Would you deny your sister your liver and bone marrow, so that she will live?

@eileenleyva (10963)
Philippines
June 24, 2012 9:18pm CST
My Sister's Keeper, a poignant story of a family's struggle to combat cancer, specifically leukemia or cancer of the blood, poses not just a moral question of how much are we allowed to give so that another might live, but are we denying death, the natural end of life, it's due course, because we can scientifically harvest organs from donors, and try to save still a life, even if we know that the hope we have has already dimmed? I do not know yet the answers to the questions in this movie starring Cameron Diaz, a real change actually from the chick flicks that I know this actress is known for. Hope you'd watch it, I did feel as if I was my brother's keeper, aren't we all?
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@LovelyxOdd (1193)
• United States
25 Jun 12
I have seen this movie. I think it was wrong of them to engineer a child to harvest so they can save their first child. I understand they did it because it is a horrible thing to lose a child. But in order to save their sick child, they are potentially risking the life of their other child and it almost shows favoritism. Regardless, I think people would not know what they would really do unless they were in that situation first hand. I would definitely give up organs to save my own children, but I would probably not engineer a child for the purpose of harvesting, nor would I probably surrender my organs to a sibling.
• United States
25 Jun 12
The problem I had with the movie was that they created a kid just to help another child. As much as I love both of my kids I would never bring another life into this world to try and save the other child. It is not like they had in intention already to have another kid, they specifically, medically engineered her to be a donor for her sister, to me that is just cruel. To know that if your sister was never sick you were never going to be brought into this world. I know I sound mean, but you got to feel bad for the living donor that was made to feel bad if she did not help her sister, its like she had no vote in it. It was the older sister who was like enough is enough.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
I haven't watch this one and didn't plan to until I read your response, which is really an interesting synopsis to the movie. I now feel like I should watch this and see for myself how the movie goes, although I now know most about it.
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• United States
25 Jun 12
I did the same thing and watched the movie so that I could see both sides of the movie. I found that the movie made you ask very hard questions to yourself and it made you really think. Most movies now a days do not make you think about anything 5 minutes after you watch the movie. i also have no problems with donors who are aware of why they are doing. There are just some descriptions in the movie on what they made their youngest do for donating and it is a little hard to hear.
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
26 Jun 12
If it's going to save her and keep me alive as well, I'll do it without a thought! Isn't that what science is there for anyway?
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• Mexico
25 Jun 12
Hi eileen leyva: I would say yes to be a donnor to save a life of someone. As I once read, don't think you are giving a part of your body. Someone is actually giving his/her entire body so a part of you will still alive even when you passed away. ALVARO
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jun 12
I'm with Minnie0923 on this one, in the movie the younger sister was intentionally created for her older sister's sake, or to be her older sister's keeper. Infact it wasn't her desire to refuse the donating thing, it was her older sister's request. It seems like her dying older sister loves her more than her own parents. Which was totally unfair and mean. I don't really know how to answer this question, it's kind of scary to even imagine it.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
Hi eileenleyva, I truly feel that we are all our brother's keeper. I know a lady who donated one of her kidneys to her brother, probably more than twenty years ago and both have been fine ever since. I also have a friend who donated bone marrow so that his brother might live and he is still living, and doing fairly well, after maybe ten years. I don't think of it as a moral question at all but believe that we must do everything we can for each other. The day may come soon when we will be able to replace any organ successfully. We are Gods hands and feet in the world but I think he also means for us to use our brain and our mind to come up with every solution possible. Blessings.
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@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
25 Jun 12
I did not see the movie but read the book quite amazing!I would not denial an organ to a family member or any one for that matter! but I would not give birth to a child with the sole purpose to save her/his sibling that to me is a very selfish decition...we owe to ourselves to live our own life and no parent should put a child in this position.
@isohyeoh (223)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Nice. John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
25 Jun 12
I saw that movie, and I cried over and over again. I had also lost someone dear recently, and that is why the movie felt stronger. I would never deny anything to my sister, in order that she lives. She is one of the most important persons in my life, and I would do anything to give her a chance to live. I wouldn't even think about it.
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• Philippines
25 Jun 12
The movie was a real tear-jerker, if you ask me. And I was really uncomfortable with the fact that the little girl was conceived to be a "living donor" for her sick sister. You see, I have a daughter with autism spectrum disorder. And a lot of times, people have been telling me to "have another kid" so that my daughter will have someone to talk to, or that someone will take care of my eldest daughter when I pass away. But personally, I do not like that very idea. It makes me cringe. I think it is very unfair for my "future-next-child". My hubby and I are one in the idea and belief that if it is God's will to give us another child, then we will accept him/her and love him/her...unconditionally, and certainly without any other motives. Don't get me wrong, I do think about those things too, but I stop short of doing so immediately after because it is just not fair. I know because I too have an older sibling with autism. But no, my parents did not "plan" to have 3 more because they needed to insure my brother's future. And they never insisted or brainwashed us whatsoever. Nevertheless, we love our brother and we are all ready to take care of him when the time comes that my parents will have to leave this Earth.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
25 Jun 12
In a family, nobody wants anybody to die because it's equally sad. If i can give my bone marrow to save my family or wife, i would definitely donate it, no second thoughts. If it means i will die, so be it because i don't want see them suffer the agony of chemotherapy. IN the case of the movie, i will do the same thing if i'm Cameron Diaz, i prefer to be the one going through the pain barrier, at least that's the last thing i can do for my family.
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• United States
25 Jun 12
I have seen this film, and it is pretty tragic, and surprisingly, things like this do happen. When my brother was getting ready to die, I was willing to donate anything that I could to keep him alive because my blood type is the same as his, but none of it was enough because he was rapidly going into multiple organ failure. Keep in mind though that I was of legal age, and that my brother and I were not created to save each other, just to keep each other company. In "My Sister's Keeper", the one sister was created in order to save the other sister, but the truth is that can be taxing on both children. You can end up destroying both of your children instead of saving both of them by doing that to them. Also, you are playing Russian Roulette in situations like that. Who is to say that the other child won't come down with the same problem? That can happen. One child has it, and then another one is created and they have it too. The one sister didn't have any problems, and she was perfectly healthy, but she had to be poked and prodded to save her other sister, which wasn't right. When my brother was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, people thought that I might have it too because we are brother and sister. I was poked and prodded as much as he was, and I had to give him his shots sometimes, and make sure that he never went under. It's miserable. My mom and step-dad wanted another child after my brother, and I was thankful that they didn't because that child could have ended up just like my brother, and I didn't want two children going through that. I did feel as though I was my brother's keeper, but I knew that he didn't want me to take care of him, and he didn't want to have to ever take care of me. Children shouldn't have that job.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
I think I am going to watch this film soon. I got intrigued. Now, to answer the question, I think that I would give anything for my sister or brother to live. That is just how close we are to each other.
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@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
25 Jun 12
Dear friend, I have not watched that movie. In the case of donor may be I would give to those who are close to me. Even though I may hestitate to give to unknown. Moreover if those doctor guarentee that no further harm will happen to my life and health. I feel health would be harmed. But at times when I feel if this situation was to me searching for donor....I may donor to those close one.
• United States
25 Jun 12
I watched this and then thought about it during and afterwards. I guess I decided that I would do it form my own child but not for my own brother or sister. And before you go wow, how rotten. The reason is this. Even though we are more closely related to a brother or sister D.N.A. wise than our own children we did not choose to be their relative. I know that my one brother and my husbands brother turned out to be horrible, rotten people to us. I think it's just a different feeling towards your own child.
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@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
Haven't seen it yet but now i think i'm going to download that and watch it. It sounds interesting. Don't know how far i would do for my siblings but for my son, i could give everything to extend his life. Even if that means losing mine.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
25 Jun 12
I would be a donor to a family memeber if I found out I was a match. That would be the only way i would do it. I feel if you can help a person have a longer life why not? I hear and see to many people die way to young,like children! Some people deserve a second chance at life!