So quite

@suzzy3 (8357)
July 2, 2012 4:01pm CST
All the other neibours we have had we always got along with,lend a cup of sugar look after the kids ect the normal things .We have had new neibours for about two years and don't even know where they work or what music they like.I did send a christmas card last year.To no avail they are just not having the friendly bit at all so now I have decided to say blow it.We share a path and we are semi detached ,we don't hear them at all.They were so quiet for weeks we wondered if they were still alive.I am not a nosy person but we live in a small village and it really notices.My neibours across the road are really nice people and they have given up saying hello or trying to talk to them.Somebody knew them at their old house and said they were exactly the same there as well.So it is nothing personal to us.What are your neibours like? We have no neibours the other side as we are the last ones in the row.None of us round here live in each pockets but sometimes we ring each other especially in bad weather ,in fact I keep the old people down our road in milk and shopping if we get snowed in.I wonder what will happen if they need help ,where will they go? I expect they will knock on my door and I will help them.could never send anyone away.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I bet u are a really good neighbor. Would be glad to have u as one. My neighbors are not like they use to be & i'm sorry about that.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
I would lend you a cuppa sugar anytime anti.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Thanks Suzzy, i appreciate that thought, Same goes here.
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• India
4 Jul 12
Today most people spending time on tv and office, otherthan that they know about only their office friends they are not giving importance to know about the neighbours staying around them.Today people thought that money only do all tasks mankind is waste.They only need help when they want.These kind of selfish peoples are living around the world.But it is not also their fault.They brought up in that manner.Some will change their attitute when growing and making relationships with all persons and some wont.Relationship always makes people to talk each other and do needfull things when they want.It is a give and take policy.Today people wants take policy only.If they change their attitude then only upcoming generations will follow the tradtion of relationship and its strength otherwise the world become matters of money without knowing the value of relationships.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
You are right give and take has changed to take.Money is an important thing as we all need a certain amount to live.A kind smile does not cost a penny.
@else22 (4319)
• India
14 Jul 12
We had just the opposite experience of neighbors we had a few years.A small family comprising of only four or five members rented a house near our place and they declared their arrival and presence on the very first day.I can't describe to you how noisy they were.Even while talking normally to each other they used to speak so loudly and fast that we felt they were quarreling violently.We had to rush to their home to mediate and pacify them. However they were extremely socializing and friendly people.Within a few days of their arrival they befriended each and every person in our neighborhood including us.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
16 Jul 12
They sound a lively bunch but they sound a nice bunch who meant well.
@else22 (4319)
• India
17 Jul 12
Yes,they were very friendly and nice,but too noisy.
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@else22 (4319)
• India
18 Jul 12
Thanks a lot for the BR.
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@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Hello suzzy, I'm happy to have a neighbor who is caring and thoughtful as you. Yes, there are people who are really like that neighbor of yours who don't want to mingle or does not care to know who their neighbors are. I would love to live in a neighborhood whose people are helping each other especially in times of need.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
People seem to be changing all shutting themselves away and they don't know what they are missing.Anyway keep smiling.
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Anyway, what's wrong with being friendly. Being friendly doesn't mean you want something from them in return. But neighbors are neighbors and they are suppose to help each other in times of eventualities just in case.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
12 Jul 12
I know but what can you do.
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 12
Argh, why don't I have you as my neighbor? I'm not really a friendly type, but at least say hello once a week, is fine. Just out of politeness. Like you said, if something happened, who's they gonna run to? Saying hello does not make you poorer.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
16 Jul 12
You sound a good neighbour.The thing is I would help anyone like most people would.How could anyone be so rude.Like I said in previous replys it is up to them.All my friends say they wished they lived next door to me and my husband.I have learn't not to worry about it.
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 12
Yeah, don't worry about it. One day that neighbor of yours will realize what he/she missed in life; a good neighbor.
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@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
18 Jul 12
That way i am very much lucky. I had very good neighbors. Moreover it is not at all wrong to say that in time of difficulties they are more near then relatives. It is not that we often meet,chat each other,but whenever there is a need they are ready to help and so i am. Sometimes relatives being staying far from us can not reach in time but neighbors do.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
18 Jul 12
Exactly you go to help from those closest to you untill relatives can get to you to take over.Some have no relatives to call on ,so neighbours become family instead.I do have friends nearby my house I can ring if there is something I cannot cope with.
@siekcai (50)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 12
Your neighbor should be a people who does not socialize with other people, or maybe they find too hard to get close with other people. They should be melancholy person. Maybe you should to more active first to your neighbor. Because melancholy people is not socialize people who need a lot of time to be close with other people. But Melancholy people usually is a trustworthy person.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
18 Jul 12
We have gone through all the reasons why they are like that.but when it boils down to it they are just rude.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
14 Jul 12
Hi, Everyone needs help and the time may come that the neighbor would come to you and ask for help. We have nice neighbors and they are always with us when we need help. We don't meet everyday but in the need we are together. Your neighbors are lucky that they have nice neighbor like you.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
16 Jul 12
All the rest of my neighbours cannot understand them.Our house always takes in parcels ,people leave keys with us sometimes.We have even looked after sick pets for our neighbours across the way.We don't want any medals to us it is the right way to act.Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.
• India
14 Jul 12
Hi friend, sorry to hear about your neighbors, i wonder why they are not social? my neighbors are very kind and we have good relationship with them. We must mingle with the people whoever living near to us
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@suzzy3 (8357)
16 Jul 12
up till now all our neighbours have been kind a lovely.You are so lucky to have a good relationship with your neighbours.You are right you need people around you to talk to .Everyone else is nice around here
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
there really are those type of neighbors. well, i was like that when i was living away from my parents in college. i lived in a place with neighbors but we dont get the chance to meet or talk about something. we were in one compound but we have our own doors though and it's kind of the opposite sides. we can hear each other but we dont have time talking to each other i guess. well i was kind of independent by then so i dont worry and i dont get sick but whenever i feel down, i just manage on my own.. maybe, they travel a lot and busy with their work. so thats why..
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@suzzy3 (8357)
12 Jul 12
Sounds a bit lonely get out and join a club.Maybe it just takes one to make a difference,go out of your way to say hello.
@kelzbelz (36)
• United States
6 Jul 12
one time we lived in a little trailer park and we lived on the lower level and they lived on a hill and these people started to be our friends at least we thought.a couple months went by and we all where good friends. Until the kids went to school and told a bunch of rumors and then the kids parents went around the trailer park and told rumors on my mom. And started a big fight that these peoples kids that lived on the hill would throw rocks at out window and try and brake it and then when we would go to around the house they would throw rocks at us.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
That is awful,what a bad experience for you.I cannot blame you for being cautious.Making friends is always a risk but you must not give up,just give it a bit of time before you tell them to much about yourself.I have had great friends for years and we still don't tell each other all our business. A shame for you.
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
5 Jul 12
That is one weird neighbor you got there. I wonder what they do and why they seem so shy or worst rude on not even saying hello. There's nothing wrong with being chatty once in awhile with your neighbor since you'll never know when you need help from them plus its natural for humans to make contact with each other. Maybe they are aliens or something?!? Just kidding. Hope to have people like you in my neighborhood when I leave for a new town next year.
@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
Funny you should say that.We often wonder that ourselves move down my way anytime.We would be glad to see you and Maybe even speak!!!!!!!!!
@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
5 Jul 12
Hi Suzzy3 when I was growing up we had great neighbors. Mom could borrow from across the street or next door. Neighbors were great. today in the neighborhood I live in its really wierd. See neighbors have the cops at their homes so I stay away. I have 2 good neighbors across the street that I could ask and I have the feeling if they had it or could do it for me they would. Last year I had a neighbor I barely knew but noticed their mailbox was open with mail in it and it was getting ready to rain. So I went and knocked on the door and an elder gentleman come to the door and I let him know. then during the summer him and his wife remembered my kindness and also that I had a medical background, and he was on top the roof (84 years old) and fell off. His little wife come over she was 82 bless her heart and she came over to ask for help with her husband. I assessed him and called the paramedics and they came and he wound up breaking his hip. Which I had already told them myself. So I feel good that she felt comfortable enough to come from not really knowing me to get assistance.
@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
It sounds like your neibours over the road are really sweet.It is really nice to know they trust you to help them and they can come to you must be a great comfort to them.It is comformforting to know there are still really nice people around like you.We do have some nice neibours around here as well.The trouble is the old ones are passing away and we get some really strange people replacing them.At least I can come and here and have a natter.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
4 Jul 12
Here in the USA, it seems to be more and more like that, more reclusive. Most people in neighborhoods don't know each other or very little of each other which is so sad because back in my young days, everybody knew everybody and everybody pitched in to help one another. These days people have become more and more reclusive which I hate but what can one person do to change it? Especially if others aren't receptive to your plight. Accept it for what it is and let them be is all you can do. They must have a plan of their own if something were to go amiss and don't want anybody else involved. Sad? Yes it is but that's the way they want it or they'd be out mingling with the others.
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@suzzy3 (8357)
7 Jul 12
I think thats what I miss from childhood and up to recently.We did not live in each others pockets.We gave each other lifts if we were going that way.Minded each others kids for an hour or two.I used to keep my neibours kids while their parents had doctors or school appointments.All the new people make you feel very nosy or look at you as if you are loose around the brain.Suspicious of every one makes you wonder what on earth has happened to them in the past, or it could just well be living in the country for so many years with the same people ,I just don't know whats going on in the world outside.