply button your lip and pass it or me by.I do my best here and if my best is not good enough for some, they are welcome to zip right past my discussion,
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
I, like you Pageturner, see the lame money-maker discussions for what they are and I usually do not reply to them. I have also seen some people who tend to be rude in most of their responses/discussions so I avoid them as well.
• United States
26 Jun 12
I avoid the haters as well Suebee. I can't risk their spilling their haterade on me. Peace.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
24 Jun 12
You are so right! The other point is that if you look through the lists of discussions there is usually something that will catch your attention and peek your interest. Very often when people comment that MyLot is becoming boring, it is because they are rather lazy and don't want to look for a discussion that they can participate in. And, as you said, if they start a discussion that isn't "MUNDANE" or "BORING"...or is it that they can't find something interesting to start a discussion about? Everything in life is what YOU make it. We all are given the ability to make choices. Our job is to decide what the right choice for ourselves. What it boils down to is that it is your choice to be bored or have something interesting going on in your life. With the Lot, it is your choice to sit and grouse about the boring discussions or to take matters into your own hands and create interesting discussions.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Well said Loverbear. My thoughts exactly!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Jun 12
Hi there Suebee, I agree with you on this. I also agree that it's true that there are a lot of "junk" discussions on here. It's always been like that. I don't get bored with it. I can usually search around and find some good ones to respond to. I'm terrible at coming up with things to discuss but if I really felt that way, that is exactly what I'd do...I'd think of something to start a discussion about. If I don't feel interested in being on here, I usually figure that it is just me needing to be doing things other than sitting on the computer.
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• United States
26 Jun 12
Sid, you make an excellent point - sometimes we feel bored on here due to things in our personal lives as much as what is actually on this site. That is not to say that there are not boring or repetitive discussions, etc., but if we are in a good mood, then we might be more inclined to look deeper for more interesting discussions or to start one of our own. If we are not in a good mood, however, then we might just get discouraged and not want to put the effort into finding something that appeals to us, and I think that is perfectly normal and natural.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
It all goes back to earnings. The people who are here just to earn money start a discussion while putting very little thought into what they are saying. They want to start with a simple one-liner and expect people to carry it for them because they are too busy trying to think up another topic so they can get in their 10 discussions for that day. If I tried to start 10 discussions a day, every day, I think I would run out of ideas as well.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Once in a while I feel like that but not very often. I can usually find something of interest on here. Sometimes I'll go and play a few games on Facebook, then come back and find a good discussion.
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@adforme (2114)
24 Jun 12
Mylot has a diverse community of users, and within that community are diverse attitudes. I know I don't always have the best time on mylot, and when I don't I get off. I would sugggest that it is "good" to have your opinion, and vent if you must. I am glad your attitude about mylot is positive. It helps when you are posting and responding I would imagine. Of course, anger and dissatisfaction creates a need to vent, and mylot is available for whatever is on our minds. Remember, as long as we are following the rules, it is okay to express ourselves.
@adforme (2114)
26 Jun 12
I hope the community grows and people express themselves honestly. I feel like mylot is an outlet for my feelings sometimes. People get on here and make their choices. They have good things to say and sometimes bad, but it only benefits them to express thoughts. Rules are in place, but people are all over the place with respect to opinions/attitudes. Express yourself and reap the benefits of participation I say.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
And that's a big part of mylot--feeling free to express ourselves. How true. And it's great that people feel comfortable enough to do that here.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Exactly adforme!
@lampar (7584)
• United States
23 Jun 12
That is quite normal for some one to have the feeling mylot is becoming boring as time go by, but it sure doesn't seem like mylot is just bunch of garbage and nothing else except for a few garbade 'dumpster' trolling among us. The best part of being a Mylotter is that you have the freedom to get in and out from the website as you wish if you have the slightest boredom invasion inside you, no one here is going to stop the dumpster from the exist and entrance with any means, there is no need to harbor hard feeling toward mylot and any resentment as far as i am concerned, it will only as interesting/not interesting as the person who use it, you hit right on the jackpot on this!! .
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
It's true. Sometimes I go between mylot and playing games on Facebook. If I wait a few minutes, there is sure to be a discussion posted that I feel like responding to.
• United States
26 Jun 12
So you are going to put all the responsibility on me to find things that are interesting for me ... or make me start discussions of my own if I cannot find anything of interest reading discussions started by other people?! I think that is far too much pressure and responsibility, especially now that I know that I am supposed to be "interesting" all the time!
• United States
2 Jul 12
Why thank you for such a nice compliment, ma'am. It is a good thing that I have such broad shoulders if the responsibility rest solely on them or I would not be able to carry it ... and it is also a good thing that my hips are just as wide as my shoulders, otherwise I would topple over from being so unbalanced, although some people would disagree and insist that I am "unbalanced" anyway.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
2 Jul 12
You? Unbalanced? Never! And ur welcome!
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Yes purplealabaster, the responsibility rests solely on your shoulders!! (just kidding!!) You ARE interesting, so share your interesting thoughts and ideas with us! lol As a matter of fact, you certainly have made this discussion more interesting. Thank you for your participation!!
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
30 Jun 12
I do have to agree with you on this. It is only as interesting as the discussions being created. Some people do complain, but some people do honestly get tired of doing the same thing day in and day out. Those are the ones that just take a break for a while. The complainers, well, they are on any site you go on. They just have a need to complain. Don't worry about it, and pass those discussions over. Just look for the interesting ones and continue writing good ones.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
9 Jul 12
Exactly, there is always something here to peek your interest. I have no problem finding a discussion that I am interested in. I do pass up some of them, not because of complainers, but because they are not what I am looking for at the time. And I have not started a new discussion in a while. I need to get back to that after I catch up with all these emails.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
1 Aug 12
Sometimes ya gotta know where to look as well.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
1 Jul 12
Exactly the way I look at it. I've come to see, on the short time I've been on here, that some people here are chronic complainers and whiners, so I avoid their discussions. I can always manage to find something interesting on here or start up a discussion of my own.
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• United States
23 Jun 12
Hi Suebee, Good point. We always have the option of starting new discussions and it never makes sense to complain. I think the people that become bored might also view mylot as a job where they need to hurry and reach $10 for payout. The pay is just a side benefit. Most importantly, to me, is that we all have opportunities to teach, learn and share on this site. We all have different interests and it's all good, from my point of view.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
hi sherrybelle you said a mouthful and I really agree and so many do not see it as a place to learn, to teach,'to share and make lasting friendships too. they look to make money and to be entertained and thats not the purpose of mylot. if they want to have entertainment go to their televsions instead.We all do have different interests and thats great, thats what makes life interesting.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
I totally agree! I have learned a lot by being on here as well. Sometimes people point things out to me that makes me see things from a different point of view. And you're right sherrybelle, those that are here for the money or who consider it a job, I think are losing some of the best benefits of mylot.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Most of the time I enjoy responding and reading to every discussions but there are times that I got bored especially when I am here for a long time but after a few hours of resting I am here again ready to discuss and respond. Mylot is not boring because there's alot of people here that has a good skills in writing and lots of interesting topics or discusions which posted ever now and then.
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Sometimes I don't even respond, I just enjoy reading the discussions. There is always something of interest on here.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
24 Jun 12
Personally this is so much the truth and I cannot believe that people would actually say this. With all the different interest s that there are here, etc I cannot understand how someone would say this site is boring. I have been here now myself a little over 5 1/2 yrs and anytime I cannot find something interesting to want to respond back too, is usually because I am not really in the mood to want to be here.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Eggggs-actly. I find the same thing! A lot depends on my own mood!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
yes they do something about it they move on to another site or they take a break and then come back, they do this all the time. You revelation is not new take it from an old timer like me.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
...and I take a lot of things from "old-timers like you"!
@patgalca (18164)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Jun 12
I think part of the problem is the repetition in discussions. If I am passionate about a subject like writing, and someone is asking for advice, I will most likely comment on the post. However, if I see the same question asked over and over again, like what type of books do you like to read or which book have you read more than once, I'm not going to answer that every times it's posed. After being on here so many years I have lost interest simply because there really doesn't seem to be anything for me to comment on. I don't start very many discussions because I don't feel I have anything DIFFERENT to contribute. What I like about myLot is the anomymity attached to it. If I have a problem or confused about something but don't feel I can ask someone I know personally (like I'm not going to post it on Facebook), then I know I can come here and get some very objective opinions. I do like questions that make you stop and think and may even find myself changing my view in the middle of typing a response. This is why when I go onto myLot the first place I go is discussions under my interests. However, I am more prompted to come here upon seeing a discussion of interest in the daily digest or one I receive in my inbox from a friend.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
I too like the anonymity of mylot. I feel free to express my opinion on her and not be judged by anyone for it. True that some things are on here so often that you don't want to answer or post on them over and over again. Sometimes I just read the discussions without actually contributing, especially if my point of view has already been discussed in a previous response.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 12
hi Suebee this same thing comes up in cycles and I have said what yuo said, you dislike what we write in discussions then you write that perfect wonderful awe inspiring, utterly interesting discussion and show us how its done.okay so I got a bit sour-castic? but its true that those who complain the most are the ones who never bother to make a discussion themselves. I never have found mylot all that' boring as there are many many discussions on here all the time.Yes if we are interesting people and if once in awhile we remember all here are not poets laureates just ordinary people and do not expect published writer type discussions we will fare a lot better.One thing too not all of us like the same discussion and what to one member is boring will not be to another.too this is not prime time televison series made for amusement but people writing from their hearts about family problems and all sorts of troubles and looking for others to lend some advice or just a shoulder to cry on.If this is amusing fine but to me I just look for what interests me and often see my friends are hurting and I offer whatever help I can give.To the bored I say participate more and offer ideas and suggestions and ask for idea but do not complain all the time about mylot. grrrrrrrrrrrrr.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Personally I love mylot. I always seem to be able to find something of interest to me on here. I find it helps to expand your interest but only include things that you are truly interested in. I also like to check frequently the discussions started by friends. It's true that most people on here, at least those whose primary reason for being here is NOT money, write from the heart about things that interest them or problems they are having, seeking advice, whatever. I just skip over the lame, money-making discussions and go for the ones that I can sink my teeth in to.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
24 Jun 12
I couldn't agree more! If you find Mylot mundane,do something about it! I do get sick and tired of people complaining here! There are hundreds and hundreds of interstes a person can choose from! How can MYlot be that boring? With alot of discussions come from my everyday life! To me that is a good way to start a discussion! If not, there are lot of other topics out there that aren't boring a discussion can be mnade into! People need to open their eyes! When they do that Mylot will not become boring!
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Luckily I do not find mylot boring at all. I can always find something of interest on here whether it be to respond to or just to read. Sometimes I get just as much if not more enjoyment out of reading as I do responding.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
24 Jun 12
If one spreads their net wider and don't just look for topics posted by 'friends' they will find that this place is flooded with interesting topics. But "one man's meat is another man's poison" so the saying goes. If one applies this principle nothing is boring here. There is something for every one. We have to remember that this community consists of users with different tastes. If ice cream is what they want to discuss about and if it is not a poll type what's wrong with it? I like chocolate ice cream!
@allknowing (130088)
• India
26 Jun 12
While registering myLot does not ask for anyone's background, or what their hobbies are. In other words every one is welcome here and so one should expect varying interests. Whatever be the interests as long as they do not violate guidelines there is no reason to get worked up
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
1 Jul 12
I agree. I just respond to the topics that interest me. I must admit thought, that at times I do find myself saying to myself something like "what a lame topic" while rolling my eyes, but I just ignore it and move on. No sense, as you say, getting worked up about it.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
Well, that is one way of looking at it allknowing. And true, if someone wants to discuss what they had for dinner, then they can go ahead. Not everyone has to join in to that particular discussion. Like you, I can always find something of interest to me on here. In fact, I sometimes feel that I don't have enough time on here to discuss and respond to everything that I would like to.