Want to get a second piercing on my ear but being kept back

@oindy54 (3446)
India
July 7, 2012 3:05pm CST
I have normal ear piercings. Recently my friend got a second piercing done and seemed excited about it. The idea caught me too and I badly want to get a second piercing done. But guess what, my mother tells me not to do it! Apparently she does not like more than one piercing. I wish that I get married soon so that I can do my wishes. Enough of being dictated over!
10 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
Hi oindy, you sounds like been over protected by your mother. I can see my self on you way back when I'm still 19. And like you said I got married because I want to go away with them which I knew is good to do. But I'm wrong, I got more belied because I thought I will be free with them I choose to go and get married. I did not regret the past but If I can go back I will accept those cared from my parents rather getting married just because I want to be free.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi, Thank you very much for sharing your personal experience with me. After reading this I feel that I might have to regret too. It always helps to learn from the experiences of others. Yes I am overprotected by my parents. But you are right. May be I will not be so free after marriage as I think. Grateful that you shared your thoughts. Have a nice day.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
Your very much welcome oindy, I'm grateful to shared my stories if anyone can have a lesson from it. As I forgot to say my daughter when she is on her 18 she also have another piercing I do warned her that it is not nice to have many pierced on ears but she did not listen now it was infected and got a big lump and last year it was operated. I came back to her saying that she did not listened to me and I blame her for that.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Ah I see! I think what she got was a keloid. These are happening nowadays when piercing is done. One of my friends got it and she too had to get it operated. In some cases they come back and then it becomes a problem. I hope it did not come back for your daughter. So she has only one piercing now per ear? The other one closed up?
@BabyCheetah (1913)
• Australia
8 Jul 12
If you are over 18 then you can make your own decisions in life. If you want another piercing then just go do it. Once it's done it's done. At my age I wouldn't stand for my mother demanding and telling me what I can and can't do and she doesn't, she lets me make my own decisions she will give advice which is fine but she can't force me into anything. Why in the world do you need to be married to do what you want? You can be single and do what you want. If you do find someone make sure they don't go bossing you around as then it will be no different than your mother telling you what to do :D And if you are under 18 well I would then suggest listen to her until you are over as technically you're not an adult yet and it's best to keep the peace :)
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi, I am over 18 years. I do want to make my own decisions. Actually I was thinking I could escape my mother's commands after marriage when I can live separately. Till then I have to stay with my parents. Very nice suggestions my friend. Thank you for your response. I got some amount of determination on reading this.
• Australia
9 Jul 12
Well if you are over 18 you are an adult and can make your own choices. It sounds like she treats you like a child which is not a good thing especially if you want to be independant. Maybe you should try find your own place or move out with a friend to get away. But really if you want another piercing then get one, it's your life :) You're welcome. I don't really know your situation well but that's just what I think
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
9 Jul 12
Yes she treats me like that.I must rebel!
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
7 Jul 12
If you like it, go get another piercing. I have several in each ear. My mother isn't the biggest fan but there isn't much she can do about it. I paid for them all myself and they are in my ears.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
I'd love to see a picture of you.My mother has a say in everything. I would be able to pay for them using the money I have but then she would create a fuss.
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
8 Jul 12
I'll see if I have a picture of my ear with all the rings in. I only have 3 in that ear right now. I used to have 5.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
3 sounds cool to me. You have so many options. Looking forward to see the picture.
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, don't worry just save money by your self and buy your ear piercing from your money. After getting marriage, you must be ready to face a lot of responsibilities, be prepare now. All the best
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Yes I am saving up money. Marriage truly brings in a lot of responsibilities. I must be prepared. Thanks for the response!
@TheIzers (680)
8 Jul 12
Aha, I remember my mom first expression when I told her I want second piercing. She didn't let me have it but then I showed her I've already got new earring for it and I convinced her it would look nice she gave up. She took me to our family doctor and voila I got my second piercing.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Glad to hear that your mom finally agreed. I am going to try and see if I can convince my mother too.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
8 Jul 12
My mother actually allowed me to get the second set of holes in my ears when I was a teenager. Then when I was 17 years old, I decided to get a cartiledge piercing. In my early twenties I decided to have my ears pierced for a third time and I got a double set of cartiledge piercings when I was 21 (but I did remove those earrings later because they were just too much for me). I guess that I never was someone that was going to let someone dictate the decisions that I made about my own body.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi, In my country parents make a lot of decisions till we get married. This is more in the case of girls. Not fair at all. I wonder what are cartilage piercings?
@JohnRok1 (2051)
7 Jul 12
I don't want even one piercing, thank you very much!
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
That's a funny comment! Thanks!
• United States
7 Jul 12
I agree with Sherrybelle. If you're young enough to be told what to do by your mother, you're too young to get married. Go off to college; get a job; get your own home. Then, you can do as you wish.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Getting a job is the key phrase! Yes I must get one within a couple of years. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day!
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
7 Jul 12
Yeah ear piercing has become a fashion these days. It is great to hear that you have got one before but i think you should think about your second piercing for a while and then take your decision whether to do it or not.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
So you think I should listen to my mother?
• United States
7 Jul 12
I don't know how old you are but... if you get married you might have a husband holding you back, instead of, a mother. If you choose to be self reliant you would probably experience the freedom to do as you wish. Good luck with it all.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
8 Jul 12
Hi, I am in my twenties. Actually I have a boyfriend too and there are talks of marriage next year. I think he would not hold me back. The problem is that in our culture parents dictate a lot of things till the time we girls get married. Not a nice thing, isn't it? In fact they would have organized an arranged marriage for me had they not liked and known my boyfriend for several years. They knew him as a very good friend, he helped me immensely with my studies and also in other things. Moreover, he got a government job last year. If these things were not this way, I would have had to face trouble. You have pointed out something really true - I must be self-reliant. For this I need to get a job which is only possible when my teachers' training course gets over. The job market is in a sad state of affairs here with very few to no vacancies in schools.