I am seeing my friend going through tough time

United States
July 14, 2012 10:43am CST
I felt a bit guilty, because I was spending money carelessly not long ago. I bought this watch, and bought this google tablet without considering whether I actually need them or not. Last week, I was helping a friend of mine moving some stuff, I saw her living condition. Her monthly rent was like $500, that is cheapest, and the apartment environment is not so great either. Also, she doesn't have TV, and mattress for bed, and some simple furniture that is all. Also, she is behind her internet bill, and phone bill. Basically, she is working 2 part time job, and her interest in drawing, to be an artist to be exact. But she is not making any money yet. For me, she is like going through paycheck to paycheck, and I hope that things will be better for her. Somehow, we should consider saving some money for our own, and when emergency comes up, we might have some money set aside to help us getting through it.
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@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
14 Jul 12
Kingpasrker, are you just finding out how your friend lives, items she may or may not have...How has she been behaving out in public or when she is with you..Believe me I know what its like to live from paycheck to paycheck..its not a great feeling however I wasn't going to ask anyone for anything...I felt as long as I was able to work , God would see it clear for me to get what I needed not necessary what I wanted.. You are a great friend to be concern..but you should not feel bad because you are in a better position than your friend,,perhaps when you can afford it, there will be something you can reach out to her with some help.. May God continue to bless you, you have a good heart...
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26 Sep 12
Lesson learnt..it's good to save for the future. It's human for you to feel that way and what cactually counts is what did you do to help? I guess when next a friend is in dare need, you know what to do. God be with you all.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Thanks matzabel....
@vt689586 (585)
• India
15 Jul 12
you are right we should save some money for future and emergencies because we never know when ours good time over and bad time starts and when bad time starts then all of your friends and relative also don not want you anymore. so you have to help yourself ,and in this world if you don not have money then thing can be worst for you.but if you are farsighted then you will sure save money for that type of emergencies and you will be happy at that time when in the emergency time you do not have to beg money from others.
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• Malaysia
14 Jul 12
Your friend is lucky to have a thoughtful friend like you. Since she's into drawing, why don't you help your friend out. Maybe you know someone who could use her expertise and pay for it. May not be drawing on canvas, maybe some kind of drawing on he wall or paintings. Maybe you know someone who could help her sell her paintings or someone who knows someone else. Ask around. Help her to find a permanent job, something that she can do from morning till evening where she can practice or produce more paintings at night.
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@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 12
There's always something you can do when you have someone like this in your life. All you can do is the sharing. You have food, share. You can take her to nice places, just to cheer her up. You can also give her a nice treat, some snacks or some decent meal in town. The little things you can do actually counts.
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@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
14 Jul 12
That is sad that anyone has to live that way.. And to see someone suffer is just as bad. But we all have to go through life this way, she will be able to pick herself up soon and with support, she can get herself off the ground and before tou know it, she will have her payments in advance, get to start an artistc job and be able to quit her other 2 jobs as they don't pay enough...! Chin up dear.. That mountain is there to be conquered!!
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
14 Jul 12
it is nice that you are so caring to your friend. maybe you can help her with some food. does your city have anything for someone in her state of affairs?
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@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
hi there kingparker, in life, we should really consider saving some penny for our future. since we cannot tell what will happen tomorrow. with the situation that you have seen with your friend, perhaps, God has allow you to witness that for some reason. maybe not because of the watch you have bought but for a much better one. might be, for you to consider saving some money for the future. often times, we are witnessing situation not because of just a small thing or reason, hence, it is for the best and much rewarding one. So when the rainy season begin, we can have a shield to cover our needs.
@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
That is nice of you to feel that way though, i mean it only proves and show that you are really concern as a friend. But you know things happens, it may not be clear today but someday it would make her stronger and tougher as a person. Like what you have said saving money is really a must. I have got in a serious situation where i did not save money and you know its tough because i am a dad and wrong actions of mine can make my family suffer. I hope your friend will be better. We may never have everything bu at least we never had nothing
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 12
King, life is miserable if we don't plan well our expenses and spending. That's why, we should only spend on things that we really in need. Saving money is very important to us. Because we never know when we are in need of that extra money to helps during emergency times. That's why, we should always put saving money as one of our top priorities in our life.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
16 Jul 12
The mere fact that you are there for her during the move is a big help already. And although it makes you feel bad to see her way of living, I'm sure it also teaches you a lesson about life and priorities especially when finances are concerned. As she is working on 2 jobs, it only means she's doing something to better herself. It's not going to be easy, I know, but seeing that she's got a friend like you will make her struggles easier, and that is one thing which no paycheck can afford.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
16 Jul 12
I can see how you can feel guilty. I get that way at times when I think of all the people that are going without and then I purchase something that I reallr dont "need" Its not my fault that they are in that state. And everyone goes through their times when the money just isnt working right. And the bills are piling up but the money isnt. I do know that saving money is very important but we tend to believe that the money will always be there.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
15 Jul 12
Yeah it is really hard when we see friends go through hard times. I hope that things improve for your friend soon. It is a good thing to help out our friends when they need. It is definitely necessary to have an emergency fun so that when times are hard for ourselves or our friends we can help out. I was doing ok with that but now I have to start all over. As we took a weekend trip, got our car worked on, moving to a new place, and will be getting four new tires. It's crazy how fast things add up. I hope that you or someone else will be able to help her some how. It seems as if she could use some help. She doesn't have a bed? She should look for a nice air mattress on Amazon. They can be reasonable priced and some are just as nice as a regular bed.
@Hatley (164464)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 12
hi kingparker you are really anice person to worry about your friend., I suggest you can help her by encouraging her that things will get better.you are helping her move and thats a plus for you both.You have the right idea to save some for a rainy day and not spend all of your pay check. You might be able to help her find a better job if you have any leads you could give her.,just be there for her and be encouraging,.
@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
14 Jul 12
I think some of that money to help your friend, it may be wise.