What do you do when you have fight with your friends?

@vycess (1588)
Saudi Arabia
June 28, 2012 2:29pm CST
It's hard to explain how did it started. I know that I'm not perfect and sometimes I just can't help to be easily irritated and ignore some people. I tried to approach again the people whom I know that I ignored the other day but then they are not talking to me anymore and then the others too don't talk to me anymore. So what should I do? What do you think? I know it's my fault but it's hard to reconcile to people whom you feel that doesn't want to talk to you.
9 responses
@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 12
I never fought physically with my friends however, I do have mis-understanding with them. If you make every necessary effort to re-instigate the relationship and it not being positive, I think you should be now indifferent. Sometimes, a natural cause will bring you and the person together. You do not have to kill yourself because someone do not want to talk to you.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
29 Jun 12
I'm surprised that you actually know what I feel of like quitting and just be killed by something or someone 'coz I feel so alone right now. But perhaps your right I have to be strong but where am I supposed to get strength when no body is with you and it feels horrible.
@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 12
Always have conscience void of offence then live your life. Do not let people write the script that you should you should live in your life.
@alutka (211)
28 Jun 12
Each of us has those days in my life, each of us has the better and worse days, but if you have friends around, people trust it will certainly understand your moods.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
28 Jun 12
Yeah I know that we've been together for 1 year now and they are still not used to my attitude? I guess? or should I just not consider them true friends? But it's hard... really... that's reality even though I'm saying in my mind that it's ok I can do this on my own.
28 Jun 12
A year is really not that long and true friends is tested through time, a long, long time!
@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
I understand how you feel, you want to talk to them to have a peace of mind and I admire you because you admit your fault and the willingness to reconcile with them immediately. But I think just give them time for awhile to think and to cool down. Much better if you wait for the perfect time and place before you going to talked to them again to avoid some unnecessary arguments. I know if they are your really friends they will forgive you and understand your actions.
@vycess (1588)
• Saudi Arabia
28 Jun 12
I hope so... that they would understand but somehow I still have doubts if they are true friends or maybe it's just because of the fights? Hmmmm... it's really hard to pretend to be ok and feel alone when there are really people around you. it's been 2 days now.
• Philippines
28 Jun 12
I know it must be hard but be patient, maybe it just all about the fights. I think you just hurt their feelings the reason why they keeps ingoring you for 2 days. Hope very thing will be okay very soon.
@asliah (11147)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
hi, i have experienced this when i was in college and i had only one close friend there,but then we fought and we never talked for almost 2 weeks,yes its really hard for that,but because its not my fault so i dont need to do first move so i waited her to come first to me.
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
I don't like having fights with my friends. So what i do is i talk to them, sort out the problem. Sometimes, saying sorry isn't the easy thing to do. But if you really care about your friends, it's not good to throw away a good thing just because of a misunderstanding. I'm sure if you think back in the past where you regret not saying sorry for something you did wrong. They only don't want to talk to you now because they're angry as well. If you show them that you truly regret what you did, it won't be hard for them to accept your apology. You have to remember that saying sorry isn't a way of making you look weak. It's a way of showing that you're the bigger man. That you know where you went wrong and that you're man (or woman enough) to take the first step. It's usual for people to get angry at each other and not apologize. But it's not everyday that you see someone apologize for something that they did wrong. It would help if you could think back to a time when someone did something wrong against you and said sorry. How did you feel about that? I bet you felt good. It's just a small bump that you'll go through now by saying sorry and them giving you a hard time. But you will be fixing a friendship. And make sure that when you say sorry, you're not going to do it again.
• India
29 Jun 12
Friends are the only treasures you own during your collage days and you must value it and along with it you must keep them inside your heart. If you feel you had done the mistake then you must say sorry to all your friends and you must regain the friendship which you had lost. Collage days are very small and remember this is not the time to have the pains from your friends. Try to love them, to compromise with them and try to have memorable times. This days will surely put a smile on your face when you think about the incidents after your collage days.
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
I think that I experienced this kind and posted the experience here. Anyway, what I usually do is ignore or leave them alone. I was never the nagging type and I won’t start now. Besides, I need space of my own and time to think about what really happened. If I do get a sense of what transpired, that’s the time when I talk to each of them. Of course, I am talking first to the friend who I had still some good relationship. If we can patch things, I can go to another with some support. I guess do that until the whole group or the whole situation is resolved. Of course, there will be bumps along the way but reaching the handful of friendship is always good the sooner the better.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
28 Jun 12
Never mind, things do happen from time to time. It is good that you acknowledge your misgivings, and your willingness to make things right with your friends. Sometimes, though, the healing process may take longer than usual, but give them some time and space. Then try to re-approach them and make another offer to them - as a form of atonement - and leave it there. Often, these persons may forgive you and forget it (that is, the issue that was the focus of the problem).
28 Jun 12
Time heals all wounds, so just let them be angry or whatever for this moment, maybe they're really hurt with what you did. Just don't initiate any acts that will caused the problem to grow even more.