I am SINGLE now...

@ryanong (9694)
Vietnam
July 14, 2012 10:55pm CST
I thought a lots about my relationship and.... go to this decision, i am single again...It is the best thing for me now: no blaming, no debating, etc more...No crying, no regret,...also because i thought a lots already...If it is not happened today, it maybe happened some months later...
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@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
15 Jul 12
I'm glad that you have come to a decision and are doing well with your decision. Often times it can be very emotional to end a relationship. But when you see the signs and listen to your mind and not your heart then it saves a lot of heartache in the end. A lot of people find that out the hard way.
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@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Thank you for your caring.... Ya, i am Ok with my decision. You are right, when we listen to our mind, we can find out the best solution that our heart never gives it out....In fact it takes me 3 months of thinking before i go to this decisions and for sure, i never regret about it...
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• United States
15 Jul 12
Yeah our heart can be really deceiving. It can often lead us in the wrong direction. We have to use our thinking faculty especially when it comes to big decisions and dealing with problems in a relationship. Take care of yourself.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
ya, i will... In fact it was not easy for me to make this decision before..but i took time to think of it. I don't regret about my decision also because i did all what i could do for this relationship already, no regret when it doesn't work more. He is a person who should regret, not me...
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@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 12
but single is not happy sometimes.. iam late for responding here.. iam not busy but my connection never allowed me for connecting many website.. so how do you feel in the first day after breaking from your ex??
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
4 Aug 12
umh, for sure i was sad and feel empty in my mind. Whole July, i did nothing...i couldn't focus to do anything, i am not in deep sorrow and sadness but i could not do anything.
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
so do you feel alone now?? so when some spanish player are happy and celebrate their victory in euro cup, you are sad and alone?? so how about your work during July?? does it involve your mood in working?? who say the first "break" in your relationship?? you or him??
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
4 Aug 12
umh, i am not alone, i have friends around... hihi, when i work less, then money received lesser, just simply like that... hix, i did. i am very tired when talking about the love with that guy, i don't want to think of it more..it is very headache...
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
i don't really understand why some people can't survive without partners. being single is great as long as you have true friends
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
20 Jul 12
ya, i agree with you too, we can be happy in single also. In fact living in happiness or not...depends on us... Currently i am happy with my single time, nothing is better than it at this time... I wish you a nice day!!!
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 12
because human is social..we need another people for completing our beautiful life.. God had created woman for man and man for woman..
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
4 Aug 12
For sure i will be fall in love again, adhyz. i can't live long without love, and be loved....
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@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
15 Jul 12
I never took relationships seriously but I know they affect us in many ways. It is good to have a good relationship in life. It gives us stability and mental power. If you find good partner then you will get success in what ever you decide to achieve in life. They say there are people madef or each other and I also believe in it. If you are currently single then you have to wait to find the right person. Having bad relation or the relations that give tension is bad for everything.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Thank you for your sharing, Umh, i did take serious relationships but when it can't work anymore, i let it go...
• India
15 Jul 12
Don't worry just have faith, and in no time you will find one.
• India
15 Jul 12
Have you tried astrology? If no, then find your match according to your zodiac sign. I have learned from my own relation and from the others that this astrology thing is real. What is your zodiac sign?
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
That's the attitude! Things happen for a reason and with a purpose! And pain are temporary. This will pass through. Im happy to hear that you stand for what you have decided! Good luck to you and continue to be positive!
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
20 Jul 12
Thank you for your caring. ya, i am ok because i did think a lots before going to this decision...Life is still going on, right? I wish you a nice day!!!
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
That is absolutely right! Life still go on! No matter what difficulties we have been though as long as we are strong enough and positive enough everything will goes well!.. I am glad that you are so firm in making decisions because some people wanted to make decisions but they are afraid of the outcome.! enjoy!
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
20 Jul 12
I know..but i thought a lots of it already, and keep it for what when i had to suffer it day by day and no result in the end? I don't regret this decision, so that for sure i don't be sadness or crying after that...all is the past now and i have to move on...
• India
17 Jul 12
Hi friend, good to hear that you are single now. It is far better than having a relationship. As you mentioned, no more tears and no more worries while we are single. Wish you to continue this single life for a long
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
18 Jul 12
ya, i am happy with my single life now, for sure no headache, no stress, no debating...i will enjoy my single time till i meet my soul-mate ....
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 12
but no kiss, no romantic story, and jealous when you watch a romantic movies without your couple..right??
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
7 Aug 12
yes, you are right. but if relationship is bad, it will be a nightmare
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
15 Jul 12
Hi Ryanong, I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Breaking up is always a little rough even though in our hearts we know it is the right choice. From the sounds of it, you went about it in the right way which will make it less painful for both of you. You gave it thought and you did not do it in a moment of anger or hurt and you did not try desperately for a long period of time trying to make something work that just wasn't going to work for you. Some people tend to hang on to a relationship thinking they need a good reason for breaking up like cheating or abuse or addiction etc. "It's just not working for me" is good enough and if done before things get ugly(and they do) then you might even be able to remain on friendly terms with the person once the dust all settles. It sounds like you made the right choice.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Thank you for your caring, Sid. I just did think of it in many situations, from the beginning to now and I found that this relationship won't work more. If I continue with it, it just wastes time and both will get headache of it only...As i told, If it does not happened today, for sure it will happens some months later... I don't blame, don't talk much when saying goodbye. I have no plan to be friend with him also, all his things should be gone of my life...
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
15 Jul 12
Yes, being"friends" and being friendly is two different things. I am not usually best buds with anyone that I break up with but if the situation is handled right, it doesn't have to be bitter either. I think I get what you are saying and I'm pretty much the same way...I just try to make as clean a break as possible. It's easy for me now because I don't and won't even live with a guy so when I'm seeing someone, all I say is "This just isn't working for me" and it is done. There is no blame and nothing to argue...just done.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
Ya, i agree with you too, just say and all is done, nothing more..no explaining, no blaming, etc...
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
15 Jul 12
Your attitude is right.Like there is a saying that you can own what really belongs to you.So what we can do is to accept and also using right attitude toward it.Good luck my friend and i hope you can find someone that really treats you as most important person.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Thank you so much. Ya, when did think a lots about it, i don't feel pain anymore when love is broken..because it is the best solution for me...I really don't want my life will be full of tear and sorrow later... Currently i don't think of finding someone yet, i need a break time and enjoy it..i am planing for my travel...
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
Finding someone sweet then losing him? How did the tie break? Is it not painful? Is the cause or causes not the two of you? How pitiful it is for him, how sad is it for you.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
Well, i am very realistic...and judge that relationship by my mind now, not only my heart...and as i said, if it doesn't happen today, it will happen some months later, this relationship can't work more...then better we do break it now...we get hurt 1 time, it is much better than get hurt for long long time later and then break it...
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
It is nice to be single. hehehhehehe That is nice that you made the decision already...
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
Thank you... Ya, it is nice to be single now...I am happy with it and enjoy my time now...
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Yeah! Enjoy!!! :D
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
No one can ever decide on yourself except you!If you think being single can make you happy,then there is no problem with that. I've been single for a year then i'm happy.Choosing to be single is a choice.I'd rather to be single than to suffer a frustrating relationship.Just give a break with yourself.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
20 Jul 12
Exactly!!!i have the same thinking as you, i'd like to be happy single than to suffer a frustrating relationship...and now i am happy with my single time also...
• United States
17 Jul 12
I felt this way too when I was single and then came adrain. I love him more than I could love anyone in life. He is my shining star. I would never want to be single again.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
18 Jul 12
I am very happy when you have your soul-mate now. For sure you are in happiness then i understand your feeling now. I won't be single for entire my life, i wish i will be lucky as you, find out my soul-mate soon...
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
No matter what decision you may come up in your mind, it's okay as long as your happy doing it. Just take your time, Don't be in a hurry! Life is so precious we have to live it happily
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
Thank you for your caring... ya, you are right, life is so precious so that we should not waste it for sorrowfulness or sadness. i am ok with my decision and enjoy my single time now..
@Raine38 (9196)
• United States
16 Jul 12
Being single isn't being lonely; neither does being in a relationship would deem you complete. When I was back in college, I was in pressure of having a bf when all of my friends are having one. Then after college, I had my first real bf. And because I entered into that relationship out of peer pressure instead of because we're both ready, I experienced all of it: all the crying, blaming, the regrets, the what-ifs. We both decided that it's far off better for us both if we will just part ways. It took me 6 years before I enter another relationship armed with life lessons. And this time, I was blessed with the right one and not long after, we got married.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
16 Jul 12
Thank you so much for your caring. I fall in love..because of my heart, not pressure from any one such as friends, mom, etc...Feeling, love may be right or wrong direction, we don't know..and time in love is just for discovering love will work longer or not...in my current case, it was so sweet but right now it can't work more, that's all. I am very ok with my decision...because i rather end it now than take some months more in sorrowfulness and then end it later...
• India
15 Jul 12
Reading your blog, I could not keep myself away from it. It is quite same, if not exact, to my life. I am kind of done in my 3rd relationship now. I feel it is time now for me to break up. I keep saying myself that that girl is innocent, why should I punish her, and for only this reason, I am here. I am not able to feel. When I was single, I missed someone, but now I am fed up of this. Still I feel every thing will get alright, I just need to get back my passion for her. I am giving myself sometime. I am trying being optimistic but I would not be surprised ending up on the same boat as you are in.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Well, he is my third bf also and i used to think that he is my right man, but he is not..and we don't have happy ending since we have many things different and the relationship can't work more...if continuing it just bring sorrow and headache for both...then i let it go...I think a lots of it already... I used to talk him, i did all i can for this relationship already and if the relationship is ended, i won't have to regret...and it is... I hope you are fine...life is still going on, you should move forward...
• United States
15 Jul 12
If you have not been able to work things out to this point, it makes sense to end the relationship instead of staying and being miserable in it. You sound as though you have a very upbeat attitude about it, and that is good. There is a big world out there, and it isn't worth it to sit around crying or feeling regret simply because a relationship did not work out.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Ya, you are right, there is a big world out there and we should know to pass it and enjoy our time life. i don't regret about my decision because the relationship can't and won't work out more...
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
Single is sexy. hehehe I am sure you could not be more sure about your decision. Why continue going into a relationship when you're not happy anymore right? Good luck in life.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
Single is sexy.... Ya, i am very sure with my decision because i took much time to think of it...I am enjoying my single time now...it is great!!! I wish you a happy life also...
@riyauro (6428)
• India
15 Jul 12
It is said that before you meet the right the prince or princess, you have to kiss many frogs. So this was one of the frogs you met. I like the way you think. You are very strong person RYanong. Keep the spirit going because you have yet to meet your princess. Have a wonderful day today.
@ryanong (9694)
• Vietnam
15 Jul 12
hihi, i like your talk...on the way we go to meet our prince/princess, we may kiss many frogs... I am booking tickets for my traveling now I wish you a nice day too.