wishes sometimes make me sa d as I read some of the discussions.

@Hatley (157433)
Garden Grove, California
July 16, 2012 9:37pm CST
sometimes I read some of my close mylot friends discussions and wish there was something of real value I could do to help them with their' bad troubles. And of course outside of being supportive I can really do nothing,.this makes me feel helpless.Your take mylotters do you ever feel that way too?i know I have never met any of them but we have shared so much I feel that I do k now them.
7 people like this
40 responses
@ElicBxn (60044)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I know what you mean. There are times when I wish I could just pack up and go help someone - or drag them home with me! Best I could do was rescue a kitten, but he's here and he's happy...
5 people like this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 12
hi ElicBxn I know what you mean and as we cannot you found something you could do a kitten, and thats just wonderful. Now hes happy and you are happy and I can almost hear him purr. lol.
2 people like this
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
20 Jul 12
I think it takes a good will to rescue a kitten ElicBxn. I think not all people has good heart to help the animals that are in trouble. I always like people who take care of animals and birds.
1 person likes this
@ElicBxn (60044)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Thanks, Tony is my "mylot" kitty, I drove to San Antonio to get him from another mylotter...
1 person likes this
• China
18 Jul 12
Yes, even though we sometimes can do nothing to help them,but we ought to console them by saying something so as to warm their hearts or let them pick up.Everyone must have sympathy for those unfortunate people.This is what as human being is all about.
3 people like this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi chang yes I c an see that words and virtual hugs, and our heartfelt prayers can make p eople know we care and can help them to feel better knowing we do care a lot. Yes this is'our human c ompassion for each other
• China
19 Jul 12
I agree with you."Love makes the world go round."If someone has hard luck,we certainly have sympathy with him as long as we put ourselves in his place.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
hi chang love does make the world go round., there's a great song in Phantomn of the Opera called Love Changes Everything.I always try to put myself in others place too when they are having a really bad time of it.
@GardenGerty (89997)
• Marion, Kansas
17 Jul 12
Hatley, I think we all feel that way. Just as we all wished we could each send you a dollar to fix your computer. I have friends from all over that I would love to help out, and the thing is, if I told you about some things in my life, you would want to help me too. I think that is part of what makes us all human beings, care and compassion for one another.
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 12
hi garden gerty yes thats it,its our humanness our compassion for one another and so many times I have come here depressed and came away feeling refreshed and wanting to go help someone else as I had been helped.,my one tablemate is an elderly man with diabetes and heart trouble.hes a likeable man but gives the medicine girl a hard time as he will not take all his pills.'He does not feel good a lot of times and I want to say you must take your pills but I am not sure just how much I should butt in. hard to know at times but as I love living I do take m pills and control my diabetes. my heart is fine thank goodness for that.
1 person likes this
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
23 Jul 12
I also agree with GardenGerty and Hatley that it our humanness that makes our better livings in the world. I think the more kindness in our hearts the better we are able make the life of others as well as our lives.
• United States
17 Jul 12
Being supportive, offering advice and suggesting possible resources are about all we can do in many cases whether the person is someone we know online or offline. I have friends in the offline world that I have known for years that I wish that I could help with stuff. However, unless I win the lottery, the amount of help I can provide is pretty limited even for my very closest friends.
3 people like this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 12
hi wilsongoddard I am in much the same plight as what little I'could give would be insulting. lol so perhaps if I try to offer support and a shoulder to cry on or an ear to hear I am offering some help anyway.I know how much I have been helped by others here at various times. b etter than an expensive shrink. lol
1 person likes this
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
18 Jul 12
I think most times it is the emotional support and mental support that we can do to our friends and most times this is the main thing that our friends needed from us. Sometimes we can do nothing other than this and I think when we become friends even to the close mylot friends most times they will feel better mentally and emotional from the support they get from us.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
18 Jul 12
Yep..that's was I was trying to say above but couldn't find the words to express it as well as you did. and
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi sid yes sometimes all I needed was knowing others cared and supported me and it gave me a feeling of not being alone in sickness or in trouble. It encouraged me to know all would be better soon and that all my friends cared. a lovely feeling so words can help a lot if send from heartfelt feelings.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
18 Jul 12
Hi Hatley, Ya, I do feel bad when I hear of someone going through a bad time or feeling down. Sometimes there aren't even words that could help. Wish I could give a real hug. The virtual hugs aren't the same but they do help. I know...I've gotten them and just knowing that someone cares can help, don't you think?
2 people like this
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
18 Jul 12
I also think that most times just letting them know that there are someone to care do help and do make them feel better during the bad times. Sometimes I also wish I could also give a real hug like Sid had said. I think virtual hugs do make them feel better.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi ajihlah and sid I have got many virtual hugs and they do make me feel better. they tell me the sender really does care and a lot of times thats mostly what we need someone to make us feel they care and that we are not alone.
@jerzgirl (7804)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
17 Jul 12
I know what you mean. There have been some who have sought help or who have faced some sort of difficulty that was so harsh, I wanted to reach out and rescue them yet it was beyond even my ability to put proper words in place. So, I said nothing. And, it isn't that I didn't care - it was that I didn't know quite HOW to care adequately through this medium. Same with FB friends who have posted something beyond my ability to comprehend or feel. I just freeze.
2 people like this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi jerzgirl yes its a helpless feeling but I learn that all we can do is say I support you and wish that all will be good again and we can send prayers that show we do care and that helps too.Just tell others how sad you feel you cannot d o anything to help .that alone helps a lot.
• United States
17 Jul 12
I wish I could do more but I don't think I feel bad about it. I know what I can and can't do and so should they. being here to listen is enough for me so I am sure it is enough for them. once I wanted to give my mylot earnings to a great friend. she never came back online and never answered my emails.
2 people like this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 12
oh gifts that had to hurt too as she was a great fri end and spurned your help and never even answered your emails. I hope it was not because you offered to help her, that is sad.Yes we do help others when we listen I hope as so many times people off line really do no listen to us. I find I have been helped by you and many other friends just with a word or two of encouragement.
1 person likes this
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 12
Hi Aunt Hatley, indeed it is pity to hear when we read through our friends sad discussions or they are having some sort of problem but we are unable to help. Since we are living so far apart from one another. I too, had this type of feelings towards some of my close friends. What i can offer, is words of encouragement and pray that they are able to overcome their problem successfully. If they are living nearby and i am capable to help, i will surely give my helping hands. Depending on the situation.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi myfb000 yessometimes I feel like I wish I could just walk to their door, give them a hug, and help in anyway; but I live onthe west coast.but I have learned from my discussion that we cqn help by bend supportive, and encouraging and showing our caring with prayers for them to overcome illness and money problems and our best wishes. we show that we truly do care and thats really a big help to our friends here.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 12
Yes, sometimes our prayers and words of encouragement can do wonders, too. Hope you do take good care of yourself always...
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
hi myfb2000 I am really taking care of m y self and I feel so good because I do.On a different note I urge all people who have not had a diabetes test in a year to make a habit of being tested annually.words of encouragement meant to save people from getting diabetes, at middle age do not let our figure go to pot. added fat cells stop the insulin from pushing the blood sugar into the cells of the muscles where it is needed for nourishment of our body . so sugar gets left in the blood where it can make us ill.
@savak03 (6688)
• United States
17 Jul 12
Oh, I so agree with you Hatley. I have read and responded to some discussions that were such cries for help. Sometimes I wonder if anything I've said has made a difference because usually those with the greatest need for advice never respond to comments so I don't know if they saw it, or it helped them or what.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
hi savak wow mou sie is really busy tonight.yes I have felt and wondered at times if what we said helped or not when we do not get comments back. I just keep praying that they will be okay. I guess unless they come back in a discussion we really will never know.I feel like a heel for having missed this page but thanks to a kind my lotter I found out I had not commented back here, my ap olgies.
@savak03 (6688)
• United States
22 Jul 12
Well I wasn't worried. It is not like you to post then ignore so I knew you would get here eventually. Now, if we could just teach the rest of these members this????
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jul 12
he he I know chase your mousie after them,. yes it wou ld be nice to see those who brag I make ten or fifteen discussions a da y have to re ally comment back on all of them hee hee. also I do wish whoever keeps telling that mylot pays us for others responses would q uit as its a falsehood and misleads new comers here.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Totally agree with this, its like if only i am nearer i could have been there for that mylotter and give her a hug or just be there personally so she knows someone cares..
1 person likes this
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Jul 12
...and what about chocos? Yikes, I just broke my promise not to talk about these yummy things Impatient me... I cant wait till September, and I need one right now
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi jazel__juan and the sids oh stop with the chocos you are making me drool . and we are having corned beek and cabbage with carrots and potatoes for dinner no chocos sob. Yes I read these discussions and try to help but it would be nice to hug the person 'and let them know we care. Sept and chocos? thats a long time to wait
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Oh yeah i am not allowed some chocos lately too as my sugar is high i do not know till when i could have some of them.. but yes Sids and Ms. Hatley, if you both guys are near i could have really hug you both and we can sneak a choco or two.
@topffer (29865)
• France
17 Jul 12
Hello Ms Hatley, I sometimes share this feeling and I know how it is frustrating to live at thousands of miles of friends when they need help. I think words are important too : supporting them, making them smile or laugh to feel better is not useless, and it is generally all we can do...
1 person likes this
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
yup and knowing some people "listens" feels great..
1 person likes this
• United States
17 Jul 12
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hipurple alabast and jazel and toffer yes I live on the West coast zillions of miles from where so many of you are and one in NY that I so often wished I could knock on her door and give her a hug at lease, but we can tell our fri ends how we feel and encourage and support words do help
@RitterSport (2452)
• Germany
22 Jul 12
hi dear Hatley its same here. Often I cant do much more than just express my sympathy and concern about the situation they are in. But I guess listening to them here in mylot and elsewhere is helpful and sometimes the best we can do for them as others may already tell them to stop complaining etc. which also wont make the troublesome situations better at all.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
rittersport hi yes but sometimes just to be listened to here helps. I and others once helped a mylotter who was married to a batterer to leave him and go to a battered womans shelter with her kids and then her parents took her and her kids in so it turned out really well.sometimes they are afraid to leave because they fear he will follow them.Her parents were not aware he was hurting her like that.
• Germany
25 Jul 12
oh dear Hatley thats sooooo great to hear that someone got out of this abusive relationship. Just yesterday a very close friend at work told me some nasty stuff which is going on in our department. Didnt know that as she sits in another building and so couldnt notice that someone tries to make her work life living h3ll right now. I cant do much more than listen to her and I am so glad she told me cause with listening to her I can give something back to her as she has done so much for me during all the years......
• Indonesia
20 Jul 12
me too,but this is the way we communicate each other here. the way we share here sometimes make me feel so close with other mylotter even I don't really know who is he/she and where does she/he from. I love that feeling
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
hi redvakaurvaki I responded to a new person today who did not think that we wrote discussions and responses to really help each other and that we really grew to know each other although we never met. I explained how wrong he' was and how I had come to be close to many people here by communicating with them. hope he understood me as ittrue the way I felt.He thought all we did was just for money. how wrong he is.
• Indonesia
31 Jul 12
most of people come to mylot for cash since this site known as one of reputable cash online site. but sooner, if he stay here and enjoy this site like the way we did, I'm sure he felt the same thing and know that we are each other is one big family
@celticeagle (113972)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Jul 12
I know just what you mean. I was feeling this way just yesterday. One Mylotters is having such trouble after a bad flood and all I can do is read what she writes and hope things get better for her and her family. But I feel that being supportive is of value and help because it sure helps me. So I do feel better about it. We are just too sensitive I think.
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi celticeagle oh I know we are too as I realize I am often way across the country and no way could I afford the trip to help or comfort a fellow mylotter but I know so many time kind words from you and my fellow mylotters'have meant a lot too me. so being supportive really does help others here.
1 person likes this
@celticeagle (113972)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jul 12
Being supportive does help. I am certainly glad to be apart of the group here at Mylot and am happy to help my friends here as much as I can.
@bunnybon7 (32489)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Jul 12
i know dear. sometimes id so love to just reach out and hug some that need comfort or get some things for them they desperately need but my kids have caused me to live from pay check to pay check. i wish we could all live close so we could take food over to ones doing without and just visit with some like me that cant go far any where without help, etc. if i ever win the lottery (fat chance) id help so many of my friends here even a little each. so i know what you mean Hatley.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi bunnybon yes me too but by the time I care for myself and mylot and hobble along on mysilly walker I just can only support and wish my mylot friends the best ever, oh i do send prayers too as I believe they do help our my lot friends.I know what you mean I too have to rely on my best fri end Nelda or my son to take me to the bank ahd shopping. my son has no car but he has often picked up items I needed and brought them with him.Wouldnt it be great to win the lottery or Publishers Clearing house? we could do so much.If you did I would say get yourself your own house and let'your' kids help you but kick out that odd boyfriend of your daughters lol.from hatley
@bunnybon7 (32489)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Jul 12
that would be so great. we could at least visit people we have wanted to meet here. but i would bet we will never win publishers clearing house id bet better chances of lottery i subbed with PCH for 40yrs. and never won a thing nor met anyone that did!
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
dear Hatley, I feel the same too ma'm. Actually whenever you are not around I was thinking what is going on like "where is madam Hatley, is she alright, does her health gives her trouble, or her computer is not working? What more when we/I read from their (mylotters) discussion that they are in trouble and need some help and we can't do anything to lend a hand. I have a good friend here thu we haven't seen each other in person, but we have a good inter-action. This mylotter is facing a great financial loss but I don't have much extra to give as well. Sometimes we feel how worthless we are when it comes to this :( Have a great day ma'm and take care of your health always
1 person likes this
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Jul 12
oh! so I am not on that list never mind... I need only some good wishes and a di
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Jul 12
hi thesids and jaihoo thanks. I know how hard it is when you have a mylot friend in financial trouble and you just have not got the funds to help him or her.yes it does make me feel worthless at times but we just have to do the best we can. honest thesids if I had some chocos I sure would send them to you. lol
@mikyung (2235)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
I feel the same way too. Putting myself in their shoes makes me really helpless. I wish I could do something to ease the pain. All I can do is pray for that person and give my best heart warming, consoling words. Thanks
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Jul 12
hi mikyung love your avatar so cute wow. yes one does feel helpless and sometimes I wish i could live next door and walk in and give the person a hug, but hey sending mylot prayers does work as often I h ave seen a lot of us send prayers and our prayed for one has recovered and even surprised their doctors too. a combo of a lo of us sending prayers f or an ill person in pain often had really worked.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi hatley, sometimes i wish i am super woman. i know you wish you are one too. have a great day. ann
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 12
hi tigeraunt yes I have often wished that too. but we do do some good and help sometimes just showing that we care.oh hey yeah I am a wonder woman as I have a bionic shoulder joint in my left shoulder.,but unlike wonder woman my bionic part does not work as well as my real right shoulder joint.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I have felt that way too. We share out hopes and dreams, thoughts, and even our troubles here. It is hard not to feel like we "know" each other even though we have never met. I have had friends going through rough times that worried me long after I logged off the computer.
1 person likes this
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
hi JenInTn Yes we open up here and are not afraid as most all of us are helpful and caring too. I also have had some whose discussions showed that they really really did care for me and others. I too have friends whom I wish I had the money to lend them but alas I do not.