Being Spoonfed

United States
July 17, 2012 12:44pm CST
I'm not sure about you guys, but I still find the idea of being spoonfed attractive. I'm getting close to graduating my High school, and while I am happy that I'm getting away from my parents to live on my true life outside of them, I'm still a bit afraid of what's to come. Do you like being spoonfed, or do you like being independent? This question is giving me conflicted emotions and I have no idea how to deal with it :/
4 responses
@ARIES1973 (9441)
• Legaspi, Philippines
17 Jul 12
I am a very independent person. I remember I began working since I was in high school. I work in a radio station as part time news reporter. In fact I work on just about anything just to be able to finish my studies.
• United States
22 Jul 12
Does it worry you at all that you have all these responsibilities at times though? Even at times that I don't have many responsibilities, I still worry about these things, which give me an absolute terror of what may happen and what may not happen.
@ARIES1973 (9441)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 Jul 12
I don't have that thought before. I just want to finish my studies that is why I had to do those things.
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
17 Jul 12
I think being spoonfed is best left to people who are paralyzed and can't pick up their arms. I think the younger you are when you leave your parents, and I mean like 19, 20 and up, the easier it still is to leave your parents and go live on your own. That's a stage of your life when you're wild and feel very independent. HOwever, later in your life you become more emotional and scared and see more value into having had family, and you will not want to leave them anymore. However, if you must leave them, you must. The earlier in your life, the better though.
• United States
22 Jul 12
Is it bad that I'm feeling so worrisome about it right now? I haven't even reached Adulthood, yet I'm worrying about my future, of where I may be in the next ten years and whether I'll be able to qualify as my major and be able to get a job in time since the economy is at its recession; (I'm not trying to sound angry, rather I'm just wondering what I could do to make things simpler.)
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
25 Jul 12
You could go get some exercise in the fresh air outside. Depression is usually a symptom of sitting still, watching a screen, and being a shut-in. Go outside and get your blood circulation going.
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 12
yup. this is really making me in dilemma too. i graduated from uni, and currently searching for job. so far, i haven't work yet, even for part-time work. most of my friend took part-time work or grabs any work that they find while waiting for something proper for our qualification. but i think i get too comfortable at home. well, not like my parent give me pocket money anymore, but i have a place to stay and food when i am hungry. so it seems like i am a good example of spoonfed lover. but sometimes i get jealous over my friend that get to buy new phone, or spent time together, while i just stay at home. well, i think i didn't help you much with my rambling. but thanks for creating a discussion on this.
• United States
22 Jul 12
No Problem; Reading your response, I feel a little bit more worrisome about the things I may have to take care for, but also a bit more independent that I won't have to ask everything from my parents. It's rather annoying you know? Having to ask everything from your parents. I'm not sure if you have that same feeling, but I know that later I'll have to repay them, and I haven't gotten a job yet myself, but it's really starting to bug me, and I'm not sure how to repay them after going to college.
@shaqziad (655)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
Yes, agree. I'm too shy to ask my parent for pocket money, even if they did not say anything. So that is why I try doing online jobs to get some money for broadband, prepaid and such. at home, i help with whatever i can, so that it help ease their work. even if you go to college, it does not mean you'll definitely get a job later. But if you want a good example, be like my friends, they grab the chance of working at fast food joints while waiting for a proper job, even if they have a degree. people say they steal the chance of people with no degree to work, but come on, everybody have a mouth to fed.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
Growing up I was never spoonfed by my parents. They let me explore life as it is. They wanted to instill in us how to be independent even when we were still young. The first test I would say that they gave me was when they allowed me to go to Japan when i was 15 years old along with the kids of his colleagues from a Japanese Scholar Ministry. I was shocked that I was going overseas without my parents with me. It was my first trip abroad and with out my mom! It was one big deal for me. But when the time came, I was so happy coz I feel so free to do things. I have never been afraid to go abroad alone.