Is she going through a midlife crisis?

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
July 8, 2012 8:53pm CST
This girl I went to college with and got close to I swear I shake my head at. She is 35 or so, she cant hold down a job, and now on disability. She misused her epilepsy (sp?) medication, and caused seisures to get the disability. She was living at home, and she will meet guys online and move in with them literally pack her bags, and up and gone. She believes everything anyone says, one guy online told her how many jobs are in Alberta and she was going to up and move there (she cant even hold down a job in Ontario). She moved to england, married a guy just to say she was married and divorced. Her last boyfriend moved in at her parents house, and they got caught shoplifting, this is not like her. She moved to the next town over in the city she lived in with some guy she knew for a week, and now shes on a bus to BC to meet a guy online she hasnt really actually met. She spent 10 thousand dollars to a retreat a drug retreat because she couldnt be put on the wait list. She says she was an alcoholic and went through AA yet I drink more than she will ever drink.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
9 Jul 12
well that is not a good thing that you drink that is for sure. This woman may have psychiatric problems.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
9 Jul 12
I have a drink here and there. My last drink was Christmas. I was thinking that, I mean she's 35 and she would talk about jobs, I think It may be how she was raised. Her parents always compare her to her brother who is married, unhappy, and has a few kids. I think in that department she's trying to proove them wrong or get to the same level. But she wants out of her parents house but doesn't want to work for it. I know she's immature for her age, but think deep down there might be more.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
6 Aug 12
You cannot take on your friend's AA and other addictions. You will become ragged as she shares everything with you. Give your friend good advice and tell her you can only help her if she really wants to be helped. You cannot listen to the same stories every day. Your friend must go to a twelve-step program and seek help. An addiction is a disease and unless your work it, it will work you. If you tell her once or twice the same thing, but after the third time you advise her and she does not listen, you unfortunately have to give up the friendship. It is a hard thing to do but it will be the only thing that will save her.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
12 Jul 12
There is definitely something that is going on with this woman, but I really don't think that it is a midlife crisis. What I think it is could be that she is having a lot of regret for some of the things that she has done in her life and she is trying to do whatever she is able to do in order to be able to get away from the problems that she has been having in her life. I do hope that this woman is able to find the help that she needs in her life.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
9 Jul 12
She probably is. It is sad to see people in situations like that. They are really wasting time and their life. There are so many other worthwhile things that she could be doing with her time. But there are a lot of women who want to just continue to chase around guys.