I lost all of my expected closed friends...

I experienced having a falling out with 2 friends over money. I admit that I wasn't able to help them at the time they needed financial assistance, but I was also in no capacity to help out. What little I have is something that even myself will never touch; that time I was working in a foreign country where there's nobody whom I can readily depend on when an extreme emergency happens to me. A few after that, a common close friend of ours divulged that the same friend borrowed money from here and since then, she never heard from her ever again. It was a considerable amount of money that she can easily dismissed back then. But now, she have a need for it. I was only able to help up this friend now to the best of my capability but I really feel sorry for her because had that friend of ours returned her money, she wouldn't need to borrow money. It's sad, and it's hard to judge somebody especially if she's not here to speak for herself. But like, she no longer returns our calls or texts. She also abandoned her Facebook account so all means of getting in touch with her was severed at the moment. It is true that we should be always willing to lend a helping hand to those closest to us; but we have to help ourselves first and foremost.

not over financial issues, no. People hear do not tolerate people who do not pay back what they how and it makes bad friends as well.

Life is about maturity,st times you need to let maturity take control.In the issue of life you lose some and you win some.Do not expect your friends to live up to expectations this natural to human beings.My advice to you is you should pray to the almighty God to provide for you and your family, so that you do not depend on anybody.I have a similar experience.But i am moving on with my life,you should do the same.Another thing do not rely on people as they may fail you.Above all know that when you are rich people will relate with you but when the going is rough people will desert you.So never expect people to be perfect and do not let this discourage you from having friends.These are my words of wisdom

I've lost a lot of my close school friends, but not because I owe them anything. Pure and simple, I was the poor scholarship kid in a rich kid school. They liked me at school, because they didn't know I was any different. When we graduated, and they realized, "Whoa, she can't go shopping with us every weekend and drop $100? I spend more than that on SHOES!" we kind of drifted apart. Now, I've lost a few friends because of circumstances that I can't change. I got pregnant by my boyfriend, and (since I'm unmarried and poor) they drifted away (probably to avoid me asking for money, which I'd never do anyway). Sometimes, friends just decide to drift off. You can chase after them and be disappointed when they cast you off again, or you can just accept it and find new ones.

Dear Martin, I haven't experienced like what you are facing right now. So sad. I lost some of my dear friends not because of the same reason that you have cited here. I lost some of them because they've changed after having a better life. Most of them who works abroad and have a good life are now strangers to me (so bad and so sad) We can never tell who are real friends until bad times comes over. have a great day my dear amigo.