What would you do if you are betrayed by your lover?

Mauritius
July 15, 2012 12:33pm CST
To fall in love is very easy but to fall out of love is very difficult even if you are betrayed by your lover. I have witnessed this feelings. But I would like to know if you have ever been betrayed and what was your reaction towards your partner. Will you pardon your lover for being unfaithful to you. As for me I can never forgive a betrayer and go back to him. What about you?
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12 responses
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
15 Jul 12
I dont believe in the policy of forgive and forget.people nowadays tend to repeat the mistakes so often if we take them for granted.so i will charge her and make sure she repents and feels sad for her mistake or disloyalty.this is serious as a crime and i would pursue her relentlessly until she comes back with me
• Mauritius
16 Jul 12
Yes you are right, me too do not believe in forgive and forget policy. If a person breaks you trust...then it cannot be mended. Trust is like a string....when broken cannot be tied...and if tied the knot will always be there. Keep mylotting!
@akagami (250)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 12
you,re right i never forgive that cause make me hurt inside my heart for long time.i pray that he/she have will betrayed by it,s love and more than me.
@karyl15 (251)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
i can never forgive him.i hate him so much,really.i've been there. i slap him really hard after that. and i ended up crying for 2 weeks, because my friends supported me throughout my love problems. thanks to them i was able to cope up but i don't know if i want to love anymore its just too painful.
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
oh, story like this is so common nowadays. lover betraying his partner, and girlfriend dating and loving someone else. although many of us know that unfaithfulness could ruin a relationship, some people are still committing it. many family has been broken, relationships destroyed because of this. it is easier said than done, but if ever that would happen in my family, i would let go. there's no sense staying in a relationship when trust is not already there. and someone cannot betray his partner if he love her truly and deeply, so infidelity is a sign that love and respect is already deteriorating, so why stay? life would be miserable for both of you if you'll hold on something which doesn't exist already.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
16 Jul 12
For now,i haven't meet this situation but i can really imagine this does not feel good.Honestly,it is really sad that he betrayed,and what i can do is try to forget because he has already choose not to love me.We can finally meet the right one.
• Malaysia
15 Jul 12
The me 10 years ago would probably have some kind of revenge up my sleeves. I would probably try to find out how to humiliate or even make her relationship a disaster. But the me now is peaceful. I was broken hearted 2 years ago. What i did was smiled it off. Took me almost 1 year to fully recover and moved on. Within that 1 year there was no feeling of revenge. All i did was self reflection, spending time with friends, making myself busy with works and hobbies. Went through various kind of problem in a relationship makes me grow phobia to have another one but one day a girl came, took my heart away and now she's the one i'm marrying.
• Bulgaria
15 Jul 12
Me too.Actually I have been betrayed by mine lovers some times.If you realy love her it is impossible to stay with her.But sometimes people make advantages and continiue the relation may be in the name of good moments that they have with given person.It is rare to see this case in modern relationships.If you're cleaver nothing can hurt you so much.The life must continiue and with sure you'll find new woman for you.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
15 Jul 12
I would certainly be devastated to be betrayed by a lover. That moment of realization would be something that woukd break my heart. It would be difficult to trust and love and forgive but those things would come in time if the relationship was something worth fighting for. it is the forgetting that would be hardest of all. Forgetting is something that could the relationship apart. Betrayal can be sodifficult to get over and accept.
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
15 Jul 12
I think it's important to just be open and honest with each other. Firstly, is the relationship exclusive? Secondly, do they even want you? So many people for some reason are too scared to just come out and say that they want to break up. They think their partner will be hurt. However, obviously their partner is only with them because their partner thinks they have a relationship with each other. If this isn't the case, it doesn't help to just pretend anyway. Pretence isn't what they want anyway. So, you might as well not have anything then and at least have the chance to start something new with someone who actually may give you what you need.
• Bangladesh
15 Jul 12
I wont mind being betrayed by her and smilingly I'll tell her that she may enjoy her freedom of choice.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
I haven't experienced having an unfaithful lover - like having an affair with another one... and I am thankful for that. If he cheats and I learned about it - I will also not give him another chance. More likely he will do the same thing again.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
15 Jul 12
I have betrayed twice and i haven`t forgive him the second time around. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Everybody deserve a second chance but you must know your limitations. It may be hurtful and difficult as a person, but you must let go and be realistic. Someday this will help and improve you as a person, making you so much stronger and matured in your own way. I hope you are feeling fine