how to get closer to someone that you want..

@deliar (609)
Indonesia
July 11, 2012 9:21pm CST
do you know how to be closer with someone that you really want, especially girl.. what kind man that girl really want? is it well being calm, not too much talk... or being talkative with the girl... sometime i feel nervous when i am close with someone that i really like.. do you know how to control it??
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@squallming (1777)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 12
I think you have to first adapt yourself to her. Try to find some chances that you guys can hang around together, not necessarily only the two of you but like having a group discussion or somewhat. You will gradually get used to be close with her and be less nervous. Then you try giving your opinions to things and slowly she would notice you. At the same time, you need to take such chances to observe how she talks, what topic she like and what kinds of opinion she has about a lot of things. Then you would be able to guess how she works her mind. Next you can start talking something which you believe she would agree on or support. When she is talking, try to give confirmation or show agreement and that you are really listening. Use back-Channel support such as Uh-huh.. Yeah, Yes... etc. Gradually work things out. Girls generally have a lot in mind and they would like you to know what they think. So observation and active listening is important.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 12
wow great, i think you have so many experience about it.. you are professional i think.. i will try this one, it is gonna help me more.. thanks before..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
12 Jul 12
I honestly don't think that there is any way that what every woman wants can be generalized. For example, I am the kind of person that really doesn't care about the external appearance of a person. Instead, I tend to be the kind of person that cares a lot more about the personality and the way that a person operates as opposed to whether or not they are a super physically attractive person. When you are trying to get someone to pay attention to you, you really need to be yourself and there will be some people that are interested in you and there will be others that are not, but that is just the way that life works.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 12
okay, i think you are right.. be myself, be unique and different.. i think that is more interesting..
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Usually in this type of scenario, people are interested with people that they can share their thoughts, likes, and pretty much on the same wavelength to any subject that they are interested with. So, the only thing you need to do is to emboss a characteristic to the person that you are on the same interests as her. Be interested in them by talking about them first rather than you start the conversation… talk to people about them and be interested on what she is talking about. Another key ingredient in good possibilities in such situations is that talk on things positively, whether it’s a little silly topic, or just random thoughts, talk to it in a way the she feels secure and feels entertained remember that positive approach leads to a good conversation starter. Focus on sharing the happy or positive aspects of your life for other people to enjoy or relate to.
@lady1993 (16318)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
It depends on the girl.. i think most girls would want a man that they can trust, a funny guy would be easy to hang out with too, especially if the girl is why. Being a gentlemen is a good thing too- since you don't seem much of them these days.. and also be more open to her so she'd be open to you too.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
13 Jul 12
Most people would feel the same as you.Just relax and i know that we will all feel heart beating and can't say even a word.The only thing you can do is to tell yourself to be calm down and this is really helpful if you can control.lol,just good luck and do not worry if you guys are meant to be.
@riyauro (6431)
• India
12 Jul 12
Firstly you need not to be scared. Just try to be her friend, then later you will come to know what kind of boy she wants..her likes or dislikes you will come to know when you are her friend.
@sonusd (1548)
• India
12 Jul 12
If the girl is known to you then try to collect all information what she likes, what she dislikes etc then try to be close with her slowly, and try to observe her reaction towards you then move on or else stay away from that girl...
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
12 Jul 12
It can be hard to be comfortable and talk that way when you like someone. Just try your best to be yourself. Do nice things for her. Hopefully in time she will see that you care about her.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Just be natural, relaxed fashion. Act the normal way. Always make her smile, laugh, do something positive things though small, I bet that could make a difference to her. Sing her a nice love song, don't forget about the flowers. That could melt her heart for sure. Thanks