Why do I do this?

@allknowing (61980)
India
July 17, 2012 11:05pm CST
Here I am responding to topics and even offering comments on responses posted by those who do not even bother to know whether I still exist here. I wonder why I do this when they ignore me completely. . Any answers?
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19 responses
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jul 12
I think some of us get so involved catching up to our own discussions that its hard to find the time to respond to others too. That is what has been happening to me lately! I have started a few discussions of things that have been going on in my little world and then I cannot get on for some reason and I feel like I have to play catch up so no one thinks I am neglecting them on my discussions. Ugh. Once I catch up a little I will be responding more. So, I requested you as a friend... Just wanted to let you know in case you missed it or something. Lol.
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@allknowing (61980)
• India
19 Jul 12
Those who do not pay much attention to these kind of observations I feel enjoy sites such as these better. It is time for me to do likewise!
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• United States
18 Jul 12
Don't feel so bad allknowing, I respond to many discussions sometimes and then I don't even get a response back or I'm skipped over. Now that's more aggravating to me. Sometimes people have a lot of friends and can only post to so many in a day. I try to keep mine to a minimum actually and try to respond, but sometimes I'm not here for days on end. You're still making your money with your responses whether they know you exist or not. I do understand though how you feel but not everybody will respond.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
19 Jul 12
I was kind of wondering why those whose topics I respond to, do not reciprocate. I have no other qualms here. I am doing fine.
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@sishy7 (27664)
• Australia
18 Jul 12
Yeah, I've been ignored many times here... I just go: "oh ok, I guess my post is not worth to be responded or commented". And sometimes I understand that people have limited time to be here and prefer to only respond or comment to their friend's post. One time, though, I got singled out. All responses above and below me were eventually commented on except mine. And I could not figure out what could the reason be, either. There was nothing offensive with my response. That particular incident did bother me, and until this day I have kept the username in the back of my mind to never ever respond or comment anything on his or her posts.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
I must admit I have had a good share of interaction with many here but was just wondering why some whose topics I respond to never bother to respond to mine!
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@sishy7 (27664)
• Australia
18 Jul 12
I checked back from time to time on that particular discussion, and found that even newer responses and comments were acknowledged while mine remained to be ignored for whatever reasons... At the moment I just prefer to observe and avoid possible confrontration. I'd definitely raise the incident to the user if there is ever a good opportunity. For some reasons I think he/she avoids me too as I have never received responses or comments although we are sometimes responding to same topic started by others. It does sound like I'm holding a grudge against that particular user; but it's all good, I am happy to change if ever I find out that I have no reasons to...
@sishy7 (27664)
• Australia
18 Jul 12
As I mentioned on my original response here, I have no problem with being ignored. But this particular incident just hit me differently because I felt singled out, not just simply ignored. Most probably it was triggered by my response then.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
18 Jul 12
It may seem like ignoring, but believe me, some people really doesn't have so much time for spending online here. When I log in I first read my discussions - the ones I have posted. Answer them and then start searching where I participated to see if anyone answered me. To be honest most of the people doesn't pay attention to answer, or they write something short just to mark that they have read my answer. It's all good, if we really spend all of our time responding to someone who already has our response, our time for writing in new discussions will be so little ... or none. Don't take it personal!
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
I do the same. When I see them hyper active elsewhere and do not come to my territory that is the time I wonder why specially when I religiously respond to their topics. See?
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I'm at number 11 are you ignoring me?
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
18 Jul 12
allknowing, don't feel offend by these people. Look for me when a topic is touching and I have something to say, I do it. When I feel like I have nothing to say about this topic i pass on and find a new discussion where I will feel good to participate, but not only that. When I first started here I felt little awkward, like I have nothing to say, how this people invent so many topics ... But this all changed with the time, I know for myself that I love responding to discussions where I really have something to say, which are discussions for daily topics. There is my power, there I feel comfortable to join. And there I post discussions.
@wittynet (4130)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
How sure are you that we are ignoring you? Most of us are here to earn extra money. Some don't care whether they earn or not as long as they can post what they feel. If in case there are people who don't respond to your posts, don't feel sad. There are still others like me who are ready to respond to your comments no matter what.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
"......no matter what."? I thought my topics were always interesting and thought provoking!
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18 Jul 12
Haha always motivate yourself with the money, but enrich your lifestyle with great content after that is settled. If not, you will be drowned out in a stream of endless addiction and meaningless affliction to your own health.
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@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
Oh really?
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
I don't care if they care if I still exist or not -hehehe. I am here to earn a few dollar for my internet bills etc. Besides, I don't know everyone here as well- just a few and those few are my real friends off-line :p
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
Now, now jaiho you a sentimental sue saying that you don 't care is unbelievable!
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Oh c'mon, I don't know everyone here in mylot (I am referring mylot with this response) I only have few real friends here in real life (offline)
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I do respect your honesty jaiho2009. I will now refer to you as #13276
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I would miss you if I didn't see your name anymore. I think it is difficult to keep up with everyone and everything all the time. What I try to do in Mylot is respond to all my discussions I've started and read as much as I can in discussions I respond into. Not everything I read I respond to so that might be interrupted as ignoring but it isn't, not really. What I have not appreciated reading is how some members have stated that they will actually ignore people and do I suppose. I don't think that is proper. The only time I would purposely ignore someone is something I do not see too much of and you know what that something is. Why express it because those discussions are deleted anyway. Thanks for sharing your thoughts allknowing and please know I do appreciate all your time here. Thanks.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
I have a good track record here and am doing fine. My contention however is that no matter how many topics I respond to of certain users they never bother to respond to mine. My topics are mostly of universal interest and that is why I wonder why they are so indifferent. I suppose it is but natural to feel that way. I am sure there are others too sailing in the same boat.
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I may be one of the boat people. Look I will be brutely honest. In my list of discussions started I have aquired a reasonable number of responses and I am happy about this. The problem is I do see other mylot users that have much more activity in their interaction here and I’ve questioned why this is so. Some topics I think are super and they do deserve the attention while others are not deserving in my opinion, yet, they are so popular. Why? So, I think we can wonder why that is so in a positive way. Why do some members get more attention than others? I tend to just analize these kind of things without emotion with only a purpose in mind to learn something from the research. Do you think we can know the real answer? Sorry, if I do not have a complete answer.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
19 Jul 12
As I have already mentioned here my observation has been about those whose topics I respond to never respond to mine. Most of my topics are of general interest. Reciprocation, I think, should come naturally!.
• India
18 Jul 12
You are here not to show your presence. You are here to respond to a discussion, advice, comment and get responses on your discussions as well. People, as much as I have seen share their problems from every bit of life and this is where mylot is so successful. You come here with an issue and get suggestions from various users, wide range of professionals and experienced minds. You should not bother if someone remembers you or not. Just remain thankful to mylot which has provided you with such a stage. And the bonus part ofcourse is, YOU GET PAID FOR ALL GOOD YOU DO TO THIS SITE. Good luck.
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
We can use the mylot platform in different ways though? It is true, if we are interested in making the bonus only, we can concentrate on being responsive but not so much interactive. I am not sure the question presented in this disscussion has to do with being apprecitive or not. I think it has more to do with personal reflection on the reasons we do what we do. I know for myself I could think less, write less and care less. Not sure I want to though.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
19 Jul 12
@Bluedoll - I have enough on my plate with regard to participation here but my only observation was that, why some of those, whose topics I respond to never respond to mine!
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Don't feel bad and don't make it a big deal. People here in mylot don't usually associate with other mylotters. Take note of that. They are not ignoring you. Anyway, just continue of what you are doing here and keep up the good work. Don't think too much. Focus on what you are doing.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
That is some advice!!
@Bluedoll (17074)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I think what non association means is kissy kissy some might do but others are here just to comment into discussions though huggy huggy yummy yummy people might develop some kind of internet relationship and associate with each other - some people just want to respond to topics and carry on. I think that is what non association means?
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
20 Jul 12
Well, your case seems a somewhat particular. From what I know, nobody here is ignored. At most it could happen (as it has already happened to me) that nobody responds to your discussion. This maybe because the subject matter, does not arouse the interest of any member of Mylot. I still believe that if you wrote some discussion, I'm sure some answers you will receive it. On Mylot, there is room for everyone!
@allknowing (61980)
• India
20 Jul 12
I am doing fine here. I have no other qualms except that I wonder why some of those whose topics I always respond to never do mine. My topics are mostly of a general nature and not knowing what to respond should not really be a problem. I just wanted users' reaction to this and whether there were others who felt the same way and I did find some who did.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Because you are one of the most awesome and active members that I know.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
10 Aug 12
May be I am but I would want those whose posts I respond to, would also respond to mine!
@KrauseHome (34989)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Personally there are many times I will respond back to a discussion that someone else might have started, that is even still on my friends list, and it seems like I never see them respond back in their discussions or post back to any of mine and it does make me wonder. You would think more people would be interested in others here instead of it always being about themselves.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
20 Jul 12
That is exactly what I was trying to say. What makes them look the other way when we take up their topics and they don't!
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@GardenGerty (96817)
• Marion, Kansas
19 Jul 12
You respond because you feel like you have something to contribute. I look at it this way, even if the actual poster does not read my response or acknowledge it there will be others who do and it may help them out if not the one who posted it. I have some people who regularly respond and others who never do even though I respond to at least some of their topics.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
19 Jul 12
When someone responds to my topics regularly I reciprocate and say something there. I don't think there are topics where one will not know how to respond and if they are there, they would be few. Although one should not get bothered by these observations but it is but human to get that feeling. It is best actually to move on as some here have mentioned.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
18 Jul 12
You are a nice person and you should really continue the way you are without changing because they didn't value. But if it's becoming tiresome to you then you should be more picky about the discussions and choose the more fun for you to answer first.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
Most of the topics that I post are of general interest and it is but natural to expect responses from users whose topics I respond to. This is not going to deter me in any way. I will carry on as usual as I have a good track record here of being a vigorous participant but I found this situation rather odd.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
18 Jul 12
Hi there... I have known you for a long time. You're an old myLotter, and so you deserve a lot of respect... Your post, I feel, is kind of personal. Someone's been guilty of not responding your post. I'm sure the post was very valuable.... My friend, give it time. Sometimes, people're occupied with other things and they don't get time to log in on myLot... They'll reply.. Sometimes, one writes crazy things & then don't feel like responding afterwards, because they feel, they shouldn't have written at all... MyLot is a huge website & there're a quarter million members. I've been here for 6 years and have learned to be patient...
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
Am I the only one who feels this way? I have to mature, it seems to me!
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
18 Jul 12
that is because you keep following up and the interest and desire in you keeps you to go higher and engrossed.so you are trying to be a active member.i dont think anything is wrong in it.good way to move higher and keep participating.that is actually a strong and effective gesture for all topics and discussion responses. If you keep doing this,it will automatically make people notice and respond well in the future if not now for sure. So keep up the good work always
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
Looking at the emoticons that you have displayed it looks like a tongue in cheek advice!
@else22 (4319)
• India
18 Jul 12
How do you know people ignore you?I myself have responded to many of your discussions.I never feel so.Recently I had started a discussion and till now it has attracted only 4 responses.Should I start thinking that those who have not responded to it- and they include even most of friends on Mylot- are ignoring me?They must have their own reasons.I too have not responded many of their posts.I have joined Mylot to respond to and initiate discussions and that is what I have been doing ever since I have joined the site.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
I do get responses to my topics. There are a few here however whose topics I respond to but they never respond to mine! Just wondering....
@nijolechu (1845)
• Canada
18 Jul 12
I am not very good at making up discussion topics on here on Mylot. If I was better at thinking up discussions then I would be able to get responses on my discussion topics. So I guess I would be happy to even get one reply to any of my discussion topics. I think the only advice I could give is to think up a discussion that appeals to other Mylot members to reply to.
@allknowing (61980)
• India
18 Jul 12
I really thought this situation applied to many here. Strange that others do not feel the way I do. As far as getting responses to topics posted by me - that is not the issue here.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
In what way you are ignoring by words or what? Or by not responding your discusion, if it say soo - it is normal it means your topic is not like to response. Give us more details about your problem here..