Pressure to get a job and earn money

@oindy54 (3446)
India
July 12, 2012 2:35am CST
Hi friends, I am now in my twenties, having just completed post graduation. I have enrolled in a teachers' training course now of one year duration. Only after completing the course and getting a certificate will I be able to apply for the job of a school teacher at a school. It is still a long way to go. There are so few vacancies for teachers in my city that I do not know whether I would get a job at all even after so much of education. My boyfriend has got a government job and that is usually considered a safe job in my country. My parents want me to get a job and be independent before I get married. I am also of the same opinion, that I should earn my own living rather than being dependent on my husband. I am really feeling the pressure now. I do earn online but that cannot be a replacement for a fixed job. Have you felt the pressure to earn your own money? Please share your thoughts and comments.
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13 responses
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
31 Jul 12
Hi Oindy, I've heard that same concern echoed by many college people....getting a job in the field they went to school for is not always all that easy. As for your parent's advise...I agree 100%. It's so important for your own sake to be independent and not rely on your husband's income to take care of you even if he earns enough to do so. I've been on my own for so so long now that I really don't remember another way.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
31 Jul 12
Hi, I understand that you have said from your experience and I thank you for it.I do not want to rely on my husband. I have an aunt who is a housewife and I find her often regretting that she does not have enough cash in hand or that she does not have the financial independence to spend money on something she really wants. I feel sorry for her sometimes. I really never want to be in that situation. Thank you for the motivation.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
1 Aug 12
I am glad I started this discussion as I got to learn so much from hearing real-life experiences. Thank you once again.
@LeeS0902 (67)
12 Jul 12
I may be younger than you, but yes I have experienced the pressure you talk about, ever since I was 15 my mother and her boyfriend have been pressuring me to get a job and do far I've mannaged to avoid it, and hopefully won't be with them much longer as to avoid the result of all the avoiding I've done.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
12 Jul 12
Hi dear, You are really too young. I wonder how you could have been pressurized at this age. Its really not done. Now is the time for you to complete your education and have fun with all the good things in the world. I feel really bad to hear of this and I hope you can find a way out of this.
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12 Jul 12
Thank you, the signed up jobs in my name and everything, well my way out is to move in with my father and step mum because I have always got on with them better and they respect me more as a person, I'm also going to take Film and Television production in college as of September.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
12 Jul 12
A very interesting choice of subject! I am sure you will be extremely successful in life. Good luck and thanks for sharing your thoughts with me.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
Yes your mother was right it is not good to be dependent in our husband. But as what you have said your still a long way to go to become a teacher. And I think it is also early to get worried of many things in your mind. It is not very helpful in your studies while your thinking of your future. Everyday there are a lot of changes happen to us there are good and there are bad but still we can't say and we can't predict what future we may have. You just putting pressure in your self in a future that you did not know what will happen. Why not be positive and be good in your studies so that someday when you finish your schooling you can apply for a better teaching job.
• China
16 Jul 12
i also think that the women should be independent!
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
18 Jul 12
Thank you for your kind and inspirational words. I better not worry at all but keep working hard and trying my best. I am going to think positive from now. Glad that I started this discussion and got so many motivational responses.
@hsofyan (3452)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Aug 12
Relax, you should not be stressful! Fortune that comes from God. But we must seek the maximum. The teacher is noble work. You have to follow the education of teachers. That is a good and true. If later you don't become a teacher at the school, you still can give private lessons. You can also become trainers in companies. Teach it, not to be done at school or university. If there's a will, there is a way... Good luck
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
3 Aug 12
Yeah I am learning to stop taking stress.I agree with your thoughts. I would try to give private tuition as it is one of the respected ways to earn money while imparting education. I will try my best. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@debbygirl (214)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
Hi oindy! i felt that too even when i was still at college. My allowance is not enough so i have to do something. I do laundry for those students who doesn't want to wash their own clothes. Anyways,your not alone. After all the sacrifices, i now have a job and i believe you will have it too! yes why not? you are very much able. Hope that you could find the job that you will love and will love you in return :)
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
25 Jul 12
Thanks a lot for your kind words friend. I am very hopeful after reading all the responses here.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
12 Jul 12
oindy: In my younger days this problem was not there. I got my job immediately after completing my degree. Yes. it is advisable to get a job before marriage. You can also try for government job through SSC, Banks etc. good day.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
18 Jul 12
Yes, this is so true. There was not much competition then as my parents tell me. There were not too many examinations too held by the government. Many people got jobs on recommendation too. But that era has passed. I will definitely try hard to get a job before getting married. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
• India
12 Jul 12
Most of us having pressures in our job and work hard to earn more. Whatever the job is, it is really hard to get the fulfillment, because the cost of living is very high now a days and we are in need to compensate the expenses with our earnings. Still our earnings are not enough while comparing to the expenses. A lot of persons started to earn from online to earn a little bit and the pressure increased more. It is really hard to get a good job in this competition world, we must study well and get good percentage as well as improve our knowledge in various things to pass in the interview and get good job. Both men and women must be independent and both of them have a good qualification to shine in their life. Each and every job is having its own pros and cons, no job is easy as well as no job is too hard, our improvement and progress is based on our interest. Each and every one is having job pressure, don't give more importance to it and do your job properly to achieve a lot with it. Still we are in young age, we must work hard in this age and earn more to save for our future. Our hard work in our younger days will help in our older days in the form of savings. Be active and set your target, work hard to reach your target and get fulfillment while achieving your goal. Get rid from tensions and pressure and do your work with your full interest. It will help you to get progress
@z1234y (29)
• China
12 Jul 12
I have no job ,I make a living depend earning money online. since I make a living depend earning money online ,I have no always feel the perssure to earn my own money .I am easily alive .I feel if you only work for school ,you will feel very tired.you should think about living depend earning money online, your husband will more like your independen.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
15 Jul 12
Making an entire living online is surely a commendable feat my friend. I have plans to get an offline job and also to do part time work online.
12 Jul 12
I think your parents want you to have more freedom and they're right.Sometimes when you're in love and when you trust your partner, the idea of being a housewife and depend on his money seems attractive, but the risk is very high.In one of the partners loses job or is incapable to work, the other partner can save the family from financial collapse.Be a brave girl and get that job.:)
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
12 Jul 12
I agree with what you have said. Very nicely pointed out. Many girls here become housewives but I have myself seen them regretting it later. I will be a brave girl and work hard to reach my goal.
@riyauro (6431)
• India
12 Jul 12
I am realy happy for you, the earlier we start to realise that we have to earn money for a living the better it is..i have seen many people here..not worried about studying , having job..but having parties and enjoying life..by the time they realize that they need to work it will be too late..good job Oindy
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
12 Jul 12
Grateful that you appreciate my realization.I have no time to party. I need to establish myself and then all the enjoyment will automatically come into my life. That is what I believe. I cannot be dependent on my parents and then my husband. I must utilize my education.I have also seen my friends not at all worried about life. They do not feel the pressure at all.
• China
12 Jul 12
Hi oindy54,I can definitely understand your concern,now it is very difficult for youth to find a better job.Now my job is low pay and under a great deal of pressure.It is very tough for me to live in my city. I always feel misery and helplessness.No house,no car,no girlfriend,no child,no money... Life is so tough for me. But just have a little faith.I strong believe that I will get better in the near future.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
12 Jul 12
Thanks for understanding my situation and empathizing with me. I can empathize with you too. Jobs are so difficult to get, specially good ones. They make us work much more than what they pay. However, I am glad to know that you have faith and optimism. These two can take a man to achieve great things on life. I definitely learned something from you.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
5 Sep 12
The entire world economy is not looking very good . So much career I am confused on which to do lol . At least you will soon get your certificate and you will get a job maybe not right away but give it time and continue to try . You may have to do some voluntary work at a school to get your foot in the door .
• United States
4 Sep 12
Hey there friend. Your parents just want what's best for you. Back int eh old days, being a housewife was okay since most men back then were faithful. It's a new day and age, and men will leave a woman and not think twice about it. If a woman isn't making her own money, she will be stuck and out of luck. Although your parents have your best interest at heart, focusing on your career should be your number one priority right now. You're taking steps to become what you want, and you should be extremely happy about the future prospects of that. You're a wonderful person, so I think you will be just fine. Best wishes to you friend :)