When Your Relative is Recording Your Phone Conversatiio, Would You Stay?

@Muelitz (1592)
Canada
July 19, 2012 10:13am CST
I was living with a relative for a year when I found out that he was recording phone conversations. For some reason my relative does not seem to trust me because when he left the house one night to attend a party, he set-up the phone recorder to record phone incoming and outgoing calls. I have done nothing wrong to him and I am not sure until now why he did that. I found out about it through a close friend of his who thought what he did was not fair for me. I moved out of the house because of that. Even though we have no quarrels, thinking of what he did to me made me uneasy. If you were in my shoe, would you have confronted your relative or take the same action that I did which is to move out.
9 responses
• United States
19 Jul 12
I would have been mad if people were recording my phone calls, Its none of there business what i talk about to other people.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
Everyone would like privacy right? Thanks for the input!
• United States
19 Jul 12
Yeah, your welcome :)
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Well I would have moved out for sure...However I would not have been satified until I confronted him as to why he did that..unless he was just trying to record someone else calling his home...But then that wouldn't have worked either, because regardless what the reason was, why not share it with you,,which says to me it had something to do with you.. I would have moved because now I don't trust him since he can be so iniquitous...
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
Exactly what I felt. That is why my instict told me to get out of there. Thanks for the input
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Awww man, that's just too low! Sheesh he's too paranoid, probably because he created his own ghost. Anyway, if I were you, I will also leave and I will also let him know that I'm aware of what he did and how it hurts me. But not thru confrontation. I will enlist a help of a friend to make a call during the time he set the recorder on. The conversation should go something like my friend confirming if I will indeed push thru with leaving. I will say yes because I found out that he records my phone conversations even though I've done nothing wrong nor anything to question their trust in me. And that I'm deeply offended and deeply hurt and...well you get the picture, basically try the guil trip thing on him as well. But I'll make sure that indeed by tomorrow I'm gone. :)
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
It is too late for that plan. I have left the house already. Thanks for the input.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
19 Jul 12
muelitz Trust begets Trust . Distrust begets distrust. Whether I will bear this behavior of a friend -- depends on am I dependent on him or not-- if i am dependent then i may tolerate. if i can come out and live separately then i will not tolerate. It is good to be away from such people and there is no fun in discussing these with such people.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
I could have saved money if I stayed, however, feeling not trusted by my relative made me think it is better to lose money than save and live in the same house and harbor distrust. Thanks for the input Ravisivan
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Just ask him politely. He must sure have his (personal) reasons, but whatever they may be, it is creating further distrust. Maybe he heard a bad rumor about you, but this must be settled. If he is just paranoid, let him be. But for your sake, try to know the real reason.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
19 Jul 12
My relative is the quiet type and I do not see him as an approachable one. The only reason I went to live with him is because of my mom who is his sister. Maybe in the future I could ask him but definitely not now. Thanks for your input!
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
That's eavesdropping and eavesdropping is illegal and unprofessional. You did the right thing in moving out and live your own, and friction won't be turned to boiling point.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
20 Jul 12
I seem to recall reading somewhere that Making a Recording of a phone conversation without at least one of the participants being aware of it being done is an illegal procedure...at the very least,it's a violation of trust.You were right to leave,but I'd also be wanting to know why this relative felt he had to eavesdrop on you..
• United States
19 Jul 12
I would have confronted him and pressed charges for violation of privacy. He found out all your personal business and he was wrong. not only that I would never step foot back in his house for any reason.
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
I guess that there are something happened in the past that makes them distrust you or they might heard something about you that makes them decide to record your phone conversations. However, it is a good move that you transfered into other house. If I will be n your position. I just transfered to another house too. When I got the courage to talk to them, I will just tell them the reason why I transfered and I will asked them too what are the reason why they do that recording.