June 24, 2012 3:14pm CST
i have 2 older children,22 and 20 my son left the house about 5 months ago and my daughter left a couple of times and got pregnant and came home. when she got home i gave her 6 months to find a job and a place to stay. she just left on June 1st now i am stuck with a room full of stuff that she has, every time i ask her to come over and help me clean she has one excuse after another. i finally told her that if there was anything that she wanted out of the room get it out and she told me to throw it all away but who get stuck cleaning the room me. comments would be awesome.
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 12
LMFisher666 oh my you did get stuck with all her stuff. Odd that out of the mess that you describe she left behind she did not want any of it? One thing puzzles me, being she had just six monthsg to get a job and move, could it be there's some bitterness between you two and thats why she did not want to bother coming back? I guess my parents were more lenient and did not kick me out but just waited while I found out what I w anted to do with my life. My mother and I were very close and I cannot comprehend being told I only had six months to stay and I would be kicked ou t. I did go out on my own at 20 and stayed on my own coming back often to spend weekends in my old home.I did not need parental wrath to make me find a job I wanted to be on my own. I helped with groceries when I came on weekends just to help out a bit. but my mom would never have thrown me out. course I did not get pregnant until I was married seven months.I did stay with my mom when my husband went to Calif here to get a job and find a house for us. I had come down with walking pneumonia and has a hard time caring for my two littleones as ill as I w as.
• United States
24 Jun 12
she had come back home two times before than and i also have a little on to take care of this last time she did not try at all to better herself and i felt that the best thing to do for her was to let her do it on her own because she was not getting no where staying under my roof
25 Jun 12
my daughter is 19 and seems to have every excuse in the book not to get a job either. she is planning on going away to school in the fall but only if she has enough money (of course, she doesn't realize this yet). she is pretty lazy but this week, now that school is over, she is in for a big shock. no mr nice guy!
25 Jun 12
It can be very hard to put our foot down when we have older children, because it is too easy to allow them to live like a child in your home without paying anything towards it or without having to help you around the house. Well done on standing your ground, and you should tell your daughter that if she hasn't picked up her things by a certain date you will be doing a yard sale and getting some money for her things. I understand that her life might be busy, but she should still make time for you as her parents and she should take responsibility for her own things.