Why do people hurt each other?

@ajithlal (14716)
India
July 19, 2012 1:09am CST
Sometimes I have seen some people are trying to be very aggressive trying to hurt each other words and sometimes I have come across people who try to be better than me by humiliating, hurting, and teasing with words. I wonder what is the problem with them. Even we behave respectively or try to avoid them, they still try to do the same thing. Is it a psychological problem of teasing and hurting others with words? Have you ever come across such a situation.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
19 Jul 12
Well, in one person there are always 2 sides: good and bad. They do like than when their bad side is bigger. Better we should avoid them as much as we can...
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jul 12
I also think that the good and the bad are both in the same person and in all humans. I think when bad side gets better we should try to avoid it. Like Jesus had said hate the sin and not the sinners and we should try to avoid the bad things and also try to avoid the bad things being happening again.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
21 Jul 12
i agree with you too..but many people are not in control to make their bad side hidden..We just hope...
• India
31 Mar 13
I think people they do that just for feeling jealous on feeling of what is less in their life... or for why they can not be like you or ..so some people are mental and enjoy with that.. and some, as another behave like that with them and they could not revenge on that one, when they find a simple one, they attack to hurt his or her feeling... finally it is all about ignorance that we try to hurt each other... otherwise there is not need for that, if we come to know why we are here. there are some people that we have to be dump and deaf on their ignorance just to make them passes away from our life...
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
31 Mar 13
I also think that most times it might be couple of minutes these people be in our live and our life is too big to notice these type of reactions.
@webzap (884)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
These people are either stressed or have some attitude problems. Usually, a simple joke that their friends tells them, they reacts negatively. When I come across with these kind of friends, I would excuse myself and walk away from him, for if not, I will be the one to suffer stress later on.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
22 Jul 12
I also think most probably stress and attitude place in the behavior of people.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
19 Jul 12
This is done by people for control of others, thus making themselves feel important. What is missed here is the fact that we are all the same energy and by destroying one we rob ourselves. Blessings
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jul 12
I also think that some people thinks that they need to control others in their life to become happy and I think no matter how hard one hurt others, they will never get happiness in life.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
There are rude people who satisfy their selves with bullying or being mean to others. Their day is not complete when they can't hurt others emotionally or physically. Some are sick and some are indeed crazy -or mentally disturbed whatsoever.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jul 12
I also think that there might be people who like bullying others and most probably this type of things should be stopped and not allowed to be done.
@siekcai (50)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 12
I just know that is a natural for a stronger people who abuse weak people. It is law of nature. You can not avoid him, You can not respect him, that is useless. What you should do is to face him. You should fight him. If you are never fight before, it is better you learn martial art first. After you learn about 3 month you can challenge him for a fight. If you defeat him for sure you will get the respect. If you lose you can learn again to challenge him again. I told you this because i abused too when i was child, and this is what i do to get respect. A man who have respect is a man who accept every challenge he faces.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jul 12
I also think it is the nature of the stronger people to abuse the weaker people. I think some people wanted to show their strength by hurting others. I hope everyone live peacefully in this beautiful world.
@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Often they feel inferior and then they try to prove they are superior by trying to make you seem or feel small. Do not let them diminish you.
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@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
19 Jul 12
Yes, often. I relented and then avoid them. I had to abort their efforts, to make me unhappy.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Jul 12
I also think it is better to avoid such situation from happening and to avoid such people in the future. I had concern previously that should I avoid such people and just smile and walk away from the situation or person or talk back to them.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Jul 12
I honestly believe that the reason that people have the tendency to hurt other people is because of the fact that there is something that is hurting them. Thus, they start to hurt other people as a way of coping with the pain that they are dealing with in their lives. I don't think that this is the right way to behave at all, but I feel there are a lot of things that people do that isn't really the right way to deal with situations in our lives.
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• Philippines
19 Jul 12
The main problem in the world actually lies on attitude of people toward other people. Other problems can be easily settled but his one is really hard to. I used to encounter fellows with such attitudes. As my defense mechanism, I make myself hurt-proof so they would get tire to tease or hurt me with their words without me showing them that I got hurt. I just ignore them. I do not really react at all to what they are saying. I do not have a business to answer them in their folly. Otherwise, I will just become same as them. I guess, these people greatly need more understanding. They might just be that way because they might had experienced same things in the past or at present.
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@succeednow (1633)
• Singapore
19 Jul 12
Hi ajithlal, It takes all sorts to make up this world. Some people are born this way and some developed their ugly behaviour as they experience the real world. However, I think there is no excuse for behaving badly since everyone (well, almost everyone) of us is born with a thinking brain and should be able to discern between the good and the bad. But some just simply refuses to change. The best thing to do is to avoid them or else you'll find yourself in an ugly situation as well. Just my thoughts.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Jul 12
I also wonder why people hurt each other while they can live happily in life. I think it is better to love others and live happily rather than hurt others and live sadly in life.
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
19 Jul 12
Some of them, they did it unwittingly or that they have the impression that they are just clowning. There are also some who behave such a way to hide the inferior complex. And some, they are just plain aggressive. Either way, it does not give them any reason to treat others as such. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
hi, many people now a days are very aggressive,and they hurt people buy words or even physically,hurting each other because of money and even because of man,bad words exchanging really hurt each other and more painful rather than physical hurts.
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@FluxNL (503)
• Netherlands
19 Jul 12
I think it is just our nature. We got a thing in our body which wants power and pride. The only way we can gain this feeling is by hurting other people, It is kinda sad, but it is just us. We must live with it, because we can't live without it if you ask me. Everyone is doing it. The greatest 'losers' are doing it too, because they also wanted to feel great and powerful. I lived whole my life with such situations, I have been bullied and stuff, but now I know it was because the bulliers are weak and things. Iam stronger now and I will fight for my right! (:
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• Mexico
20 Jul 12
Hi ajithail: I feel that this kind of violenced is used by some people when they actually feel insecure so they feel they have to put someone down to feel themselves better and stronger. It's a bad attitude and this shouldn't happen but some people take these reactions ALVARO