When do a child grow [specially female]into womanhood?

@alottodo (3056)
Australia
July 15, 2012 8:10am CST
I know for sure I Am going to have to cope with a lot of flax from my lot friends! but I Am prepared for that...for instance people tend to call 12...15 years olds children...and of course they are children "per se"...but really when it comes to females...once they have their first period...they are able to conceive so they are not children any more are they?...my grandmother was 16 when she gave birth to my mum![and yet she was allowed to marry at age 15] and not it was not child abuse that was the way at the time! people tend to carry on[ now a days] with children having children]well it happened in the past so what's new!
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jul 12
When females have their first period they are able to conceive, yes, but that doesn't by any means mean they are moving on up there. And women back in your grandmother's day were expected to stay home, have and take care of their children and their home, they weren't allowed to wear jewelry or vote for that matter. Ya, women had it great back then. Not! They were able to marry early and didn't get to have all the fun of their teen years like kids do now. Things change but they also stay the same. Some girls aren't really mature enough to have children or to be married. Others are mature enough by 11 or 12. Each one is an individual. And I would wish for each and every one of them that they can stay kids as long as possible before being thrown into adulthood with all the responsibilities.
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
16 Jul 12
I'm totally agree with you , I just see girls this summer , they look so young but dressed like they were teenagers , hang out with boys , wear minimal clothes , I think to myself "what a short childhood they have..." I think they miss all the fun. I can't tell how old those girls are. They look like teenagers , behave like teenagers (they don't play fun games , they just hang out and talk or sit on a bench...) I think we must encourage children to enjoy their childhood , play games with others like soccer , basketball , hide and catch , run for fun ...
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@celticeagle (158680)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Jul 12
Exactly! Kids should be kids and take on responsibilities slowly and with care.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Jul 12
I agree with both of you! I just can't understand why they are in so much hurry to play adults when they don't have the means and the know how! and celticeagle my grandmum got to vote! how good is that!
@marguicha (215148)
• Chile
7 Nov 15
A response to a 2 year old post. I got married at 18 years of age and had my first daught 4 days before turning 19. I was then in college as I finished scjool at an unusual age and married for love. That age was perfect and my husband (older than I) had the maturity I lacked. Nowadays, young people have the Peter Pan syndrome They don´t want to grow up.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
11 Nov 15
Thank you for responding[ even if it is a 2 year old post] there is a lot going on with young people today! it seems to me parents are failing in their roles…or is it society? I don't know it is difficult to say but we can see today children as young as 5 are already having psychology assessment! obviously we are doing something very wrong some where!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
I think it still depends on a person. Some people are late bloomer and some are very advance when it comes to maturity. Here in our country, we depend it on the law. Eighteen is the legal age for a woman so we consider a girl woman when she is already eighteen. And twenty one for a guy. Ages below eighteen and twenty one is considered as a teenager. I dont think period is a sign of being a woman. Some has their period at the age of thirteen and i dont think they are at their age. Maybe its just a sign of being matured in a way of movements as a girl. Like you need to set limitations for your self
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Indeed. That is point though, if you know your limitations as a person and you know how to act properly in an ethical way i would consider person as a matured one. Young people are innocent, pure and naive while teenager are more like curious and does not want to listen. Maturity is not only an action for others but also an action and responsibility for yourself
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
17 Jul 12
I agree but I don't see any teenager...or younger...putting limitation on themselves do you? and parents don't have much to say about it! thank you for responding.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
15 Jul 12
It depends how we see it and who says it. -it could be body/organs-wise... then anyone who has had her period can be called a woman or a lady -but nowadays people grow up in the mental meaning later... now you don't have to get married at 14-16, bear a child a year later and then do all the household chores... so mentally most people under 18 are really immature... I would call them a teen instead of a children, but a woman? heck no... being a woman means, for me, that they are independent, they know about the current events in the world, knows about finances, handles personal relations thoroughly (not like that he didn't send me a text saying i love you today, I'm gonna break up with him, and go with Jack to the cinema instead) -elder people tend to call people children who are fairly young compared to them... I think unconciously they want to forget that they are really aging
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
16 Jul 12
I also agree with you , being an adult is also in mentality : to have responsibility , to have a direction in life , to know how to manage ourselves and solve problems when those come up. Age or body maturity don't mean people are ready for the real life. And not for having a child too. Having a child too early can cause many problems because of lack of life experience , making mistakes with the child and it can hurt the child in the long run.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
18 Jul 12
I guess you are both right! but with so much information we have today you would think young people would mature sooner than later...they can see more and have more education and access to all there is and yet that is not happening!