Does FIRST LOVE really NEVER DIE???

July 20, 2012 9:13am CST
My first relationship reached 8 years and 2 months before it officially ended up. He was my first boyfriend, my first romance. We were high school lovers. I still don't have a new boyfriend after him. The thing that scares me is that I might find it hard to find someone new, because I might look for someone like him. I think he will remain a very special person for me forever. I think there will be no day that I will not think of him. I think my love for him will remain for the rest of my life. I think I could never get over him. I think I will always care for him. I think I will always love him. Though I'm moving on with my life.
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11 responses
• United States
20 Jul 12
Why did you guys decide to end the realtionship? I hope nothing seriously happened in a bad way. I do know its a hard thing to get over, i still remember mine and at time i do thing about it but i have had several boyfriends since then and now im happy with who i am and i have learned from my mistakes and there are things you look for in a person and i hope you can find the right person to marry one day. Happy Mylotting.
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21 Jul 12
Thank you! Actually he's the one who ended our relationship, because he found someone else and I respect his decision.
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@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
22 Jul 12
in that case. stop thinking about him. it can't be love if you loved him more than he loved you. he is probably breaking someone's heart right now. be thankful.
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22 Jul 12
Ouchhhhh...i feel what u feel itsmechelle.my first boyfriend he is also the one who ended relationship and we have the same reason.maybe he is not the right one for you there is more better than him.just always remember that God will never leave you empty because He will replace something you have lost if He ask you to put something down it is because He wants you to pick something GREAT.
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@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
If it does not die, then it first love. first is so memorable we cant forget about it.
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22 Jul 12
from my experience and from seeing my friends go through it as well,you will never truly forget your first love.You will love other in a different way,maybe it won't seem like you ever love anyone quite as much as your first,but I think it is just because it was your first.It ended for a reason and you probably learned a lot from it and the first love will always be in the back of your mind.You will be able to move on and you are madly in love with someone else you will not think about your first as often and you will be thankful..
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22 Jul 12
I really do hope that I will find someone else whom I will love more than my first love.
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@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Sooner you will experience this so called First Love, then there is Endless Love, Unforgiving Love, Mutual Loving, and many other types of Loves..,, @itsmechelle dont worry though, if you can find your guy i will be more than willing to take His Place. ( Welcome to My Lot )
@Axai2012 (371)
28 Jul 12
Hmmm. I think its a case to case basis. like for someone like you who's been with your ex boyfriend for quite a while. We tend to compare the next guy to the previous which makes it difficult to move on. Eight years, wow, I don't think you will ever forget that but I really hope you will find the right guy for you. You're young and there are a lot of things ahead of you. So good luck!
28 Jul 12
Thanks! Anyway, I have already accept the fact that I could never forget him. It's a thought that scares me, but it's the reality.
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@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
I hope you are feeling better now itsmechelle. I really do not know what is so special about our first love but I have experience that I can't seem to forget the first man I have loved. We were classmates in high school and I am so in love with him that time. But I was too young then and although he knew that I have feeling for him, our relationship remained as friends. I have been in a relationship with other guy for the past years but yes, I still have not forget about him. I even looked for him in some social networking sites and would always try to bridge communication between us. I felt like wherever I go and whoever I am with, he would always be a part of me and will always be. But I have stopped thinking and longing for this guy when I met my husband. I also hope that in the near future, you would find this one true love of yours and would help you move on with your life.
22 Jul 12
Somehow I feel better, although at times I'm struggling with the pain whenever memories hunt me. I really hope that I will find someone whom I will share true love with. Thank you Paper_Doll!
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@babyanna (1217)
• China
31 Jul 12
Hi,itsmechelle~ Wow,8 years and 2 months. I remember my first relationship lasted for a year and it took me six years to recover. It was puppy love. And sometimes I look back and wonder: Was it really love? Did I really know what love is when I was that young? But either way, I know I went crazy about him once and he broke my heart.We still contact each other now, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like if we are together again.But I always shake that thought away because I know we have both changed growing up. But the truth is, after six years, after all these things happening in my life, I still think about him. It is impossible to ever forget your first love. And yeah,you will always have a place for him in your heart. Sometimes you even compare your new love with your first. These things happen. There is nothing wrong with looking for someone like him. Because he once made you comfortable and you know he is the type of guys you would like. But just like you said, life goes on. One day, you will find a guy who loves you. He may be like your first love, he may be not. If he is, don't confuse him with your first love,'cause that would be unfair to him.If he isn't,don't say no to him just because you're reluctant to let him inside your heart. It's over,and deep down you know that too. It kills to admit it, but there won't be anything you could do to change that fact. So don't drive a good guy away just because you still want to cling to the past. Hope you strong and well~
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• Philippines
25 Jul 12
aawwwww, that's sad but i am so glad you don't keep any baggage with you about the break up. i could sense that you're maintaining a good relationship with him, because you still love him, besides the fact that he's the one who breaks up with you for another girl. i admire you for that. as for your question if does first love never really die, i think as you move on and get's mature, the romantic feelings will just cease and all that you'll have will be the good memories of you both. it will take time before you'll be able to stop yourself from comparing him to your suitors/admirers, but someday you will. i wish you godd luck and have a happy love life ahead!all things happen for a reason, you deserve someone better!
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@leighz (457)
23 Jul 12
That's really sad. Well since you reached 8 years that's definitely hard to forget, but for others it may be a different story. If you really want to move on, stop comparing the next guy you date with your ex. You have to accept that things are different now, from the sound of it you are still not willing to let go. That is probably why they say it's better to treat your ex as an acquaintance rather than a close friend, if you don't want to complicate things.
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@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
22 Jul 12
it is hard to say. i know someone who is trying to rekindle a relationship with their firs love and it did not end up that well. the found out that they should have left better off alone. the exception is when you have a first relationship with someone and never break up with them....okay, that's different. it's also rare. what broke you up the first time?
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@czhey21 (55)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
Well i dont know just about first love. But i think that if you really love someone then you will never stop loving them. You may not have a strong connection as you did before but I think there will always be a part of you that cares enough to have love.
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@gmkumar08 (396)
• India
23 Aug 12
You are right,my dear friend.I too believe that it's not possible to completely forget our first love.We just think that we did.I too thought the same,but,i always end up in her memories.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
23 Aug 12
Yes I heard about "FIRST LOVE really NEVER DIE" . I n my life never had any romance . So I couldn't say deeply about it .