adding an ex is a big no! no!

Philippines
July 20, 2012 9:13am CST
hi mylotters, Ex is an ex it means he/she is just from your past that did not make it to the future It's a small world after all right? specially now a days that you can even easily find someone through social networking site such as facebook, tagged etc. And even old age or a baby can have an account in social networking site. Personally I don't mind adding my ex to my facebook account it's just I am not comfortable adding him cause of his live in partner who is a jealous cat ever I don't want any trouble specially on my wall I know even I don't do anything with her or with my ex probably she will think something which I hate to happen If ever your Ex will add you what will you do? happy mylotting
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19 responses
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
20 Jul 12
hi bhaby. actually, i have a few ex's on facebook. i even ex-girlfriends, ex-wife, ex-boss, ex-coworkers, and other former enemies. lol
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi neil, I really don't add ex on my facebook account even an EX FRIEND I thought ex wives kisses for zay and ate patty happy mylotting
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
30 Jul 12
i only have one ex-wife and one wife as of the present.
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
are sure?
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
I won't mind adding an ex- like ex-terminator ex-tra ex-pert
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 12
Correct!!
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi jai, Oh yeah!you really don't mind adding them even your EX- Gorills love yah
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
20 Jul 12
Seems to me that your situation is based on that jealous cat. I have been that jealous cat and I have also been in your shoes. If only I could add both situations and divide by two so I would be able to find middle ground. Right then, you cant simply walk around eggshells all the time even if you do respect the jealous cat. I would approve him if he adds me but if any flirtation signs come from him or if you two start some secret back to back poke war( also a form of flirting.LOL ), I would remove him right then and there because it is not fair to that jealous cat and why would you entertain an unfaithful person like him. If however nothing is wrong and everything is on the plutonic stage, great.From here if the jealous cat and him fight, then you dont have anything to feel guilty about unless it guts you straight at your moral conscience then yes remove him. If you approve him and everything is plutonic but suddenly she's all up in your business telling you to back-off, it is really up to you whether you want to though I suggest not fighting back but sooner or later she will have to grow out of her insecurities At the end of the day its just you and your present. If you are in a committed relationship, having someone on skype or facebook or even following someone on twitter, trust and communication plays a bigger role. I do get crazy jealous I admit, I believe I am capable of hunting that girl down if she even so posts on my beaus wall. Adding an ex isnt a dealbreaker , how you react afterwards is. If his ex posts on his wall or if my ex would post on my wall, it used to be a big deal because both of us have serious trust issues, now, not so much, if its good, you'll find a way.
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi daniella, Actually it is really fine if we are friends on facebook but I am worried that his live in partner will think something else I don't want to drag myself into this kind of jealousy issue if ever. I moved on long time ago and I am sure with myself that there are no feelings anymore. thanks for the response welcome to mylot
21 Jul 12
Thinking about it now I guess the safest play to the NO-NO drama policy is definitely not approving him from the beginning. If the jealous cat turns evolves into a super-jealous lion, well , by not approving will save you from a whole lot of Jersey Shore antics. If you dont feel comfortable 100% then don't do it. Listen to your heart!
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
20 Jul 12
I accepted his friend request. (I only have two exes, and the other one has past on). I don't really mind because our separation is on good terms; no hurt feelings, no unfinished business left. Besides we're both happily married. We never talk though. But I suspect that the reason why he added me up is because he wants to see how I've been since he's the first one who got married. That's why despite we're friends on facebook, I restricted him so he will only see certain photos and parts of my wall. I did check out his wall one time and it has never happened again. I'm not friends with his wife though but I'm pretty sure she knows about me and we're both cool with it.
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi raine, If there is no jealous cat or dog that will be fine adding him is not big deal for me it's just that his partner is jealous one so I rather not to be on his list. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
21 Jul 12
Well, you did the right thing. Better leave them be. Because I know from experience that no amount of assurance from your part will ever stop the insecurities of a jealous ex's gf. It's a matter between them but it seems if you did let him in your life, even if it's just on Facebook, then I think you can kiss your peace goodbye. :)
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
As what you mentioned past is past. Also, to avoid trouble on both parties in the long run.
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
hi jenith, Yeah so that's why will not make him any chance to add me there as I know things will be complicated. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I don't add/accept my ex too well its depends also how much you annoyed and how much you been hurt to them, for my ex that i am not really comfortable i never accept them, but for my ex which we had good ending of breakup and now we are friends all ready, its okay as long as he is okay too with our friendly relationship.
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
hi abi, Oh well it depends on case to case basis there are ex who does not deserve to be in our list. thanks for the response happy mylotting
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
I've added my ex-boyfriends, as well as former suitors, on Facebook. It's not a problem, really.
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
hi msd, Well if there is no problem that will be fine but in my case it can create problems. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@Mashnn (4503)
22 Jul 12
It all depends on what type of person your ex was. There are those that you can invite and will start posting nasty things about you on Facebook. You just have to know the type of ex that can you can invite and one that you should avoid.
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi Mashnn, I know that this ex of mine won't do anything harmful on me but his live in partner can so I don't like the idea being on his list. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Hi my dear friend! Well,it depends on the ex,hehe! I have this ex,my first love,whom I really can't accept as a friend on fb since my hubby will surely get jealous,haha! He was even jealous with one of my ex that is already a friend on fb,haha! But we are both married now so no malice for me. Can't blame my husband 'cause if he will accept a friend request from his ex too,I will really get jealous,haha!
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi mtr, Hahaha!sometimes even how much we trust our partner we can't avoid to be a jealous one maybe this is just natural. thanks for the response kisses to crystal happy mylotting
@shibham (17025)
• India
22 Jul 12
Hi bhaby... I appreciate your way of thinking. It is a wise decision not to add your ex on your list. past is always past and sometimes if we welcome past to present, it can create problems a lot. So nice decision. I have no ex, so no chance. Have a nice time.
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi shiby, I thought you don't want me to add my ex there for some reason No EX????/ what about those EX-chaser you had before happy mylotting
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
21 Jul 12
some of them is my facebook friends.. sometimes with watching their pictures with their couples, it make me jealous..but i think i must be patient..God had created the life like that..
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi adhyz, If you still hold on the past you will get hurt just by seeing their pictures together. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
Well, yes you are right. Adding an ex is not advisable especially if he has a new life with his new partner or family. And you are correct that once we said ex its a past. Let them be create their new image and face all new. The past will be his hidden background.. In that case there will always peace within both parties.. In my case I will do the same I will not add so I can't remember those sad moments of our past. Have a nice day :)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi mods, Nice to see you here We both have a new life now so I think they are just curious to see how I am doing now a days. thanks for the response happy mylotting
• United States
20 Jul 12
My man is not a friend of mine on my facebook. But,myex is married with kids and he is on my facebook. she has no idea who I am or that weever had a past. he messages meand I often respond back. this is about once or twicea year. he moved to jamaica with her so there would be no reason for her to worry about me.
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi GAB, Well it is good that there is no complications on your side thanks for the response happy mylotting
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
If you had Facebook during or before you got into a relationship with your ex, then there's no need to add him/her unless you have blocked or removed them. But, if you were never FB friends and now you suddenly got an invitation, then I guess its up to you if you want them to know your activities and shoutouts. And, it also depends on whether or not it will complicate your present situation. If it won't do any harm to your present life, like noone would get jealous, or you won't be disturbed by it, then go and add them up. For me, I don't mind having my exs present on my FB list, except for one. This one guy, whom I had a bad break up with some 10 years ago, can never set foot on my social network. He once sent an invite, but I ignored it, and he didn't insist, anyway.
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
hi jureathome, My Ex is not someone who interested in this kind of stuff so probably his live in partner is the one who made it. I don't have the plan to be on his list. thanks for the response happy mylotting
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 12
Hi sis!! I don't share private stuff in facebook nor I am active in that site so no matter they are my enemies or friends I will always welcome them if they want to add me.(^^) But to avoid things get worse, if you afraid that might happen then don't add him in your account, okay?(^^)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi CTHanum, I am much active on this site actually jai is teasing me for being active there . I don't want to add him really I think that will be a bad idea thanks for the response nice to see you here again happy mylotting
• India
20 Jul 12
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in adding ex with our social site accounts, by this way we will get frequent updates from them and know about their present stage. It is really hard to forget our lover, if our love is a real and sincere one. Sad to know about your ex's gf, but most of the girls are in this sort. I don't have any ex in my life, but i have some good girls as my friends, if they add me in their account, i will be happy for sure
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi vp, Then that's good nothing to worry thanks for the response happy mylotting
• United States
20 Jul 12
Yeah, having an ex on Facebook is always a bad idea...when a guy and I broke up he started saying bad things about me on there, I had to report him. It was childish and stupid on his part.
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi SGR, That's sad I hate when people using social networking site just to get hurt someone That was really a childish act thanks for the response happy mylotting
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
Fortunately I don't have an ex to worry about. As you have said, I can see no problem adding an ex to the friend list in Facebook unless there's a good reason not to. I guess your reason is just good enough to stay away from the idea. Some people wouldn't want to add their ex because the hurting is still there and they don't want to be reminded by the person who is probably the main reason for it. As for me, I'm just happy not having to worry about this stuff.
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi choybel, Lucky you then nothing to worry I think it's not about the hurting it's about more on curiosity thanks for the response happy mylotting
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
20 Jul 12
Well we had this situation with my boyfriend. He removed his ex girl of skype and she started bothering him in Facebook. I was so so mad, I guess I was jealous at that time. It was when we started our relationship and I felt insecure if my boyfriend really has feelings for me. Now I wouldn't mind. But at that time I was very mad she contacts him all the time, like they have some big deal to discuss.
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi suggar, Well if I am the girlfriend and confident enough there is nothing wrong talking with his ex unless his ex can't move on I will not like it thanks for the response happy mylotting