Does getting mariied kill your relationship?

I don't think being married kills relationships, I think people kill their own relationship. My relationship is stronger than ever and I have been married for 7 years, together for 8 years. We are in love and have been through more than most of the people who got divorced. If someone doesn't want to make their relationship last, it won't married or not...

I don't think so at all. Getting married is definitely the way to go if you truly love someone, and you are old/mature enough to make that life-long commitment!

What kills relationship is the inability of both parties to keep the vow. It is not the act of getting married actually that kills the relationship. Marriage in fact strengthens the relationship but the problem is there are people who lack commitment and faithfulness.

I don't think that it is getting married that kills a relationship. I think it can be the everyday daily affairs and stresses of life that can destroy a relationship. Whether a couple is married isn't the deciding factor. A couple has to spend time together and work on strengthening their relationship whether they are married or not.

NO! Marriage does not kill relationships. People kill relationships. If a relationship is going to end it will end. It doesn't matter if it is a marriage relationship or a live-in (some folks call it shack-up) relationship or a relationship where they live in separate places. In each case, the people involved kill their own relationships. In any of these cases, the people have to be committed for the relationship to work. The problem is in all relationships, they last until the people get tired. They get wore out and want to end it. Instead of working through whatever the problem is, they just throw it away. Some work and some don't. My parents were married 51 years. They were committed. SIL's parents have been married 50 years. They were and are committed. Today, we tend to be committed while it's easy and then we quit on our partner. There are still many people married and otherwise who have been and still are committed to the relationship and each other.

Hi friend, Marriage is the start of the relationship, it don;t kills it. The couples who don't have the proper understanding and trust kills the marriage relationship as well as the meaning of the marriage, the increased divorce rate clearly shows that the couple don't have patience and not interested in compromising with each other.

The reason the divorce rate is so high is that many people are not able to have successful relationships. They are not willing to rise to the occasion, whether that means compromising, communicating, or just behaving with maturity. The difference between marriage and other relationships is living together. If two people can learn how to live together they can stay together. If only one person is willing to make sacrifices, things are not going to work out.

It all depends on the people involved and the relationship, honestly. Some people change after marriage. Some people jump into marriage as if it's temporary, and then it inevitably turns out to be. Personally, marriage really strengthened my relationship with my husband and I've found it to be a lot less stressful and more fulfilling than dating before marriage. I think both people have to be mature and prepared for a lifelong commitment. I've known a lot of women who are only focused on having children or what their wedding will be like, and that's nothing to start a marriage on. I've known men who expect to receive more out of marriage than they are willing to give. Then there are all shapes and sizes of people at some point between. You should go into a marriage expecting to give your life for the other person...if you are willing to do that, you have the selfless mentality a marriage deserves. Also, go into it knowing that your life path and your partner's are similar...for example, if one person wants kids and the other doesn't, it's unrealistic and ignorant to believe the other person will change down the road. Marriage isn't for everyone. Many people don't have what it takes to make something that committed work. Many people don't want the responsibility. Many people are selfish and unwilling to dedicate themselves entirely to someone else. Many people simply don't want to be married. Too many people go into marriage believing it will automatically make things great, just like many people have children expecting only to have the best of experiences. Both marriage and parenthood are highly idealized, and that is unfortunate as many simply are not prepared for the reality of what is a mixture of responsibility, selflessness, and lifetime commitment.

I absolutely think that getting married is the sole cause of getting a divorce, because if you are not married, then you do not need to get a divorce. Yes, I know that sounds flippant, but it is true. You can sit there and look at the divorce rates, but without anything to compare them to they really do not tell us much regarding relationships, especially whether or not most work out as there are not similar statistics for long-term relationships where the parties do not get married.

Hello LM, No marriages don't kill relationship. It depends on the person how he/she takes that relationship and make marriage a success.Divorce rate i think is due to the reason as these days people don't want to take responsibilities and live life on their own way they forget that they have to do some compromises with their spouse.I am married since 8 tears and we are still leading a happy married life.

it depends on you and your wife and husband, if you think it will kill then it kills but if you think it will not , then its not, because if you believe in something that is going to happen then it happens, and you work for it to happen, marriage grows love

Hi there Lmfisher, I have heard about the divorce rates nowadays and it seems really increasing significantly. We are just so lucky that we don't have divorce here in my country because if we do have that...then I would hear a lot of celebrity gossips with divorce and stuff. And probably there would be a lot of broken family. Anyways, I hope these things called love and family should never be taken for granted...and they should think about the kids of course. Have a great day!

It does not. It depends on the individual. Marriage should a blissful union and not one that should generate foes. The relationship, though I do not know whether, it is between the couples or with others?

anything can kill your relationship. However, after you get married there is a tendency for both persons to relax and not care as much. Therefore, not doing the things that you did to get the person. People sometimes relax when things look a little more permanent. That's the problem. Have to keep going at it like ya just met.

I don't think that marriage kills your marriage. At least, it wasn't the case for my husband and I. I don't think that our relationship has suffered, since we've gotten married.

I think it depends on the couple and on their reasons for getting married. And on how they feel about divorce. Personally I don't think divorce is an option. If I get married, that's it. End of story. I will go to the ends of the earth for my man to make the relationship work because I believe in marriage. But, a lot of people nowdays don't believe like that and those are the people that get lazy with their relationship as soon as they get married and figure if they hit a bump it's okay they can always bail out with a divorce if the going gets rough.

Everyone always says it does but I've seen very vibrant couples who have completely been satisfied with their marriage arrangements. I hope you do not become dissatisfied and uninterested with your lover because these are some of the things that van be relationship killers. Just find a lot of decent advice and keep your relationship exciting and new!

hi lmfisher666...i don't think it is marriage that counts, but who you are married to that makes it work...sometimes people just get married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong person...i love being married to mr. psychoartist, but for many many years i did not want to be married, the very idea was horrible to me, and i did not want to be a wife...but now that i am married to the man i love,my soulmate everything in my world has changed...i think people should just be more careful about who they marry and when they get married!

In my opinion (and is is just that an opinion) the reason for the high divorce rate is that people don't take marriage as seriously as they used to. That being said for some people marriage does take something from the relationship, but only because some people look at it as taking ownership. I have known many people who, once they got married, felt as if they in a since owned the other person making it OK to be selfish in the relationship. I also know people who have been married for many years that still have date nights and make an effort to keep the fun parts of the relationship going.