Communicaiton within relationships

United States
July 2, 2012 7:03pm CST
I used to think that communication was the key for a relationship to work well and last long. Now, I still do believe that it is important but how do you make a relationship work when one person tries to communicate about problems, concerns, or issues and the other person just doesnt say anything at all, but completely ignores you; hopeing that the situation would just soon blow over. I've seen it in romance movies plenty of times but you can never really see the real consequences that it has within the relationship. I wonder if ending the relationship or simply not pushing someone to work on forming a better relationship with you is the better solution. Whether that be a spouse-spouse relationship, friend-friend, co-worker-co-worker, or even family relationships.
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@GemmaR (8526)
3 Jul 12
Communication is certainly one of the most important things that you can ever have in a relationship. Without this, there is no way that any of us would still be together because of the fact that you need to be able to sort out your differences if you're arguing with somebody for example, and if you just let things lie that worried you, you would eventually get to the stage where they worried you too much to be able to contain your feelings about them anymore, and this would then cause an argument that you might not be able to recover from.
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• Malaysia
7 Jul 12
communication and relationship is quite useful in nowadays
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@riyauro (6428)
• India
8 Jul 12
communication can clear all the misunderstandings in a relationship. It can be any relationship, for example lovers, husband and wife, mum and daughter etc..It is good to pour out your heart rather than sulking within..communication supports the foundation of a relationship.
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9 Jul 12
Communication is a very important factor in sizing relationship. This is one of the semi volatile constrent that badly determines the quality, depth, nature and quantitativeness of your relationship. Before you could justify the kind of relationship you want to develop every thing gets prefixed with your first communication. Might it be vocal or visual. So he who have learned the good art of communication is often sorrounded with lots of nears and dears.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
3 Jul 12
not dissing my husband or anything but that sound alot like him. i am the only one who communicates with him. i think he thinks im stupid. one night we had an argument. a lot of woman think he's stupid and he doesn't knos anything. Hes a smart man, smarter than most of the men i know! so when we talked i was like ur the one that thinks im stupid, with me not going to college and all. and he didn't deny it. usually when somethings not true, the other person deny's it, right? im not going to leave him! im sure i will have spend my whole life making his communication a little better. i know most ppl would give up and get something better but not me!
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4 Jul 12
I was originally going to post that I would form other relationships to supplement what the current relationship was missing, but I think you've backed your man into a corner there. He probably doesn't think you are stupid given he chose you, I imagine he would be lost without you. Grass always seems greener until you get to the other side, then the rain kicks in and it turns to mud.
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• United States
11 Jul 12
Relationships always work when there's honesty and communication. It is highly important to be able to tell each other anything and everything that crosses your mind and that you dislike, that way your significant other knows what to change and try to fix.
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• United Arab Emirates
13 Jul 12
Not going to college doesn't have anything to do with being stupid, for having such thought about you he's just being the jerk not accepting he's wrong in his lacking of communication with you. Anyway good thing you did is staying stuck with him and letting him know the truth about how you feel. I too find myself in that situation, my girl used to be the type that communicates well but along the line I gave her space because am out of job since late last year and being trying to get another which has not being forthcoming, right up till this moment she doesn't fell connected to call because I stopped just to focus on some things earlier this year, I feel she has sumone else she is now connected to, that is one thing about communication, it comes with attention and when you start getting it somewhere else then things change between who you choose to communicate with.
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@osakii (2)
• Kuwait
3 Jul 12
every relationship wil work wit communication ecept one does nt love d odr.
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
in relationship both love and time should be balance
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• United Arab Emirates
13 Jul 12
Verelop29, I don't mean to disagree with you but communication helps improves a relationship and therefore balances love and time like Nestor22 said and less communication means less love because you can't get to love someone you are not thinking of and if you are not thinking of that person you don't love them. Let me balance this for you, I meant you only think of your lover at anything you are free and not thinking about yourself, such thoughts like what he/she might be doing at that moment and with such thought there is the will to know, which leads to a call to them to ask and that is the communication. No relationship works without communication because we tend to feel for people who gives us attention. That's a normalcy in human genetics engineering.
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• Philippines
27 Jul 12
i truly agree with you shynepapin101. communication plays a big part in a relationship specially in husband and wife, parents and children. we communicate not only in words, also in our actions.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Jul 12
I am a firm believer that communication must exist within any relationshio. If you dont have the communication then your relationship could very easily fsll apart. communication is the bond that holds your beliefs together and makes you what you are. having communicati0n is what sustains and molds our relationships and lets them nurture and grow or just fade away,
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
true. based on my experience, a lot of things will happen when the relationship is lacking specially when you have a LDR. it's very difficult to understand each other when the other is not listening and not taking and the other is giving and always talking. there must be an even distribution of labor in every relationship to ideally attain it.
17 Jul 12
ya communication is very important.
@leighz (457)
19 Jul 12
Yes, indeed. It's impossible not to have misunderstandings and fights within a relationship. Communication mends a broken relationship. The only way to compromise is to learn and accept the issues that both parties are facing. So let's not burn bridges but work it out through openly communicating.
@Suziecha (89)
• China
4 Jul 12
I used to think that kindness and sincerity is the most important for making relationships better and lasting. But now, as you said, I believe that communication is just as important. And it is not very easy to communicate effectively. So we should be going to learn how to do better communication, which is the only way to make the relationship more harmony and life more beautiful and mesningful.
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6 Jul 12
yes,I agree with you very much. I think how communicate effectively is we should concern. But there is a question troubling me:how we can do when we meet people who are not sincere or they will not do as what they have said in communication?
• China
6 Jul 12
Ah, I have come across this situation. Is there a special reason when the one don't keep his words? If there is, that's OK. If not, I believe that as long as you are honest with others, they will be sincere. Making relationship need the joint efforts.
@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
3 Jul 12
Communication is a two way traffic. There are those who don't really talk a lot but they show they care about what you say by their gestures. Now it is another thing when the other person isn't really listening and does not seem to care about what your woes and cares.
4 Jul 12
I don't want to post something redundant so I guess I'll just say that I agree with this post. Let's just say that a relationship could only work if both parties know what each other is thinking so they'd really need to talk every once in a while.
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@leighz (457)
19 Jul 12
Yeah, there are some people who show how much they love someone in a different way. There are people who are more into action than words, but when they say something it's more than you expect for.
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Communication is a two way traffic; when one is talking , the other one should listen. There is always that give and take situation. But what is annoying when one is keep on talking about oneself whether good or bad but never try to listen the other one who just keep on listening; there is no communication happening here. I believe that communication is very important in every relationship because what's the use of keeping that relationship when you don't know each other so well through good communication. Communication must be experienced every moment of the day.
• Malaysia
23 Jul 12
Agree hundred percent of what you are saying. Communication is the way of a person to know other people. Without it, you can only know people through their action, but action alone doesn't make people to really know you.
• China
8 Jul 12
Communication is very important in any relationships. But several days before, I watched a movie. And I understand that if a man doesn't contact you or communicate you, he is just not that into you. So why should you keep yourself into him? Someone don't share ideas with you, they just don't want to communicate with you, and you can do this too. Don't ever do those f***ing things again. In a relationship, people communicate with each other so that there would be no misunderstanding and they can keep good relationship. But if HE does not want to do that, why should you do those meaningless things.
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• India
14 Jul 12
Yes, communication is really important, in your case, the man will communicate with you if he loves you or interested to know you I think... Beside that back to the basic, I read that communication is inseparable from the human. From the assumption that, eventually will lead us to the question "how people communicate?" Instead of "why do humans communicate?" However, in the name of science, of course, that the communication function should be explained. The urge to communicate may be almost similar to the purpose of communication. Thomas M. Scheidel reveals that humans communicate to state and support the self-identity; establish social contact with other people, and to influence others to feel, think, or behave as we want. From here, we can see some important points. Close communication with the submission of one's image to others. In addition, communication is also used in the context of social life. Communications also has a persuasive function, namely to influence others. So, maybe that the man in your story still yet not confidence or still "see" whether you like him or not. Shyness also contributing in blocked communication I think...
• India
4 Jul 12
communication helps people to share their views and ideas with each other.If one person having knowledge and another person do not have much knowledge the communication would not helpful for knowledge person but at the same the poor knowledge person will get more knowledge by talking to the knowledged person.The person who is having equal knowledge should share a lot of things with them and they further develop their skills.A communication with relationships or friends should be calm and decent words.If you shout the other person the communication immediately goes to an end.So,communication is depends upon the words spoken by a person.
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 12
hi my parents used to shout at each other and never got anywhere towards solving any problems. I had migraines until I moved out on'my own from the shouting and dissension.
• India
4 Jul 12
well without communication, whatever relationship it is won't be strong and it can't be a sincere and faithful relationship without knowing your partner completely..
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 12
musicloverfriend you are so right,communication,trust and respect to talk it out and respect each others opinions too.
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
This happened to me. Our only communication is through texting, we have a lot of issues to talk to. I always open those issues to him and ask for answers but then he don't want it to talk through phone or text he want it in person. But we really don't have time to talk in person so before getting back into a normal happy relationship I want to first solve all our issues. So everytime he texts me at first I'm on the good mood then suddenly open the problem and ended up not replying on me. For me communication really means a lot, if the both of you have problems and misunderstanding you need to talk it through but like in my situation he wants it by in person, so I just have to wait for that time for us to solve it and talk it through. Every problem little or big can be solved by discussing and explaining it with each other. For the both of you to be able to ask and answer each questions.
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@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jul 12
dont you see hes right its got to be face to face both of you respecting the other,the texgting crap is not going to w ork as its not real communication. fun perhaps but not for serious issu es you must meet face to face, make time for it if you value your "relationshipe"dare I think marriage? no of cou rse not marriage is old hat I guess bu t I was married and happily and we did talk face to face.
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
For me communication is one of the key to a successful relationship so if you want to work it out be open to each other so that if a problem may appear you two can talk about it and solve it.
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• United States
8 Jul 12
Isha242, Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Here are some tips to allow for better communication: 1. Both partners should make a pact that, when speaking to one another about a fear, concern, hope, etc, that the other will not punish them. Both people need to be safe and that they can be honest with their partner. 2. Women should wait to have discussions about their relationships with their partners until when their partner is not currently busy working, playing games, working in the yard, etc. 3. Women should try to keep their concerns/feelings to 15 minutes. Anything over this time for a man becomes overwhelming and lacks impact.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
7 Jul 12
I also think that communication plays a good role in relationships. I think good communication helps to make the relationships better. I think that words can do miracles in life of the people. I always believe it is good to say that a person should say he or she should love you to their partners.
@Marean (3)
• China
7 Jul 12
If we can communicate with others timely and accurately,we can build up firm and long relationship to make our cause successful.If the communication with each other isn't smooth,our real ideas won't be conveyed to others and then misunderstandings and jokes occurs.The famous saying says"The road has many friends is easy". So one can't live without communication.
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@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
In cooking,if one ingredient is lacking it will not have a great taste.just like in relationship,if one factor is missing it will not work well. and one important factor is communication without this one will not know what is the real problem between them.they will not solve any problem if they lack communication .
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@EmmyLu18 (102)
• United States
4 Jul 12
From what I can see you came up with the same conclusion: communication is key for a relationship to work. But that means BOTH parties must communicate. Without one, it's not really communication it's just one person talking at the other. The other key I believe that goes hand in hand with communication is respect. If you don't respect the person you're dating or they don't respect you, people are going to be hurt and dissed and stuff.
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@hadi333 (46)
4 Jul 12
Communication is a key-factor to a better understanding between relationships.... It helps both parties to have a better relationship since you'd have someone beside you that you can talk with..... Having a good office relationship would make a person much more calmer and happy with his/her job since she has the teamspirit which make him/her a valuable team member/ asset of the company.
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• India
4 Jul 12
I dont know how to mix relationship and duty. One who is on duty should not expect any kind of relationship that is a kind of bribe. Relation works well where expectation ends.
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@mangle (10)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
For me, the best way to communicate is when you have set a time to open up, when no one is at it's bad day or is just not feeling well. More like a day wherein you guys can open up, share what you feel, share about your concerns both as individuals and as partners or couples or may it be as friends. Issues are not resolved easily, as per experience but being true to one's self is the key to better understanding and better explanation of one's side. Also, try not to speak when your partner is talking, let each one has your own time to speak so you will get the point and not just misunderstood things again.
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