Why relationship with friends only gives us pleasure
By idea24share
@idea24share (439)
India
July 11, 2012 8:16am CST
Everybody have lot of relatives and friends.We can see in several families that husband and wife make quarrel and it lead upto divorce.we did not have patience with relatives.If wife or relatives say anything we take it as a serious matter eventhough they tell good things to us but in turn we never wants to speak with them for the silly mistake made by them.We are making all these things with family and relatives.But how we manage good relationship with friends only.They are also doing all those things.If friend makes anything serious we are not considering it and leave those matters.What makes them different from family and relatives.Why thinking about friendship only giving us more pleasure?
3 responses
@DHADHU128 (85)
• India
11 Jul 12
if u make a friend into relative same thing happens, u start taking seriously everything as u do with relatives. actually friend is a neutral thing, we look mostly for sharing entertainment and for social necessities, subconsciously everyone feels a friend is a useful thing like a mobile, bike,a movie, an amusement park, who can help u in getting a job too, but consciously no one accepts it. All those love,affection etc; u share with friends are sweet memories but temporary. even though u quarell with your relatives like parents,sibblings,husband&wife they give importance to blood relation only rather than friends. Finally u share your property with your relatives only not with friends. We share only memories with friends. Ofcourse everyone must need a good friend. A friend is someone like a god. But friendship or relationship longlasts only if u maintain good boundaries.
@DHADHU128 (85)
• India
12 Jul 12
ofcourse I mean the majority percentage happens like what I said, and even u r not accepting what I told, consciously no one accepts it, but subconsciously its the truth. May be I'm unable to make u understand but u can only experience this practically by making a friend into relative. Its not like u will quarell all the time but that freedom when u were friends will decrease slowly when u become relatives. and one more thing r u married, have any children?I'm damn sure u can't share your property with friends ignoring your wife and children, 100% sure
@idea24share (439)
• India
13 Jul 12
Ok.I will consider it with relatives and tell my feedback to all of you
@idea24share (439)
• India
12 Jul 12
How many relatives share their salary with others.But friends not only sharing person of thoughts they do help immediately comparing with relatives.
If you believe it or not i will tell you one thing.My cousin expired one year back.When his body arrived to home everybody cries.His father and mother are gone out of station.After hearing the news they are on the way.Who will give ambulance fare?. At that time i am also with their parents.No relatives are ready to pay the amount.The driver should go home.Who will pay the money.We are taling with driver over phone at the time driver simply said don't get worry sir.Their friends settled ambulance and hospital fare.After return home we will definitely will settle the amount.But no body is ready to spend money. They were all rich persons so money is not the matter for them.
I think i can share the property with friends comparing with relatives.Relative are always in eager to come when they are going to receive money from that man but if they want to give money they make a great escape.
@littlepinoy (600)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
Your statements are really confusing. From how i deciphered them, I guess you are asking how to make relationships with friends alone, and no relatives or friends? That's odd. Have you heard of the saying that blood is thicker than water? Even when your relatives differ in opinion with yours, they will still have a sense of relationship to you... i bet you do to. If one day, one of your family is in danger, you will feel compelled to do something about it even when you are not aware about it.
To have relationship with friends alone can take a long while, probably decades of getting to know each other.... learning from experiences -- good or bad -- with regard to their personalities. The bottomline is, to be able to have good relationships with friends (and even strangers), you need to have a genuine interest in people.
And most of all, you should not "love things and use people." But you should "love people and use things."
@idea24share (439)
• India
12 Jul 12
some time if you in deep trouble relatives will not come for help friends are the helping hands comparing with realatives.Friends understand us very well comparing with relatives.We never share much things with relatives and we will share everything with friends because they will never involve in our personal feelings and never interrupt in any attempts.
@littlepinoy (600)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
But you should also know that not all "friends" are friends. But then, this topic is too personal. My relatives are different from your relatives. So the situation differs. I guess it's just a mindset. But putting myself in your shoes, well... to have good relationship with relatives, you should start treating them as friends as u defined them to be.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
12 Jul 12
Hi friend, our friends may change in our life based on the time, i.e we have a set of friends in our childhood and school days, after entering in to the college we have another set of friends, after joining with job we find new friends, since friends are changing in our life based on the time. Very few persons are blessed to have life long friends always with them. But our family members never change, so we give more importance to our family members and became very sensitive with them for little issues, but we may miss our friend in the future, so we don't care about their faults and mistakes and forgive them for the silly things
@idea24share (439)
• India
13 Jul 12
I agree.But the person who have affection with others only will get friend.Relatives are coming based upon your family tradition.Not every person will get friend only few will get friend.
