Time to love again

Philippines
July 17, 2012 7:21am CST
As they say, we have to move on and forget everything about the past. We shouldn't be trapped from our past and let the sunshine enter into your life after the brokenheart. However, once your heart is broken badly, trusting and loving again is so hard to do. When do you think is the right time to love again?? How would you know if you are ready for a relationship? Is it wrong to love again right after the break up??
8 responses
• Canada
18 Jul 12
That is an good question in fact one that many people have asked for centuries I am sure. I really don't think there is one answer that fits everyone to be honest. Love is always different and if you are fortunate enough to experience it twice then it will be different both times. I would say as a off hand guess to advice that at least a year or more would be needed if you were involved very deeply. Of course this is subject to so many factors like why you broke up? How long were you together? Why? why?? So I know myself from personal experience that I took just over a year before I could fully recover from the loose that I felt from my Ex of almost a decade. But lucky for me the reasons of why we ended made it easy in some ways to forget her. I found love again and somewhat unexpectedly and I would not change a thing. I have myself found the love of my life now and she is a shining example of everything I always wanted:) Plus she all kinds of Asian:) lol To sum it up, give yourself time but always try to keep an open heart and an open mind, because you just never know.
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
we had each other for six years and half. Gosh, I can't imagine if I will be needing six years and half to fully recover from the pain. haha.. Anyways, time heals as you say. I just need time. Time to let this feeling begone! Yet, it is so hard to kee my heart open. I am always in doubt and I have this fear that I will be hurt again.
• Canada
18 Jul 12
Understandable but you will find what you need when you least expect it I am sure. Fear is normal but without it there is no joy in life:)
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 12
There is no right time to love again and it is not wrong to love again right after the break up. But make sure you have no bad intention and sincerely want to love again. Some people after they break up they will find new love just to get revenge. It is not easy to forget the past and I would not suggest you to forget it but use the past experience as your guide to find your new love.(^^)
@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
the right time to love again is the time when you'r ready to be hurt again. Nobody can dictate or even tell you when becuse it's only you who can really tell about yourself. I hope that if you will love againg you're really ready not only for the sake of letting him know that you move on!!! don't forget to be honest with yourseld because you will be the only one who will suffer at the end.
@rashme317 (250)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
the right time to love again is when you are really over with your past relationship ,when you can see yourself with another person rather than your ex. well i can't say that it's wrong to love again right after break up ,but people's mindset tells that she/he is only using the person to mend their broken hearts,
@Bhebelen14 (5206)
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
For me the right time to love again when you learned how to love yourself first more than to anyone else so that you will prepare to face the new consequences that might in counter when you fall in love again. After break up it really hard to know when i am ready for a relationship again but when my heart heals all the wounds and forget all the pain i think that was the day I can say that I am ready for a relationship again. Lastly, I think there is nothing wrong to love again right after the break up as long as you know in yourself that your doing it not to forget all the pain but your doing it because you love the person and you want to be with her/him.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
17 Jul 12
I don't really think you can quantify when is the right time to love again; neither you can tell if by the passing of x number of years, you have fully moved on. Love comes unexpectedly; what we can do is just embrace it when it comes. As for love that has been taken away from us, it's okay to feel sad about it. Every ending deserves it's own sad goodbye. But instead of dwelling on it and being hurt all over again, we can just be thankful instead that loves comes in our hearts, and left us with lessons and memories that we will always cherish. I personally believe that each heartache or heartbreak prepares us to be enable to fully accept and appreciate the right love that is meant to stay with us.
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
hi tess, It will never be easy to forget as the past haunts you Moving on is not easy also cause it's hard to let go of the things you used to For me loving again should happen if you totally accept that not all relationship can be the same. Just make sure your feelings of loving again so you will not ended up having a rebound relationship. happy mylotting
• Philippines
17 Jul 12
I think the right time to have another relationship after the break up is when you know that you have moved on, when you know that the feeling that you had in the past is gone. Having a new relationship is another experience and you try hard that the sad memories in the past won't happen again. Just have faith and take extra care.