Will you adopt a different race child?

@youless (86617)
Guangzhou, China
July 6, 2012 7:12pm CST
There are many things to consider before you adopt a child. I wonder whether you will adopt a child who is a different race to you? Is it an important factor for you to make a decision?
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• United States
7 Jul 12
I have been told it is important for the Child to be placed with thr same race! But I think a loving parent wants a child to love. Many will take Any color of the rainbow and some may take child with disabilities! I am no mother so it will be a stretch. If I wanted to ado[t a child, I wouldn't care about the hue as long as the child liked me.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
According to the responses, it seems many people don't really care about the race as an issue.
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• United States
10 Jul 12
It is part of Martin Luther King's dream coming true. It is wonderful!
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 12
Hi youless, my only kid has grown up as an independent adult. I'm quite free now. I will consider to adopt a different race child if I were to have a chance. I will adopt a healthy and normal orphan for it's not affordable for me to take care of kid who need extra medical care expenses. Even though I accept only race who would accept my religion. I do have friends who adopt different race children. I live in a multiracial country. And it's quite common to see parents together with their respective different races kids here and there. I'm so glad to see them living an intimate and harmonious family life Happy posting
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
In fact in the past after the Sichuan earthquake, at that time I wish to adopt a little girl who lost family in the earthquake. I always think that two children will be perfect for a family.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 12
I still remember what you had mentioned in one of your previous discussions about child adoption after the earthquake disaster. Do you remember I's one of those respondents as well. If I were to have chance I would do the similar good deed. Not only we could help the child beside our only son would be happy to have a lovely sister. I still have such thinking even though my son has grown up Have a nice day
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@sharksfin (1098)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I am really not sure. Maybe it's easier to tell when you're in the actual situation. But, right now, I would say, race is a big consideration in adoption. At least for me. Of course, the kid came from a different culture, belief and environment. Who knows if it might only cause me terrible time than good? Not being negative here. Just given all considerations, I believe this is an important factor.
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@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
If the one you are adopting is no longer a baby, then you will have a hard time adjusting. The communication is a very important part so there is a very great tendency of resistance. If relationship with em is a question, then at least choose an infant.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
Some people like Angelina Jolie adopted some different races children and I really appreciate to her.
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
11 Jul 12
I honestly don't think that I will ever adopt a child. However, if my husband and I did ever decide to adopt, the race of the child would not be something that I would really be all that concerned about. One thing that I do know is that if I do adopt a child in the future and they are from a background that is different from my own, I would make sure to try to teach my child as much as I possibly could about their own heritage.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Jul 12
This is good.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
9 Jul 12
Depends on the situation. I would prefer to adopt a child from my own nationality and state if possible. The reason being that I would want the child to blend in with our family and not stick out like a sore thumb. Having said that, if there arises a situation where I need to help a child, I will not think of the nationality then.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
You are nice.
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@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
7 Jul 12
of course i would if i had the money to do so. my hubby's sister and brother in law (hubby's family is of German descent) adopted two little girls from China. the sister in law and her hubby have 4 kids of their own that they had biologically and then the two little Chinese girls. Lily is 10 and Jasmine is 5.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
I am glad that these two little girls found a good family
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• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Hello youless, I don't know why "race" had to be an issue when we all humans after all. if you want some one and you like the child's personality then do it. never consider choosing a perfect person, because even if you adopt some one who lives and same nationality if that child becomes bad in the end? me? i got no intention of adoptiing any body since am financiall incapable
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
Nobody is perfect in the world.
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@AmbiePam (45853)
• United States
7 Jul 12
My sister and brother-in-law are in the process of adopting a black child although they are white. And a girl I grew up with, her and her husband adopted a black baby and a baby from Vietnam. They are also white, although my friend is also part Native American.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Jul 12
Great people are still available
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I will not. For the simplest reason that I don't want him/her to grow up in a place where people would always know and point-out that he/she is different. I don't want him/her to go through her life asking why she needed to be different than others. If I love him/her I wouldn't give anyone the opportunity to show her or point-out that he/she isn't the same with everyone else. If ever I'd want to adopt. I'd make it a point that her/his only concern is asking why she was adopted when the time comes. I don't want anyone else to know about it or point it out to him/her. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
This is what I am concerned about.
@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
If ever I would adopt a child, ofcourse I will choose the same nationality. Why would I choose foreign if I know my compatriots need me?
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@sharksfin (1098)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
good thinking. ^_^
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@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I sound bias but that's true.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Its actually done by choice on whom you want and not because the person is a fellow citizen. though some people would like wise think of that. but some others do prefer adopting children with different race, we are all human after all and what matters is the child be given care and love that he or she deserves
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Race will not be a factor at all if i need to adopt a child. As long as the child can get my attention in my first encounter with him/her, facial expression like a smile or cute feature is an added advantage. It will be better if he/she is an orphan and is in decent good health but these are not an absolute requirement for me.
@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
Some people are even willing to adopt the disable children and it is very impressive for me.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
9 Jul 12
It is not a sin to adopt a disable child, i will not mind to do that either so long as he/she is healthy, the disability issue can be accomodated one way or another in my household. The reason of adopting a healthy child is that if i adopt a sick child, i have to provide medical treatment to this child once he/she is my own, with the present super high medical care cost in my country, and my personal financial condition, i am unable to provide that to the child, then it will break my heart to see him/her suffer indefinitely after the adoption, so i think a sick child will have a much higher chance of recovery from the sickness if someone who is a lot richer than me can adopt him/her instead of me.
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@jerzgirl (7806)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
7 Jul 12
If I was younger and wanted to adopt, I would be more concerned that the child needed a family than what race or ethnicity he or she was. Children are children no matter what their ancestry. They all need love and security to grow into healthy and strong adults.
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@1corner (744)
• Canada
7 Jul 12
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
It is very kind of you.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
16 Feb 13
I wouldn't care of the race of the child. I do plan on adopting when we are able to. And I know that I would not care of the race because all children deserve to have love no matter the race. And plus if you have a connection with that child, you would not say that oh I won't adopt them because they are not the same race as me. I wouldn't mind though, plus they would be raised in a home of different races because my husband and I are different races. So we'd probably too adopt one of his race or my race, but we wouldn't mind adopting a baby from another race as well. I honestly don't think that the child would care either if the people that adopted them were of a different race. Maybe if they were young when they adopted them, and as they grew up they would wonder why they look different then you. But either way, the child would be happy to have a family and not care about the differences in races. Of course they would have a lot of questions for you two to answer. But all children that are being up for adoption really care about is being loved and having parents.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Feb 13
You have a generous thought.
@KrauseHome (33259)
• United States
14 Jul 12
Personally if I had the money I think it really would not matter if they were a different color than me, etc. To be able to give a child a good loving home even if people wanted to stare and ask questions and make Fun it would not matter. My God Childrens parents are from Kenya so the kids are really dark skinned, and I have a lot of pictures of them and I together, so what is really the difference? You should Love your kids no matter who and what color they are. Especially when you take the time to adopt them.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Jul 12
They really became to your own children.
@judy43 (299)
• United States
14 Jul 12
I am in a wheelchair but if I was able I would adopt any child. I love having kids around and taking care of them. I raised three of my own and one grandchild, and helped babysit the others. It is nice to have a big family so any race is ok.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Jul 12
You are a nice person.
• Canada
11 Jul 12
Race is not important to me at all. The point of adopting a child is not to get a child that necessarily looks like me, but to adopt a child who needs it. If I was so hung up on having a kid that looked at me, I'd have one of my own. Adoption for me, is about adoping children who need a home, regardless of race, age, gender, or any other factor.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Jul 12
I am glad to hear that.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
7 Jul 12
Personally, I think race doesn't matter to most people on this issue. Differences in culture, language, & food make things more challenging than the color of one's skin, or facial features, and are what bother people more. Even within the same race, cultures & languages differ. Asians are not all Chinese, for example, or North American Caucasians unlike European ones, etc. Then there are the country's laws too, which may restrict adoptions to locals only, not foreigners. I would adopt anyone my country will let me, if I choose to do so.
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
It is very kind of you.
@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Well we have only one Creator. Even if we are of different races we still belong to one God so if a child really needs help I am willing to adopt anyone of any race. The race does not matter. What matters is how you will mold that child to become a good person God wants him to be. So my answer is Yes!
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
I hope the racism will not available in the world.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Jul 12
If I ever had the money to adopt a child I would not care what race the child is. A child is a child no matter what color their skin is. I would be so happy to get them out of the terrible situation they are in. Overseas or an Orphanage, neither are good situations for a child...I only wish I had that kind of money, I would adopt so many children to help them!
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@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
You are very generous.
@grenzy8 (183)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
I think it depends upon the person who will adopt the child. If the person was raise by a racist family then most probably he or she would have a hard time accepting the idea of adopting a child with different race. But if the one who will adopt was raise by a loving family then any child from a different culture will do. Because I do believe when you're loving, it means unconditional. So for me I will embrace the idea of adopting a child from a different race.
@youless (86617)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Jul 12
I think sometimes it needs the courage to do so. Since others will know that this child is adopted.