I lost all of my expected closed friends...

@mobhomeir (7567)
Philippines
July 16, 2012 11:49pm CST
They never care for us anymore. They never called us and no more communication between them. These all started when we experience paucity in our lives. I admit I owed them a lot especially on financial aspects. I understand them because everyone of us has limitations in every help we can give. Right now none of them left. We decided not to asked and disturbed them for any help we need. We face our problems alone without them who already forgotten us..not ever a call or text. Do you have an experience in your life like this? Any thoughts? Mobhomeir here 071712 1248hrs
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@Raine38 (8909)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I experienced having a falling out with 2 friends over money. I admit that I wasn't able to help them at the time they needed financial assistance, but I was also in no capacity to help out. What little I have is something that even myself will never touch; that time I was working in a foreign country where there's nobody whom I can readily depend on when an extreme emergency happens to me. A few after that, a common close friend of ours divulged that the same friend borrowed money from here and since then, she never heard from her ever again. It was a considerable amount of money that she can easily dismissed back then. But now, she have a need for it. I was only able to help up this friend now to the best of my capability but I really feel sorry for her because had that friend of ours returned her money, she wouldn't need to borrow money. It's sad, and it's hard to judge somebody especially if she's not here to speak for herself. But like, she no longer returns our calls or texts. She also abandoned her Facebook account so all means of getting in touch with her was severed at the moment. It is true that we should be always willing to lend a helping hand to those closest to us; but we have to help ourselves first and foremost.
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@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
I got that friend. But, money is not the main subject here. Obviously a friend who can't afford to lend money because she/he don't have capacity to do it is considerable. The point is a close friend is not only a friend during abundance but must be an all-weathered friend. A shoulder of a friend to lend for you to cry on is already a big help and support being best friends. It has big difference if even by just calling and texting "hello" "hi" or "how are you doing today" is already a encouraging music to the ear of needy friend. Thanks anyway for responding... Mobhomeir here 071812 2110hrs
@Raine38 (8909)
• United States
18 Jul 12
I know, it's different for all of us. I am merely sharing my experience on how I had a falling out with a good friend. Money isn't the only reason why friends stop being friends; in my case, it just happens to be the reason. I have other good friends who tend to be so busy and wrapped up with their own lives sometimes I would only get a message from them like once or twice a month. But we know deep in our hearts that nothing has changed. We're still friends and despite our busy schedules, we will always be there for one another.
@winterose (39932)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
not over financial issues, no. People hear do not tolerate people who do not pay back what they how and it makes bad friends as well.
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@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Yes...and it can't be denied. Friends obviously run to their close friends where they sure an assurance of the help they wanted. And you're right, the problem would be when the borrowing friends can pay back the money or something they've borrowed... Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here 071812 2122hrs
• United States
17 Jul 12
I've lost a lot of my close school friends, but not because I owe them anything. Pure and simple, I was the poor scholarship kid in a rich kid school. They liked me at school, because they didn't know I was any different. When we graduated, and they realized, "Whoa, she can't go shopping with us every weekend and drop $100? I spend more than that on SHOES!" we kind of drifted apart. Now, I've lost a few friends because of circumstances that I can't change. I got pregnant by my boyfriend, and (since I'm unmarried and poor) they drifted away (probably to avoid me asking for money, which I'd never do anyway). Sometimes, friends just decide to drift off. You can chase after them and be disappointed when they cast you off again, or you can just accept it and find new ones.
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@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
That was sad thing my friend am sorry. I guess we have the same fate. Now that we are down financially our close friends before where staying away from us because they think we keep on borrowing money from them.. Now, we started back to square one, we never consider them to be our closed friends because they were keeping us off from them... Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here 071812 2114hrs
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
Dear Martin, I haven't experienced like what you are facing right now. So sad. I lost some of my dear friends not because of the same reason that you have cited here. I lost some of them because they've changed after having a better life. Most of them who works abroad and have a good life are now strangers to me (so bad and so sad) We can never tell who are real friends until bad times comes over. have a great day my dear amigo.
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@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Yes and that's related to mine also. It so happened we became the poorer while all of my friends still at the same level because no one amongst them became rich...they just got tired and feeling bored on us I guess. The best way to find a true friend is when you're at the bottom. It is hard when you create a network of friends in time of your abundance. Thanks for responding my friend.. Mobhomeir here 071812 2100hrs
@rivakwa (56)
19 Jul 12
Life is about maturity,st times you need to let maturity take control.In the issue of life you lose some and you win some.Do not expect your friends to live up to expectations this natural to human beings.My advice to you is you should pray to the almighty God to provide for you and your family, so that you do not depend on anybody.I have a similar experience.But i am moving on with my life,you should do the same.Another thing do not rely on people as they may fail you.Above all know that when you are rich people will relate with you but when the going is rough people will desert you.So never expect people to be perfect and do not let this discourage you from having friends.These are my words of wisdom