Parents who named their son's with girl's names

Calgary, Alberta
July 8, 2012 12:59pm CST
For sure there are names that are gender neutral that both boys and girls can use. There are also names that are meant for boys but people dont mind if girls use them. Onthe other hand there are names that are meant for girls but parents for some unknown reason to give it to their sons. I kinda remember that I have classmates before who got bullied because they get female names. In grade school I have a classmate named Kelly, Lindsey and Pinky and guess what they were both boys and they got bullied because of it, Why many parents name their sons with girl's name? Will you name your son with a girl's name knowing the circumstances? what girl's names would pass as a boy's name? Why people dont mind if a Girl is named after a guy's name but makes it a big deal when its the other way around? hi bubblews admins
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@shivanisd (388)
• India
8 Jul 12
Just a few days ago i was thinking about how boys are told to act like a man and not cry like a girl- implying that men are somehow more mature and better than women. i think when a girl has a boy name its all good but if a boy has a girl name, he is teased. i know a guy whose name was Alisson! Also some names are for boys but in another country becomes a girl name for eg anushka is a russian boys name but in india girls are given this name.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I think Allison is originally a boy's name but it is taken over by girls because certain actresses, singers and models named Allison became famous, which started a trend. Girls are more mature in my country though, Most guys on their 20's are still watching anime, cartoons and read comicbooks.... while most girls thinks about careers.
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• United States
8 Jul 12
"Allison" as a surname is traditionally masculine (Son of Nobility) but Allison as given name is traditionally feminine. The surname has a British origin, and the given name has a French/Norman origin as a deviation of Alice. Even so, I don't think it's been considered a boy's name in a number of centuries, at least in Europe and America. It may be more gender neutral in other parts of the world.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
thanks for giving me information about the name's origins. so the last name Allison and first name allison areto different words. Kinda like the Hebrew name Naomi and Japanese name Naomi, those 2 names seemed like the same but they were 2 different names and they meant different...But both are girl's name.
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• United States
8 Jul 12
I remember a novel I read back in elementary school (Holes by Louis Sachar I believe) where there was a camp counselor who acted like a drill sergeant, and makes all the boys call him "Mr Sir". We later find out that his first name is Marion, a fact which seems to have caused him lifelong embarrassment, and he may be attempting to compensate for his name's obvious lack of masculinity. I think some parents want to break gender stereotypes and roles, but they're not really thinking what effect it might have on their children. I don't remember any boys having particularly girly names in school where I was growing up, but I can imagine the teasing that might cause. Actually, I knew a few girls with pretty masculine-sounding names who got made fun of for it, so it does happen the other way around, though I don't think nearly as much. It's kind of more socially acceptable for a girl to act more masculine, then she's a "tomboy". If a guy acts more feminine then he's labeled as gay or a "sissy". Which, really isn't fair but that's just the way it is.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
for some reason yeah during elementary a lot of guys with girly names have tendencies to be bully magnets, I even have classmate who got bullied just because he have the same name with a popular flamboyant gay celebrity. His name is a Guy's name but just because his shares a name with a cross dressing drag queen he got bullied. I think just like the story of the guy in the novel you read some of the guys with girly names tried to be athletic and tough to prove they were manlier than guys with guy's name.
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• United States
8 Jul 12
Kids will make fun of whatever they can. It's sad to hear that you had a classmate bullied just cause he shared a name. It's kind of sad, but people get compared with people who've had their name before them. It doesn't surprise me that those guys wound up trying to prove themselves more masculine, I think that's part of our psychological defense mechanisms. When someone makes us feel inferior in one area, we try to compensate for it by excelling in another area. We joke about it, but I think it's sometimes a real way of coping with things for us.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I jut find out there is a guy named Ashley and based on my experience its a girl's name and most of the girls named Ashley are very prissy and princess like. so that guy named Ashley, I dont know what kind of childhood he experienced at school,. Ash sounds masculine though, so he calls him self Ash.
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
I find the name Kelly acceptable for a boy name but Pinky? That really made me laugh. I think some parents name their daughters with a boy's name to make a difference or to make it unique. Maybe it is the same reason why they name their sons with a girl's name. I do not think I would give my son a girl's name for the sake of uniqueness. I think the name Sandy can be use by both boy and girl. You are right that it is already common and acceptable for us if we heard a girl with a boy's name but if it is the other way around, we have different reactions. But who knows time will come that it will also be common as well. But I do not think I can get over it. I think having a girl's name can lessen the masculinity of a guy. It is really awkward I guess.
• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
Kelly actually means Female soldier.... I know it sounds awkward once you knew the meaning. Plus when certain girls named Kelly gets famous it became more embraced as a girls name. I think lots of guys who are named Kelly prefers to be called Kell. Just to make it muscular. I heard at certain point Shannon is a boy's name but over time it became a dominant name for girls and now less parents name their son Shannon. By fat these names fits for both boys and girls: 1.Jun/June 2.Jesse (girl version spelled Jessie) 3.Mandy 4.Mickey 5.Terry ( girl version spelled as Teri or Terri) 5.Kim (girl's name in the US, Boy's name in Korea)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
Funny but I remember that when I was in college I have many Korean classmates and when I asked them what their names are, they would answer Kim. I thought that Kim was their surname and that they are related with each other. My cousin's name is Kelly and he is a boy and bald :D so since I was a little, I am already comfortable with Kelly as a boy's name.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I think I met some guys namedKelly who are not affected by their names stigma Until Kelly Clarkson gets famous, Then a Female wrestler named Kelly Kelly got famous too. You can blame them for making the name belongs to girls much more. I think there are Less Kelly boy's now. I think there will still be Kelly boys to be born but there will be less of them. I heard Whitney is originally a Guy's name but Whitney Houston got famous. ---- Babe Ruth is one of the most popular baseball player of all time but I dont think any parents will name their sons Babe when he got famous, I dont think parents will name their daughter babe neither.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Jul 12
I have no idea why any parent would want to do this to their child. They are setting them up to get severely bullied and made fun of. Kids are mean and they can find plenty of things to pick on a person for, they do not need more reason. I think its awful to do that to a child. I do not want my children to get picked on for their name, it will be bad enough if they ever need glasses or if they become overweight or anything. They will get picked on if either of those things happen. But at least those things can be fixed or changed, a name is probably going to be with the person forever...
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I think a person have to pay their city's local census a lot of money so they can legally change their name, In your life have you meet men and boys who have names that are way too feminine for them?
• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Jul 12
I know a man named Kelly actually. He said he had to get big and work out all the time in school so if he got picked on he could fight back. How sad...
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I guess that works for him, But yeah toughening up and having physical strength may keep him away from bullies, its a smart move on his part.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
8 Jul 12
Some names are suitable for a boy or a girl like Jody or Kerry. Jean is a French name and it can be a boy or a girl name. I believe Kelly and Pinky are awful names for the two boys that you discuss. I wouldn't name a son of mine a girl's name. People name their child a name they both like generally. I called my disabled son Leo and I know a little girl called Leonie. That is the female version of his name. My daughter I named Amber and that is very female. The shortened version of my own name is Max. Max is suitable for a boy, girl or male dog.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
I have met a male and female Kerry oncein my life. Most of the Jodies I know are girls. I think Jean is pronounced as John in French, so its still feminine sounding. In my country Jan is a variation of John, Cos with Filipino accent both names are pronounced as John. I know Robin is a girl's name in the US, But in my country it became a Guy's name when an Actor named Robin became famous here.
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• United States
8 Jul 12
Some people seem to either be clueless or a tad sadistic when naming their children. That is true for both boys and girls. There are just some things that you don't do to a kid. You don't give a boy a name that is so feminine sounding that it is guaranteed to get him bullied in school. You don't give a kid a name that is so poorly spelled that the intellect of both parents and child is called into question. You don't give a girl a name that pretty much guarantees that a stripper pole is in her future. Naming children after your hobbies, sports teams, etc. should also be avoided. Oh, and please do not go all Newhart and name your kids the same exact thing.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
If you dont mind me asking, what are the names that will make a girl sound like a stripper? Back to the topic, I knew someone named Jennifer Lopez, I am not talking about J.lo, He is a guy who happened to be named Jennifer... he prefers to be called Jeff due to the stigma of his name.
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@dobsyto (299)
• Bulgaria
8 Jul 12
Well yeah there are that kind of names. I also really see often people with that names. I'm not so sure but maybe the name is not so common and than try to use different one or just they come from other country I don't know. Or maybe the father wanted a boy but the mum wanted a girl and when the boy born the mother wants her kid to be called that way. Or they think like you say that the name can be used with both girls and boys. It depends on the parents.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
People dont seem to mind when a girl have a boy's name but yeah basedon my experience growing up most of the my male classmate's with girl names had been a target to bullying and teasing. for sure it sounds like a double standard that girls can have a Boy's name and it wont be an issue.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
9 Jul 12
If I had a son, I would not due it and put him through all that. My ex was named "Kim" which I know in some countries may be ok for a guy but here in the US it's not that common. His father said that it was because he had a huge crush on Kim Novak...American actress.
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
does he have some childhood stories about his name? Kim is a Man's name in Korea though.
• Calgary, Alberta
10 Jul 12
I use to have a classmate named Joshua, guess what she is a girl. her name make her popular though. Gender bending naming only works for girls.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
14 Jul 12
Yes, it always seems to be very cool when it is a girl who is named a boy's name but really not too often when it is the other way around. Of course you also have the names that could be either like Dakota, Jamie. I knew an older guy named Shirley and always wondered how rough that must of been on him growing up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVTW_-C014o
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@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
8 Jul 12
I do not cherish the thought of boys being given girls' names or girls being given boys' names. I think that parents should do a proper research on names of their children before they are born, so that wrongly assigned names do not cause problems for their offsprings later in life. Too many children have been ridiculed, bullied and -in extreme cases- developed hatred for people (including their parents), because these parents have given them wrong gender related names.
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
The girls with guy's name I met didnt experience much ridicule as the boys with girl's names. Those boys had been center of jokes in school. some of them can tolerate it while others end up crying.
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
Completely agree with Samson.
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@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
10 Jul 12
I know of too many boys and girls who have been given wrong gender related names: having to to fight off: (1) many (and varying types of) molesters and;(2)mischievous and malicious people, both within and outside of their gender, and by persons of varying ages and stages in their personal development. I heard songs being made of these unfortunate persons, whose parents deliberately cause harm to their offsprings; based on some flimsy, lame excuse. I cannot support any action being meted out to children because of lazyness, carlessness and reckless abandon behavior (and decisions) of parents! This action is folly!
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
8 Jul 12
I think that is the main problem of a baby when he/she grew up. They can't choose their own name. I am not against the naming boys with girl's name. However, parents are the responsible one to give names to their kids so they should choose a name that their kids will not regret when they grew up and starts schooling. Good day!
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
Unless parents are willing to homeschool their kids, I think they should not name their son's with a girl's name. Kids will make fun to anything they found weird and it is something kids will find weird. Its like putting a huge target to your little boy.
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
You are right, unless the parents does not want their kids to be with others. It will be the start of teasing him because of the unusual names especially naming boys with girl's name. As of now, even boys name arre being teased with their classmates, what if they have a girl's name. I think we, as parents should be responsible enough in giving names to their kids.
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• Calgary, Alberta
10 Jul 12
Its like naming your son "Punch me" or "kick me" Its putting a huge target on their son's back.
• Malaysia
11 Jul 12
I think it's similar to how girls can use and wear stuff meant for boys like shirts and watches but it'll look odd if it was the other way around. The parents might have liked a name so much that they decided to give that name to their child, whether or not it was gender-fitting.
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• Calgary, Alberta
11 Jul 12
your first statement kinda makes girls can borrow her brother's clothes but it wont happen on the other way around. basically parents who gave their sons a girl's name have no difference to naming him "bully me" But they dont seem to care cos its not them who is going to school.
• Malaysia
6 Aug 12
It's rare for a boy to borrow his sister's clothes. There's only a limited number of clothes that he can wear in the first place. Almost all clothes have a different cutting for guys and girls. Tight jeans, skirts and dresses popular among girls would look quite strange on a guy after all. But from what I know of guy's clothes, there isn't a problem for girls to wear them. There's even a fashion trend some time ago where girls would wear suits made to look like a guy's clothing and it was considered very fashionable although I didn't really understand why. But fashion comments aside, yeah it would be like you're begging for your son to be bullied. Their son might turn out to be very introverted and shy after a while if he's bullied too much too.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Aug 12
if they are willing to homeschool their son, have himlearn martial arts, then he wont be bullied even if he have a girly name but I dont think those parents who did that considers that since most fo the guys with girly names are not homeschool, they go to school.
@shaggin (37733)
• United States
8 Jul 12
LOL I dont know why it is like this either but its how I feel. I dont like boys with names that are girls names as well but I think its cute when girls have boys names. I have a friend named Leslie and his father had a child with another woman and named that daughter lesley. Say name different spelling. So weird. I think its a girls name so I call him lezy instead of leslie lol.
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• Calgary, Alberta
8 Jul 12
if parents are really determined to name their sons a girls name its either make a masculine form ( I think the name Mario is from Maria, Nance is from Nancy and Stefano is from Stephanie) or the 2nd choice is to homeschool their kid. i heard a dad say He gives his son girl's names because he do want them to get bullied because he thinks it will toughen them up.
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@shaggin (37733)
• United States
8 Jul 12
It almost seems sometimes that people hope for a girl and chose a name and then when they find out they are having a boy its like well I'm still keeping that name because I like it. I have a cousin kendall and to me that is a girls name but this is a boy who is my sons age. I think that is horrible that someone would purposefully name their child something in hopes they will be bullied to toughen them up. Thats disgusting!
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
I know it sounds rude, I was upset a dad saying that, I was upset he wanted his son to get bullied because he thinks its cool.
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
They probably are desperate for daughters. I know my aunt and late uncle had four boys and tried for a fifth child, which turned out to be a girl. Some parents really want a girl to complete the set. Luckily I already had a brother when I came along. What I regret si to having a sister because I cannot sometimes relate to my brother.
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
That could be the reason, They got frustrated they didnt get a girl and they were already attached to the name they chose and decided to give it to their son cos they really love it without thinking about the consequences.
• Philippines
10 Jul 12
That’s the problem Cap. Sometimes they (the parents) need to think about the consequences.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 12
Why would anyone name their son using girl's name? Maybe there are already new names for girls that can also be used for boys. His son will be a victim of teasing and bullying in school.
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• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
In your life, Have you met Men and boys who have female names? Did they got bullied or teased because of it?
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
No. hehehe. I haven't met a boy with a girl's name.
@arunr175 (1679)
• India
9 Jul 12
I don't have an idea why parents name there boy with a girls name, it's really awkward. I also had friends in my childhood who being boys and have girls names, they were bullied all the time. Name is an important part of a persons life, parents should be careful in giving name to there children ...
• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
some of them may have randomly gets names in baby books and randomly gets a name without checking its a girl's name. or others want to try to experiment and they see their baby boy as the best guinea pig for this social experiment.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
9 Jul 12
I don't give such an importance to names. I've heard of a story of an American family who visited Romania more times, and they were so pleased with what they have seen here, that they requested a list of Romanian names for their future baby. When she was born, they named her Vasile, which is a male name.
• Calgary, Alberta
9 Jul 12
names influences the early child hood of a child, In a way parents have to careful on the names they will give. As I said boys who are given girls name are Bully magnets.