You hurt me a lot, but I hate my self for not hating you!

@DenverLC (1146)
Philippines
July 5, 2012 9:06pm CST
Have you ever tried loving someone despite all the pains he/she had caused to you? Why is it that sometimes we want to end up a relationship, but the more we exert effort to forget and hate that person, the more memories are coming back and the old feelings of love prevails.. I hate this, do you?
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6 responses
6 Jul 12
You feel that way coz you still love her. Don't expect that your love for her will vanished overtime, it needs time and you have to help yourself too. Be kind to yourself, don't let yourself be completely broken into pieces. After your relationship is over, the only left is yourself and the memories. Why would you waste your time thinking a person who doesn't care about your feelings anyway? My point is learn to forget her. Make yourself busy and avoid thinking about your life with her before.
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Well said..Thanks, its greatly appreciated.
• United States
6 Jul 12
The heart wants what the heart wants it is hard to try to tell it otherwise! I had an ex that would always put me down by saying I am hanging out with too many guys and I am a cheater (which I wasn't) but it hurt all the things he said. But I loved him and put up with the verbal abuse for 2 years. I even left him once after a year and went right back to him. Glad I did leave him for good. My hubby is the best man for me
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Nice story..Patience is really a virtue as long as you still can tolerate what's going on between you.
• United States
6 Jul 12
I am a church going woman and it would not be part of my nature to hate anyone. I would say you need to forgive them and move on with your life. It would be the best thing you could do for yourself as well. not only fr them either.
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Thanks Linda..I appreciate it truly..
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
6 Jul 12
I also experienced such dumb love too, that is how I called it. I hate myself not to hate her when I knew that she wasn't in love with me at all. I was blind by this so called "love", and lost all my logical reasoning all at once. I just want to slap my own face thousands, and how could I so dumb not to see it myself.
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Hahaha..Dude lets just think this way, at least we tried to experience how to love but only to a wrong person..Loving is better I think than hating..
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
6 Jul 12
hi. Yeah, there are really times like that and we're in the same boat. I hate my hubby for cheating and doing things that hurts me over and over again but I can't just let go. Maybe, the difference we have is, I have my daughter to think of that's why it isn't easy to let go. But for you, if you're not yet committed to that person, better call it off. You will only be hurt for the rest of your life by loving her. It isn't easy but time heals all wounds. Just take it one day at a time. Never hurry.
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
raynejasper..Maybe that's the magic of a true love, sometimes letting go is not the answer but instead prolonging the patience. Good luck to you and your child.
• United States
6 Jul 12
I have gone through this and it is very hard. Now I don't bother trying to hate anyone at all. Have is really bad fr us to deal with. I d hope you can get over this as well.
@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
giftsandbagscom..I quite agree..Thanks