I just want to be happy and contented to my career and life.

Philippines
June 24, 2012 11:23am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, Just a quick one, as this topic just came across my mind, since, a lot of people was telling and keeps on reminding me, that, better to obey your parents so that you will find success in all the things that you do. Thus according to many, obeying what they are telling you to do will lead you into a successful life. But, this thing is not happening to me. Being a daughter, I don't feel happy to what my parents is telling me to do. As my heart always feel hurt whenever they are pushing me to do what they want. And even I aired my concern, they will still insist their idea. What if, I continue what my heart wants, does it mean, I will not get the success that I am longing for. As far as I believed, support and understanding should be given but I am not getting any of it. I just want to be a good daughter but I also want to be happy and contented to my career and life.
9 responses
@Austina (92)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Parents are there to guide as along the way to success. But they should not tell us what to do and what should we do. You will never be successful if you do not want what you are doing. True success is about gaining in your field of career. Disobeying our parents from what they want us to do is not a big crime. As a parent, they should know also their responsibilities towards us -- the dos and the donts. Try to explain to them what you want and what if you will do what they say. Perhaps a good communication with your parents is the best thing to do first.
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Hi there Austina, Actually, I have done all my efforts. I have talked to my parents about what I want. But, it seems that they are not after where my heart wants. Though they did not oppose at all, but, they are not giving their blessings for me to start on what I really want to do. And it is really hard to move in a situation like this.
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
That is really hard if that is the case. If you really want what you want. You will pursue thru it. Just show your parents that its the best decision. If they see that you are on success, they will accept it in time.
• United States
25 Jun 12
In some areas of the world people don't have the freedom to do what they want to do. I live in the united states where we have this freedom. i think everyone should do what makes them happy. but,having upset parents won't make you feel any better.
• Pakistan
25 Jun 12
totally agree if your parents are happy you would be happy if they are not, even you try to be but can't be happy.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
hello aira, Another saying goes "the greatest frustration is when we quit before starting" It doesn't matter if you fail following what you want, than regretting your whole life for not trying to do what you want. Maybe your family may get hurt for disobeying and not listening to them- but, not all advice from elders is good for us. It doesn't mean that they are older and they are always right. Yes, they are your parents- but disobeying them doesn't always means being disobedient and a bad child. We can always voice out our opinion in a good manner, and hurting them is a part of it.
25 Jun 12
hi there jaiho2009, i liked your quoted saying.I, myself, sometimes did that. There are lots of negative thoughts coming into my mind saying what if I can't be successful or what if I can't make it. At the end of the day, those are just lousy thoughts that would hinder you in achieving your dreams.
@ranay85 (16)
• United States
25 Jun 12
There comes a point when you have to realize that you are an adult and have to make your own decisions. It doesn't make you a bad daughter to not always do what your parents say. It just means you have a mind or your own. I completely understand not wanting to disobey/disappoint your parents. I am 27 years old married and have a child of my own and still seek the approval of my mom and dad sometimes :)
@GemmaR (8527)
25 Jun 12
I don't think that there is anything wrong with obeying your parents if they're giving you good advice, however one of the things that you have to remember is that parents don't always know best, so if you really think that the thing you're choosing to do would be in your own best interests then you should just go ahead and do it. You don't have to obey their every rule for you to be a good daughter, and I am sure that they know that you have your reasons for having to make your own decisions, and they will always be there for you if you ever happen to make the wrong choice.
• China
25 Jun 12
Own life own decisions,I think if you like you can do the best,as long as you continue to hold.your parents will understang you,support you! come on!
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
As for me, it is good to obey your parents there is nothing wrong about it, but making your parents decide of what you wanted is a different story. You are making your own life, living your own dreams and decisions to risk. Parents do listen and support in a way they are looking up for there family members own good. I cannot tell whether you are mature enough in making your wise and good decisions, but i rather tell you to stand for what you truly love and willing to give in for yourself. I don't want you to rebel, but keep on sharing you dreams or plans for yourself, soon they will able to listen for what you wanted to do. Just be patient and kind in doing it. And always remember whatever you decide and plan pray and abide in GOD.
• United States
24 Jun 12
As a daughter who has always done the opposite of what her parents tell her, sometimes it works out and sometimes it does not. I was told not to marry my first husband, I did and had a wonderful son, but soon found out that the hubby was a controlling 'insert bad word'. I was told to divorce him and look for true love, did so and found my wonderful second husband and he gave me a very sweet little girl. They have told me not to do a lot of things and for the most part they were only half right. Yeah sometimes what they said would happen, but I also had very good things happen due to my choices. As long as you can still look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day after making your choices, then who is to say you made the wrong one. As a parent to two wonderful children I can see how I want their lives to go, but in the end they have to make their own choices and live with them, because some day I will not be around to tell them that I think they are wrong. You could always do what I do, thank them for their opinion and tell them that you will weigh what they think with how you think and feel, because in the end it is your life and only you can lead it.
@maezee (25329)
• United States
24 Jun 12
You have to do what makes you happy and follow YOUR dreams not anyone else's. If you are doing something you don't want to be doing for the sake of your parents, you won't be happy. I'm lucky to be in position where my parents do not try to live vicariously through me... Or set any big goals for me. Sometimes being in that situation stinks, too, though, because I wish my parents did have high expectations for me. But whatever. Do what makes you happy!