I really miss the kids

@dorannmwin (36698)
United States
July 17, 2012 11:46pm CST
Okay, you all know that I had emergency temporary custody of my friend's three children while she was in jail and until we were able to get in touch with her ex-husband to keep the kids. I had them for a week and a half before I was able to get in touch with Boo. Well, when he came to get the kids, he assured me that I would be able to call and talk to them whenever I wanted to and that they would be able to come up and stay with us on weekends. Today I really wanted to see them after court went not the way that I had hoped that it would for their mother and I tried to call him. He still does not have minutes on his phone. So, I called the children's uncle that has been friends with Boo since they were both teenagers. He wasn't able to get a hold of Boo either and doesn't want to take me to his house until he has talked to Boo to make sure that it is okay. I understand their uncle's rationale for this because I wouldn't want to possibly be at the center of any kind of trouble. There wouldn't be any, but sometimes you just never know and it is better to be safe than sorry. The thing that is really difficult for me is the fact that all of their stuff is here and it just breaks my heart when I go to fold something up that belongs to them or to see their toys because I know that they aren't here right now and I cannot even talk to them. I did have their grandmother's number given to me, but wouldn't you know that I accidentally threw away the piece of paper I had written it on when I cleaned up my desk. I sure hope that their Uncle Donnie is able to talk to Boo soon so that either Donnie will be able to tell me where Boo is staying or so that he could take me to their house. You see, just after the kids got up here for summer break, Boo had to move from the trailer that he was renting because it got foreclosed on.
6 responses
@ShyBear88 (17420)
• United States
20 Jul 12
I hope you hear soon of where they are at. I know you must be always a bit worried to not know or have seen or heard from them. It shows you do really care for them and that your trying your hardest to make sure they are okay and happy.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
21 Jul 12
Well, their uncle was able to get in touch with them for me, so I know that they are okay. However, I am also quite hurt by the fact that their "father" told their uncle that I was not allowed to see the children because I didn't want him to take them when he came and picked them up. Of course the reason that I didn't want him to take them is because of the fact that I had temporary emergency custody of them and because of the fact that social services was involved in the case and I didn't want to make any mistakes that could have resulted in my own two children being taken away from me. However, at least I know that they are safe and I will still be buying a birthday gift for Rayne, who is going to be seven years old in three weeks and I will give her the gift as soon as her mother is home.
@ShyBear88 (17420)
• United States
23 Jul 12
That is good they are okay. I understand not wanting your own kids being taken away. With temporary custody it's always good to ask social service how you can and can't leave kids with. Of course I've never been in this spot so I wouldn't know what the course of action would be. That is very nice of you to get her a gift and that her mom should be home soon. I bet they are all missing there mom very much especially if there day hasn't been there much for them in past it might be hard for them to live with him for two long.
@much2say (39107)
• United States
20 Jul 12
Wow. You have a generous heart for taking in your friend's kids. Sounds like the parents are in a big mess! I can understand your concerns - especially since the responsibility was given to you to take care of these three kids. I know it's especially hard because there is no way to communicate with them (which sounds rather odd to me . . . their father, I would think, should be keeping in contact with you as he knows you were asked to take care of them). But it's good you can talk to other family members of your friend - I hope someone can help you out in locating them soon too. Where is your friend (the mom) now - is she out of jail now?
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
21 Jul 12
She is actually still in jail right now, she had the hearing for her probation violation on Tuesday, but the judge will not be deciding whether or not to keep her to serve out her sentence next month. It really is such a long time to have to wait. Their uncle did get to talk to them the other day and their "father" told him that I need not try to see the kids because of the fact that I was trying to keep his children from him. This isn't what I was doing at all, however, I was trying to do what I was ordered to do through social services so that I would not be putting my own children in jeopardy.
@bunnybon7 (36410)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Jul 12
oh my. i just wish they had left you keep the kids a while longer till one of the parents got their mess straight. at this rate they could end up in foster care. Both parents seem to have issues right now. i did the same when i was younger id get attached to kids id take for a while when friends or family needed help for a while. then suffer thu loosing them. hope you get to see them soon.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I think it is the fact that I know that the kids are not living in a place that is even really their home that does bother me. At least when they were here, I knew that they did consider this to be home. I love them and showed them the same love that I show my own children. In addition to that, they all have a space that is theirs in my house, even though they all share bedrooms here.
@audrey7 (234)
• Jamaica
18 Jul 12
Hi Dorannmwin, Before I respond to your issue I want to thank you for your friendship and this is evident as your post comes regularly in my email. This is a gentle reminder for me to respond and at the same time it speaks to friendship. I understand your concerns especially with what is happening today. You have done the right thing. I am especially glad that you have got in contact with other relatives, as this is a means of 'helping him to be accountable'. In another words that he will refrain from doing any ill to the children because he realizes that he is being watched. However, there is hope. Prayer is always a method of reaching out to God for Him to protect, guide and deliver. God is watching and he is a on time God. I also thank God that you were present to give a helping hand. Please continue to find a telephone contact if impossible go to the police so that a contact can be made with the children. For safety measure tell the officers your fears and tell them not to disclose who asked them to check the father so that he will not hold 'ought' against you. Hold on to your faith.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I really don't think that he will do anything to intentionally hurt the children. I also know that there is the chance that something can happen to them accidentally and that is one of the things that worries me. The other thing that worries me is that I do have half responsibility of them right now and I'm not doing my part when I cannot even talk to them.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
18 Jul 12
dorannmwin this sort of bad feeling will be there for a few days. when guests go away from our house -- it will remain as empty--thereafter you will get to your routine --taking care of your kids etc and you may forget about it. Keep their toys , things separately stored in a corner of your house.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Jul 12
What I've been trying to do with their things is to put them in our luggage that we don't use very often because I don't have to look at it all the time in there and it is also a safe place to store their things since they don't have a dresser here yet.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
I hope the kids are okay whenever they are staying and I hope you will talk to Boo soon. I do understand your concern about your friends kids you friend trusted you to looked after her children.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I hope and pray that they are all three safe and sound. I just really hate the fact that I am not able to keep in touch with them the way that I assured their mother that I would do.