Resisting temptation
By gracie923
@gracie923 (162)
Philippines
July 12, 2012 1:05am CST
There was this guy whom I met at the ferry Boat. Me and a girl friend of mine used to have the same deck with that guy. It was a 3 days travel and We got to know that guy coz he keeps on talking to us particularly with me, my friend told me then that she thinks that the guy likes me.And I got a boyfriend back then.He admits that he liked me but with all honesty I told him that I got a boyfriend and that were almost 4 years.The more I became honest the more he liked me. So what I did is that after our journey I change my number and I didn't attempt to make any communication at all. If It was you on my place would you do the same?
15 responses
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
12 Jul 12
Hi gracie, I think there's really no need to change your phone number, there's other ways to show your rejection to the guy.
You had told him that you got a boyfriend, if he still give you hint of love, you can choose other ways such as don't answer his phone, don't reply his text.
I believe as time pass by he will give up.
And your boyfriend will also be proud of you.
Wish you happy gracie!
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I was just thinking that he can be one of the guys who would tend to be possessive and that his calls and text might start a fight between me and my guy and you know for me it's to prevent things to happen when you know that it is possible. :-)
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
12 Jul 12
I understand your worry gracie,the best way to avoid a quarrel is to kill it before it happen, you are a nice girl,you will be happy gracie.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Well your boyfriend is indeed a lucky guy. A relationship cannot last when someone loses his or her control and practically play around with love. You certainly did the right thing since as you have said you have been with your boyfriend for 4 years already. My salute to you gracie...
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
It's really hard t let go when you know that the person you love was truly given to you, cause you might not get the chance to feel the real love again when you didn't hold on!:-)
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
i would actually do what you have done. it is just right to ignore him after that travel because as you have said, you have a boyfriend back then so it is so wrong to give someone a chance while you were still in a relationship. if you will fall into temptation, you would probably regret it at the end, as someone would get hurt and disappointed.
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
Yes I do agree and I don't want someone to get hurt because I do believe in karma aside from the reason that I really love him. And I don't want to do things that I will regret at the end.
@akash009 (452)
• India
13 Jul 12
hello,
What u did my friend was absolutely correct. If I was on your place I would have done the same thing. It's natural to have a bit of attraction towards someone. But then if you have a boyfriend already , you should not cheat on him. Its totally wrong. You need to control yourself. That's highly necessary when you are in a relationship. When you are in a relationship you need to value your relationship. Thats more important. If you love your boyfriend then you will definitely not think about cheating.
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
That's true cheating is not really good specially one is in a relationship. And taking hold is really worthy because that what makes the relationship to grow stronger and deeper!:-)
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
This happened was few years ago, when I'm still in a relationship and not married with my ex boyfriend, He's my ex already because He's now my husband..:-)
What happened was maybe just a trial in our relationship when we were apart. It was just a test of how deep we had invested emotionally and spiritually in a sense that it's really hard to resist temptation specially knowing that the guy was cool, and kind too.
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
But admitting his feeling is quite tempting right and I think guys will not say I like you when he don't and I also felt that he was flirting and my friend too has seen it too.:-)
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I guess you make a good decision in your life and to the life of that guy.I admire you for not giving him any false hope by lying you don't have boyfriend or even by calling or sending messages to him through your cellphone.How I wish all person have the guts to resist temptation.I guess if that's going to happen, life will be a lot happier....
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
13 Jul 12
You can if you have a big will and when your in love you can live with all honesty and you can take pride with the relationship you have. As what they have said all of us are capable of loving and finding ONE true love but only few holds on to it and they let it go. And when this love disappears, its really hard to find!
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
yes i am proud of what I did, because now I'm enjoying the fruitful relationship with him.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Jul 12
My question here is do you also like the guy? Because if you do then it is really hard to resist that temptation. If you still tolerate him to court you then of course that could be really a big challenge.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
hi gracie,
What you did was really right cause you are committed
In my case I don't give any information or contact number to anyone even how much they like me I am quite snobbish sometimes.
happy mylotting
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Thanks maybe my being friendly sometimes makes them think that I'm easy which I'm not. That's why when I know that it's gonna lead to something else I turn around!
@yansky23 (404)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I think you've just done the right thing. your boyfriend might just be proud of you, knowing that you want to protect your relationship with him.
One time, my girlfriend has just received a bouquet of flowers from her admirer, my girlfriend just gave it to someone, she didn't keep it. She told me about that and I'm really happy and glad for what she have done. Perhaps, your boyfriend might feel the same way.
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
I also like the feeling of love the respect that he's giving me now. Maybe when love is in the air we just have to keep it sparkling by building trust. That's what matter's most and open communication as well.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 12
Wow, you are really a good lady. Nowadays, girls or boys would most likely decide to have some excitement and pleasure while putting aside the one they already dating. Very few people would have made your choice and stayed loyal. If I were you, I would definitely do the same,, I can't bear to hurt someone I love and no one can replace my girlfriend. We may be the few remaining ones who can proves the existence of true love in this world. My day seems to be brighter knowing there is still girl like you. ^_^
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Thanks and I know your girlfriend will do just the same. Just keep on believing in true true love and pray for it to last too, constant prayer, trust and respect, and open communication is the most important element in keeping the love to last long!
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
12 Jul 12
Hi friend, good to hear about your activity, i appreciate you for it. If i am in your stage, surely i will do the same, as you told you have a bf as well as the guy is also having his gf, so it is not a good thing to get temptation with other persons as we are already committed and we must be loyal to the person.
@LeeS0902 (67)
•
12 Jul 12
Well, temptation is a big thing within all of our lives, we all have to either fight or just roll with it sometimes, it comes in many forms from stealing someone's food to meeting a new person, it's all temptation, the one thing that we can deal with with others, because we can fight it with another or many by our side.
@Senbonzakura (344)
• India
12 Jul 12
ITs so complicated as well as so simple if your partner trusts you then you will automatically resist the temptation because you know in your heart that their is only one special one for me and you would have fallen to temptation on if you are not happy or whatever with ur partner that what i think.
@gracie923 (162)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
There are really times that a person sometimes get bored with the relationship but just pray hard, remember the happy moments and not the conflict and keep yourself in love for these days will soon be over and love will get stronger.
@ottranscednd (56)
•
12 Jul 12
Salutes! Not every girl can do that.
Yes, I will do the same. If the love I have with my bf is meant for me, no other 'better' guy will take me away from him..
